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Good Morning Pakistan | Right time for marriage special | 6 August 2026 | ARY Digital
Host: Nida Yasir
Topic: Right time for marriage
Guest: Saima Hashim, Rubina Ashraf, Amber
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Host: Nida Yasir
Topic: Right time for marriage
Guest: Saima Hashim, Rubina Ashraf, Amber
Good Morning Pakistan is your first source of entertainment as soon as you wake up in the morning, keeping you energized for the rest of the day.
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00:00:01What's up here, the night that's coming
00:05:52So, today on this topic,
00:05:56what is the right time?
00:05:58It is obvious that you have to be able to connect with your relationship.
00:06:02To settle your life,
00:06:05what is the right time?
00:06:07What is the right time?
00:06:08We will do this discussion today.
00:06:10So, maybe you can share a conversation in your mind.
00:06:15And people are very confused with these things.
00:06:17So, you may be confused.
00:06:22In today's panel, Rubeena Ashraf.
00:06:25Assalamu alaikum.
00:06:26Assalamu alaikum.
00:06:27Why do they say the same things?
00:06:30This is a very clear and clear thing.
00:06:33We all know.
00:06:35We are with Saima Hashim,
00:06:38who is a psychotherapist.
00:06:40You will know what the psychology is.
00:06:43They meet different people.
00:06:45Assalamu alaikum.
00:06:46Assalamu alaikum.
00:06:47What's your situation?
00:06:48Assalamu alaikum.
00:06:49Absolutely.
00:06:50And with us,
00:06:51it is necessary that when a show is such a show,
00:06:54that it is on the list,
00:06:55it is necessary to be a matchmaker.
00:06:58We are with Ambar.
00:07:01Assalamu alaikum.
00:07:02Assalamu alaikum.
00:07:02How are you?
00:07:03Alhamdulillah.
00:07:04How long have you been doing this matchmaker?
00:07:06I have been 20 years.
00:07:0720 years?
00:07:08And this was a shocker.
00:07:10Yes, it was a shocker.
00:07:12It was a shocker.
00:07:12And I also came to your show before.
00:07:14Yes, I came to your show.
00:07:16Yes.
00:07:19You are a shocker.
00:07:20Yes.
00:07:22Yes.
00:07:25Let's start from your own lives, I think your marriage was at a very young age.
00:07:33At that time, my marriage was very late in that time.
00:07:39That was when panic started in 22-24.
00:07:42My father and society started to ask.
00:07:50When should I do this?
00:07:52When should I do this?
00:07:53I think there were 20-25 years of studies.
00:07:59We had to stretch our studies.
00:08:02We had to stretch our studies.
00:08:08This is the only way.
00:08:12We are sitting at home.
00:08:13We will start to work here.
00:08:15Then this expectation comes.
00:08:18So I got married when I was 26.
00:08:20Which was late for that time.
00:08:22But today's kids think that 26 is the beginning.
00:08:27It is the beginning of thinking.
00:08:28At that time when I was 23, I started to panic.
00:08:32And from 23-26, it was a very panic.
00:08:36It was not that they would go through.
00:08:38At that time, there was a tension.
00:08:40I am sure mother and mother.
00:08:42In particular.
00:08:43So I can now imagine my mother's anxieties and all.
00:08:51Do you know that?
00:08:52Before I felt like that, the mother who had studied and studied.
00:08:57She didn't have any tension.
00:09:00Until my number came.
00:09:02But when I saw my mother that she was a liberal.
00:09:06She was a very liberal.
00:09:08She had no idea for her.
00:09:11She had no idea for her.
00:09:12She had no idea for her.
00:09:14She had no idea for her.
00:09:17She had no idea for her.
00:09:17She had no idea.
00:09:21Let her leave.
00:09:21Aah, I have no idea for her.
00:09:24Of all myself.
00:09:25The pink-white police people.
00:09:25Every age frame, age bracket almost all got changed.
00:09:31Every time has the same bracket.
