00:00The amount we earn does not change the roles and responsibilities God has given,
00:07because that role is divinely assigned, not on the basis of how much you earn or your salary.
00:23Hello, greetings, people of God.
00:26Mine is more of a request than a question, but it also falls under the questions.
00:33Concerning your message today, when you were teaching about the issue of money,
00:40that our money becomes one as a couple or as a family.
00:46And then my request is that may you advise us in a situation where the wife is earning more money
00:57than the husband,
00:59in terms of submission and the respect,
01:04like sometimes it's complicated when the wife is providing more financial,
01:13because it seems respect is earned according to how much you provide as a husband financial in today's world.
01:23So that is my request, that you advise us in such a situation.
01:29Okay. Can I ask you, brother, where is your wife?
01:33Oh, my wife is in Europe and I'm in South Africa.
01:38She's in the UK.
01:40Look, the answer is very direct, which is the amount we earn does not change the roles and responsibilities God
01:51has given,
01:52because that role is divinely assigned, not on the basis of how much you earn or your salary.
02:00So what you are saying is that when there's a situation where, in this case, a wife earns more than
02:09a husband,
02:10there can be a temptation to attach the amount you earn to the respect you give.
02:20And that is not a biblical approach.
02:24That is, quite frankly, wrong.
02:27As I said earlier, the amount you earn is not the key issue,
02:32because it's not what you earn, it's about what we have as a husband and wife.
02:39The fact that she is currently in another country means that the likelihood of what she earns becoming more than
02:51you is intensified,
02:52because every country has different standards of living,
02:56and every country may have different wage structures, etc.
03:02So the answer, brother, is very simple.
03:06We submit to the principles of God's word, not to the earning power of our incomes.
03:14We know that there may sometimes be circumstances that lead to one party in the marriage being in another country
03:24and being separated,
03:25but that is not a solution I would encourage as a long-term strategy.
03:30I don't know your own plans, whether she will be coming back to South Africa or you are planning to
03:36go and meet her in the UK,
03:37but in terms of the follow-up to this, how you can navigate this journey ahead,
03:46your physical separation does not help you to apply this principle.
03:50It makes it more difficult when you are physically apart, and it also adds to those potential temptations.
03:59But the answer to the question is, we submit to what the word of God says.
04:03Your wife may earn more.
04:06That doesn't give her the rights of leadership in the home, and that doesn't give her the rights of disrespect.
04:11Earning is not the issue, as we said.
04:14It is no longer my money, your money.
04:16Thank God your wife is earning more than you.
04:18That's a blessing.
04:19That's a wonderful blessing.
04:21It's not a reason to reverse the roles and responsibilities God has divinely instituted.
04:27So that would be my advice to you, brother.
04:35When you freely give back to God what He has freely given to you, He will help you to do
04:46what ordinarily you cannot do.
04:49He can turn seemingly impossible situations around.
04:54He will help you interact with God.
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