00:09:34It login for women.
00:09:35Even for girls and girls.
00:09:37When the time is coming,
00:09:40automatically panic starts, especially in the mother's mind and then in the surrounding
00:09:46people who are close, who can ask, these questions start, which is fine also I think
00:09:55because there is a way, there is a way, there is a way, so it is right but I think
00:10:00after my marriage, I thought that before 26, nobody should get married.
00:10:05Because I have been very difficult for 26 years and my mother also, because she was also
00:10:11a partner with me in this, that she would say that until you don't understand, until
00:10:15you don't understand, until you don't understand.
00:10:17And it is not that she didn't have options for 23 years.
00:10:22What do you think, this is your mindset that you need to look for 26 years until
00:10:2526 years, you need to look for a little bit.
00:10:27It happens when you all know your experiences.
00:10:30So what do you think, what logic is that you need to look for 26 years,
00:10:34and you don't think that you need to look for a child.
00:10:35I don't think that you need to look for a child.
00:10:36Yes, exactly.
00:10:38Because you need to look for a new life, a different set of life.
00:10:47So that is why you need to be prepared for your brain.
00:11:16You're starting a new life.
00:11:19You're starting a new life.
00:11:21You're starting a new life.
00:11:21And then you don't understand that.
00:11:23But then you don't feel like that if you're not feeling like that.
00:11:25But it is not happening that after 26 years, pressure will not be made.
00:11:28Pressure is when you go from your environment and go from your environment,
00:11:31maybe that will never happen.
00:11:32You are still shifting and changing.
00:11:36You are still changing.
00:11:47I want to get into that responsible life, I want to be, have a partner, husband now who I want
00:11:58to live with, I want to make a house.
00:12:00I want to make a house, I want to make a house.
00:12:04I want to make a house that I want to give a house.
00:12:44I want to make a house that I want to make a house.
00:12:52I want to make a house that I want to make a house that I want to make a house.
00:13:13I want to make a house that I want to make a house that I want to make a house.
00:13:26As a matchmaker, I will talk to the kids and the girls.
00:13:32Then I will talk about it again in my age.
00:13:34Instead of being the older girls, I have some mothers who have got my children.
00:13:42I used to talk about it again.
00:13:43I have my children who have got a house in 16.
00:13:45They have got a house in 17 years, and when I was 16, they made a house for the last
00:13:50year.
00:13:52They have been doing it in metric and now I won't think about it.
00:13:55Maybe you don't have any interest in the kids.
00:13:57But it's really shocked.
00:13:58This is the excitement of going to the new home.
00:14:03Yes, absolutely.
00:14:04In the sports, if my mom is saying that they will be right.
00:14:08They don't understand the kids.
00:14:10They don't know what to do.
00:14:12One thing is that their focus is on their life.
00:14:17Their goal is to get married one day.
00:14:21Whatever you are doing.
00:14:28One should be so good.
00:14:31We don't need to learn from other children.
00:14:35The children don't want to learn from other children.
00:14:35If they will be married, they will not be given to their knowledge.
00:14:39I don't want to learn from other children.
00:14:43And then they say that they are dead.
00:14:46They don't want to learn from other children.
00:14:47We can't do this.
00:14:49We give this example, that the parents have been forced to do many things.
00:14:53Why do we plead? We are problem.
00:14:56We can manage our lives and make good ourselves.
00:14:58Why do we use them when we sit and try and do anything to do with us?
00:15:01I say that parents should not practice doing anything.
00:15:04But we also have to deal with the disappointment.
00:15:06They know we are going to trouble and we know how we are going.
00:15:10But I'm looking for our kids' children.
00:15:12Also a bit of negative points is that after much education,
00:15:15divorce became very high because we are saying that we are going to do ourselves.
00:15:20It's not a bad thing.
00:15:21It's not a bad thing.
00:15:22It's not extreme.
00:15:26Some people have to do it.
00:15:29It's not a bad thing.
00:15:33First of all, we said that university girls don't do it.
00:15:38Today, I see that they are more understanding.
00:15:41They are better.
00:15:43They are better.
00:15:44They are better than me.
00:15:45They are better than me.
00:15:49But I see that they are better.
00:15:53But I see that they are very happy.
00:15:54They are very happy.
00:15:56Parents will have to be proud of.
00:15:59If you like them, they will tell you.
00:16:03You are not saying that they are not saying.
00:16:04You are saying that they are 16 years old.
00:16:07They are not going to leave the mother.
00:16:10What is the mother's mother?
00:16:11The mother's mother is very settled.
00:16:14They are very business minded.
00:16:16They are also 23 years old.
00:16:18Are they too early?
00:16:19Yes, they are very early.
00:16:20They are very early.
00:16:22They are very early.
00:16:24They are very early.
00:16:24They are very early.
00:16:24We are just 20-21 years old.
00:16:26They are very early.
00:16:27My son is 24 years old.
00:16:29Now, there are many children who are 24-25 years old.
00:16:31They are wanting to be very young.
00:16:33They are very early.
00:16:34So in a moment, there are gaps.
00:16:35Like for 10-12 years old?
00:16:37There is nothing.
00:16:39What is this?
00:16:40Now, what is this?
00:16:40We say that we are the same or the same.
00:16:43One or two years old.
00:16:45We don't even know that it is much different.
00:16:48And this is a very good thing.
00:16:50It is a good thing.
00:16:50It is a good thing.
00:16:51It is a good thing.
00:16:51It is a good thing.
00:16:53But as we are in our mind,
00:16:55I had to say that girls are very mature and they are very mature.
00:17:02Then they will be more mature and the girl will be more mature.
00:17:07And the girl is at home, they need to be mature.
00:17:11I would say that it is a very good thing and it is a very low age difference.
00:17:15I would say that it is a very low age difference.
00:17:16No, you don't understand this.
00:17:17I have to say that the girl is about 6-7 years old.
00:17:22And the girl is the age difference.
00:17:27The girl is the age difference.
00:17:28So she will be mature.
00:17:30Because the girl is very immature.
00:17:34You are very immature.
00:17:36They are very immature.
00:17:37And the girl is very mature.
00:17:40They are very mature.
00:17:41If she is mature, she will be able to handle it.
00:17:44Yes.
00:17:45The first trend was different.
00:17:48She said that she is so small that she is moulded.
00:17:50Yes.
00:17:50She will have to go and adjust will go and understand the characters.
00:17:57That's how the girl is being passed, their cousin will learn.
00:17:59And how the girl is forming.
00:18:01It was like that.
00:18:03It was a novice experience.
00:18:04That there was another вз Titanic.
00:18:05The girls would go and they would go by.
00:18:06All of them did, they would not know anything.
00:18:09They would have to do anything.
00:18:09So it was a time when younger girls and older boys.
00:18:15After that, there is a change of change, and the girls are mature, they are mature, they are mature, they
00:18:22are mature, they are mature and they are mature.
00:18:23Somehow, if we look at a girl and a girl, the maturity will be more mature.
00:18:28They will understand what they need from their life, they will know how to keep their home, how to keep
00:18:33their home.
00:18:34Because they have not been able to keep their home, they have observed, their mother's way of being able to
00:18:42keep their home, their mother's way of being able to keep their home.
00:18:47I think it is basically your genetics, or your God's way of being able to keep their home, so that's
00:18:56why they are learning.
00:18:57They know exactly what they need to be able to keep their home, and they know exactly what they need
00:19:06to be able to keep their home.
00:19:13Ambar, what age is when you feel comfortable with your relationship, whether it is a girl or a girl?
00:19:20When she is 30 plus, she becomes a little problem.
00:19:25Then we tell them that if someone gets an overage or a widow or a divorce, then you can do
00:19:34it with her.
00:19:35When she comes to 35, she becomes a big problem for girls.
00:19:37Then they say that they will have a problem with their parents, they will have a problem with their children.
00:19:42They will have some advice for the second marriage.
00:19:45They will have to take your home at any time, and they will be able to get their children.
00:19:52But for children, they will also try to keep their home.
00:19:54Oh, they should be very good.
00:19:56Rightly, they should also be able to keep their home.
00:19:59They should have more. Now they should be able to keep their home.
00:20:01Because they will know their health.
00:20:03They are doing jobs, they will know their kids.
00:20:08It's very good when they reject the girls,
00:20:14that's a good thing.
00:20:16They reject all the girls.
00:20:18They don't want to do the girls.
00:20:20So, the girls don't have any problems?
00:20:23No, the girls don't have any problems.
00:20:25They don't have any problems.
00:20:26They reject the girls.
00:20:27They are so well-off.
00:20:29They are so well-off.
00:20:30They don't want to do the girls.
00:20:32Do they have physical appearance?
00:20:37They reject the girls.
00:20:40They don't want to do the girls.
00:20:41They want to do the good things.
00:20:43And they also have a good sense.
00:20:47Now, if you look at the gym,
00:20:50every girl is making a body.
00:20:52Is there any benefit from the body building?
00:20:55Yes, yes.
00:20:56They are good.
00:20:56They feel good.
00:20:58They feel handsome.
00:20:59The difference is so good.
00:21:00The girls get the pleasure.
00:21:01I say that they need everything.
00:21:03Especially the job and education.
00:21:05These are things very important.
00:21:07That you should have a job better.
00:21:08That you should have a good job.
00:21:09That your good business should have a good job.
00:21:10Then, they see the parents.
00:21:12Some of them are inter-girls.
00:21:13But their parents say that their child is so good.
00:21:15But no girls are not happy.
00:21:18Inter-girls are happy.
00:21:19What is inter-girls?
00:21:19If there is a good girl,
00:21:21they will have a match for inter-girls.
00:21:24Why do we want to get a good, highly qualified girl?
00:21:27No, that's not possible.
00:21:29How big of a business is your business.
00:21:31There are a lot of people who do, but they don't do qualified girls.
00:21:35Okay, okay.
00:21:37So, see, there's a change in the master.
00:21:39There's a change in the master.
00:21:41Okay, after a break, I'll come back to you.
00:21:44And what's going on in your mind today?
00:21:47What's going on in your mind?
00:21:49We'll get a break later. Good morning, Pakistan.
00:22:04Welcome, welcome back. Good morning, Pakistan.
00:22:06So, we're talking about what age should be.
00:22:11If you have a settled life, a child's study.
00:22:15Now is the time of marriage. When is the time of marriage?
00:22:18Which time of marriage is the time of marriage?
00:22:20We're talking about this.
00:22:23Now we're talking about this.
00:22:25What is your time of marriage?
00:22:31Do they pressurize with the age of age or not in this scenario?
00:22:38Pressure is not yet, but the intensity of the pressure is less.
00:22:43For people, age matters less, but the stage matters more.
00:22:49Which stage should be married in which life should be married.
00:22:52People have given this preference.
00:22:55For every family or individual who has married,
00:23:00their life's trajectory is different.
00:23:02Circumstances are different, priorities are different.
00:23:05People have started thinking about these things.
00:23:09Accordingly, they also look at their relationships
00:23:11and they also decide their marriage.
00:23:13Whether they want to marry or not.
00:23:15Whether they want to marry or not.
00:23:16Whether they want to marry or not.
00:23:19Whether they want to marry or not.
00:23:20Or prefer that or not.
00:23:21At a time, their marriage has come when the child has a good relationship.
00:23:24Their education's staying.
00:23:26And their parents say, no, it's not good.
00:23:28So, their parents have been left with education
00:23:30and their marriage was the same.
00:23:33So, now that's the scenario.
00:23:35A good one had to come after and after a time.
00:23:36The good relationship, it's a good relationship.
00:23:40The girl is written, she has written in the study,
00:23:42the family is good, do the good, do the best.
00:23:44Now, what is the best for the individual is good as well.
00:23:48The best for the individual is good.
00:23:49It can be better for the other.
00:23:52So now people have started to ignore the minor details.
00:23:59How much of the maturity of the child or the child.
00:24:04Compatibility is not only for age, salary or job.
00:24:09Compatibility is a whole graph in the spectrum.
00:24:14People also understand that.
00:24:16Some parents don't understand it.
00:24:18So children or children talk to them.
00:24:21They try to understand them.
00:24:23I'm looking for examples.
00:24:24In family therapies, children talk to their parents.
00:24:30They say that we have suffered as a child.
00:24:33So I don't want or want my child to suffer.
00:24:37Today, mom-bap can explain to their children as a couple.
00:25:10They can explain to their children.
00:25:11And the awareness has come from their families.
00:25:14They also see the world outside.
00:25:16But from their families.
00:25:17Not necessarily.
00:25:18They have a product.
00:25:20They have a gadget.
00:25:21They have seen the whole world.
00:25:23But lived experiences, not only with parents.
00:25:26Extended families.
00:25:27They have seen and understood.
00:25:30So they are doing better.
00:25:33That has to do with upbringing also.
00:25:36Because as we have received it, we have not received it.
00:25:40So children are also open.
00:25:43They are also open.
00:25:44They are also open.
00:25:45They are also open.
00:25:48And we don't understand ...
00:25:49When we think about the children,
00:25:51And there is just no part.
00:25:53And then we know it.
00:25:57All things.
00:25:57So, it is a difference.
00:25:59They are smarter than us.
00:26:00Yes.
00:26:01And we look at it.
00:26:02And when we look at it,
00:26:03We are required to listen for them.
00:26:05And then we have their voices.
00:26:07And they tell us.
00:26:07And that is so smart.
00:26:09because their life doesn't have to do it.
00:26:12And they don't have to do it.
00:26:14If you have to do it, then you have to do it.
00:26:16Now they will do it.
00:26:17Every mother wants that the child gets a happy life.
00:26:20Exactly.
00:26:21She gets a happy life.
00:26:22She gets a happy life.
00:26:23She gets a happy life.
00:26:24Exactly.
00:26:24And basically, if you look at it in our language,
00:26:27this is a relationship between the marriage and the marriage.
00:26:31This is a happy life.
00:26:32That you get a happy life.
00:26:35If you don't get a happy life,
00:26:36if you don't get a happy life,
00:26:37then what's the difference?
00:26:38And first, with the children,
00:26:40we didn't want to understand them.
00:26:43We didn't want to listen to them.
00:26:45So we have to do it.
00:26:47Now we listen to them and understand them.
00:26:49Parents, this is a very good change.
00:26:52What do you want to tell us about your experience?
00:26:55What's your name?
00:26:56Aras.
00:26:57Aras is a little difficult name.
00:26:59Aras.
00:27:00Unusual.
00:27:00Unusual.
00:27:02Actually, I was married in 17 years.
00:27:04Oh my God!
00:27:05And now I'm a mother of three kids.
00:27:08I'm a child.
00:27:09But when I got married,
00:27:13I was very immature.
00:27:15I mean, I had a pampered child.
00:27:17I was little.
00:27:18My husband was big.
00:27:20So, I had to sleep early on.
00:27:24How to make food?
00:27:25How to make a house?
00:27:25How to make a house?
00:27:26How to make a child?
00:27:26How to make a child?
00:27:28How to make a child?
00:27:41How to make a child.
00:27:43How to make a child.
00:27:43How to make a child.
00:27:50How to make a child.
00:27:52How to make a child.
00:27:53How to make a child.
00:27:54How to make a child.
00:27:54How to make a child.
00:27:54I was a father.
00:27:58I was a mother of four kids.
00:27:58That's how I wanted to keep in-laws.
00:28:01That's what the child was going to do.
00:28:03I'll keep in-laws.
00:28:10I have to keep in-laws.
00:28:18How to make a child.
00:28:20I have to do the same thing.
00:28:21I was getting ready.
00:28:26I was getting ready.
00:28:27I was getting ready.
00:28:28I have to be ready.
00:28:30There's no such thing.
00:28:32Why are you getting frustrated?
00:28:33Which year?
00:28:35In 2019.
00:28:37In 2019,
00:28:38I mean,
00:28:39I was born in the first year.
00:28:42When I was born in the first year,
00:28:45it started out of my life.
00:28:46Otherwise, I'm not a child.
00:28:48I'm not a child.
00:28:50I'm not a child.
00:28:50No one has to be in the first year.
00:28:52That's why I was like this.
00:28:55I must be prepared for a while.
00:28:59I have to go in the morning.
00:29:02It's also a problem.
00:29:04That is what I have to say.
00:29:08My friends,
00:29:09my stories,
00:29:11people are thinking
00:29:11So, they are feeling jealous of me.
00:29:13You are a good life.
00:29:15But I can't get jealous of them.
00:29:18Why did I get married?
00:29:19I regret it.
00:29:21I was a kid.
00:29:21I was in university.
00:29:24I was married.
00:29:26So, maturity came.
00:29:29Then I didn't come to school.
00:29:30I didn't change the diaper.
00:29:32No.
00:29:33But I think I'm better.
00:29:38Exactly it is.
00:29:39It is.
00:29:39It is.
00:29:41When they are sharp,
00:29:45they see that they don't come to school.
00:29:49They start to explain.
00:29:50My daughter is also sexy.
00:29:52She is so real.
00:29:54My daughter is sexy.
00:29:56She guides me.
00:29:57She has to wear this dress.
00:29:59She has to dress up.
00:30:01I love everything.
00:30:03I know everything.
00:30:04Do you know everything?
00:30:05Yes.
00:30:06Yes.
00:30:06And today's generation knows everything.
00:30:08Do you think you married in 17 years?
00:30:11Yes, exactly.
00:30:13I think it should happen now.
00:30:15I think it's like that.
00:30:16I'm 24.
00:30:18I think you're 17 years old.
00:30:20Yes.
00:30:21From inside, you are...
00:30:24You are...
00:30:25Every person is different.
00:30:26That's what we say.
00:30:28We don't have a bracket in our children.
00:30:30We will only be 26.
00:30:3126 years old.
00:30:3326 years old.
00:30:3527 years old.
00:30:36Maturity, obviously.
00:30:37Maturity is not related to your age.
00:30:40Exactly.
00:30:42If I'm together with my daughter,
00:30:44she will probably be younger.
00:30:46I will do it.
00:30:47She will say,
00:30:48don't do it.
00:30:49Don't do it.
00:30:50What happens?
00:30:52My nature is like this.
00:30:53She is sober.
00:30:54Yes.
00:30:55Yes.
00:30:56Yes.
00:30:56Yes.
00:30:57I do.
00:30:58I do.
00:30:59I do.
00:31:00I do.
00:31:01My daughter, Zaira,
00:31:02she is angry with me.
00:31:03Mama, please.
00:31:03My friends are angry with me.
00:31:04I tell her, Zaira,
00:31:05she is so tiny.
00:31:06She is angry with me.
00:31:07So, what are other problems to bear?
00:31:10I have to not have to handle situations.
00:31:12Okay.
00:31:13I have to handle situations.
00:31:14I have to handle something that I have to do.
00:31:16If I have to talk to someone,
00:31:17I have to give it to someone who wants to answer it.
00:31:19Yes.
00:31:19Yes.
00:31:20I have to go through this.
00:31:21Yes.
00:31:22I have to handle new situations.
00:31:23I have to handle new situations.
00:31:24I have to support you.
00:31:25Alhamdulillah.
00:31:26That's a big deal.
00:31:27Alhamdulillah.
00:31:28My husband is very happy.
00:31:30So, it will happen.
00:31:31How much gap was your age?
00:31:3210 years.
00:31:33Okay.
00:31:34So, you are 27 and 17.
00:31:36Yes.
00:31:37It is.
00:31:38They said,
00:31:39well, they were big in the house.
00:31:40They were big.
00:31:41They were big.
00:31:42But I was not working.
00:31:44I was young.
00:31:45I was young.
00:31:46How did I handle all the things?
00:31:48So, I didn't handle all the things.
00:31:49Yes.
00:31:49So, I didn't handle all the things.
00:31:50But with that,
00:31:51I was very mature in this situation.
00:31:55I took my home.
00:31:56I was separate.
00:31:57Alhamdulillah.
00:31:58My house, my children, my parents.
00:32:00I was very immature.
00:32:02I was very immature.
00:32:02And at that time,
00:32:03I was thinking,
00:32:04literally,
00:32:05I was thinking,
00:32:05I was doing a lot of people.
00:32:07Why did I do it?
00:32:08Yes.
00:32:09Yes.
00:32:11Yes.
00:32:11Yes.
00:32:12You need to do it?
00:32:12What did I do?
00:32:13It was not that.
00:32:14I was trying to do it.
00:32:19I was trying to do it that way.
00:32:21You married in any age.
00:32:22It is very adventurous.
00:32:23Yes.
00:32:24Because you are not all who are going to do it.
00:32:25I did not know.
00:32:27But I did not know.
00:32:28if I am telling you something about relative in-laws.
00:32:30What do you think?
00:32:31How many years ago you married when you married?
00:32:35Yes.
00:32:3624.
00:32:37Yes.
00:32:37Yes, it's true.
00:32:38Yes, it's true.
00:32:41Do you think you are sensible to handle the situation?
00:32:46Yes, but I also think that you have experience with me.
00:32:51Maybe I can't do it now if I get married.
00:32:54If you get married in 2014, then you will be set after 28 years.
00:32:59I think you have a settlement for one year.
00:33:01It's true.
00:33:02You have to understand everyone's mind, but it's better.
00:33:06When I first reacted, I didn't want to do it.
00:33:10I was regrettors.
00:33:11I didn't say anything about it.
00:33:13If you are in-laws, you can eat something.
00:33:17I don't know if I get married or I don't know if I get married.
00:33:21What happened?
00:33:23I'm making Zinger Burger and Micronies.
00:33:25I don't eat my mouth.
00:33:27Let's eat your baby.
00:33:29Get some refreshments.
00:33:30I said, I don't eat anything.
00:33:32I didn't eat anything.
00:33:34I don't know if I get fat.
00:33:36This is my family.
00:33:39I don't like to eat.
00:33:40I don't need to eat.
00:33:41I don't want to eat.
00:33:41I don't want to eat.
00:33:42I don't want to eat.
00:33:44But now, we are living in a settlement.
00:33:46You are very young.
00:33:51You are very young.
00:33:51But at that time, you are very young.
00:33:55You are not having to handle it.
00:33:57Then you are crying.
00:33:58Someone told us what we did.
00:33:59We did not hear anything.
00:34:00I mean, at the home of my mom,
00:34:01it was an appreciation for tea.
00:34:04I don't want to eat.
00:34:05I don't want to eat.
00:34:07I don't want to eat.
00:34:07But at the home of my mom,
00:34:09you have made paratha,
00:34:10you have made paratha.
00:34:11You have made paratha.
00:34:11That's it.
00:34:13I don't want to eat.
00:34:14You have to do so much.
00:34:15What do you want to do?
00:34:16I don't know what to do.
00:34:18I don't know.
00:34:19I don't know.
00:34:19But now, the experience has been.
00:34:21Yes.
00:34:22Then, I am going to be a sadness.
00:34:24When I was young,
00:34:25I was back to back.
00:34:27There is no gap.
00:34:29I had three children.
00:34:30So they are on the level.
00:34:32Then, finding the children and having the household.
00:34:35And finding all your children and trying to go alone.
00:34:38But it is a bit difficult.
00:34:40That often,
00:34:40one person is often traumatized.
00:34:42I think I don't understand what to do.
00:34:46There is a lot of pregnancy.
00:34:48It is a lot difficult.
00:34:49Because then maybe someone's situation looks very harsh.
00:34:56Whether it's harsh or not.
00:34:58Because you don't know what's in your mind.
00:35:01So maybe someone doesn't know what's in front of you.
00:35:04But they get traumatised when you don't have knowledge.
00:35:09So knowledge is important.
00:35:10I think that as a social set up,
00:35:17you need to understand.
00:35:21Pregnancy, postpartum,
00:35:25Pregnancy blues,
00:35:26this is a real thing.
00:35:28Because there was no concept before,
00:35:32everyone has been born.
00:35:34It's been a story for many years.
00:35:37We don't know that individually,
00:35:40they have taken any difficulties
00:35:41or how people deal with them.
00:35:46But now I understand that people need to understand this.
00:35:49That when a woman goes into pregnancy,
00:35:53she feels like her life,
00:35:56starting from her body to her skin,
00:36:02everything is changing.
00:36:04That's a happy feeling in her place.
00:36:07But it's an anxiety also.
00:36:09Anxiety as well.
00:36:10Yes, you're right.
00:36:11And if you feel like,
00:36:12that I'm totally alone,
00:36:14that only these difficulties are,
00:36:16that I have pain in my chest,
00:36:18that I have to handle it.
00:36:20And if I have to handle it,
00:36:21that I don't have to be impacted,
00:36:22that I don't have to be impacted in my hand,
00:36:24that I don't have to eat a penadol,
00:36:25that I don't have to eat a penadol,
00:36:26that I don't have to do it.
00:36:27When I do it,
00:36:29if I don't get support,
00:36:31she can go into a really bad state of depression.
00:36:35Exactly.
00:36:35In this place,
00:36:37I think that the rest of the people,
00:36:39who are injured,
00:36:39who are in your society,
00:36:40and who are in any other age.
00:36:42Especially,
00:36:43the husband,
00:36:43they should have more compassion for that one person,
00:36:48in that one span of time.
00:36:51And then after that,
00:36:52because that is also a difficult time.
00:36:55That is also a difficult time.
00:36:55And that time,
00:36:57as you said,
00:36:58that you were young,
00:37:00and mature,
00:37:01to handle a child,
00:37:02it doesn't work easy.
00:37:05It doesn't work easy.
00:37:05The young people have not À t'm out.
00:37:07The child isła,
00:37:08they are dead.
00:37:09They don't understand.
00:37:10It doesn't get confused.
00:37:12There is no experience.
00:37:13And it doesn't have to be interpreted.
00:37:14And it doesn't have to be written.
00:37:15And if someone doesn't say nothing.
00:37:19No one doesn't say anything.
00:37:19If anyone doesn't come to this,
00:37:20you'll learn.
00:37:21Or we'll help you.
00:37:23So,
00:37:24that is a very dangerous place.
00:37:26Support is very little.
00:37:27And when marriage itself has a major change in life,
00:37:31and after that, if there is a baby for 1 or 2 years,
00:37:35then there is another change.
00:37:37Back-to-back means how difficult it is to deal with you physically and emotionally.
00:37:42That's why children have all their burdens, degrees,
00:37:47they become a bit rough-tough.
00:37:51And after that, if you think that you have completed the study,
00:37:55you have to bear pressure,
00:37:56or you have to bear the pressure of your career,
00:37:58or you have to bear the pressure of your career,
00:37:59then you have to do this.
00:38:00They are prepared.
00:38:02They are strong.
00:38:03Exactly.
00:38:04They have to give strength,
00:38:06make strong,
00:38:06and then you have to do it.
00:38:10Because, look,
00:38:10there is one person who is changing their life,
00:38:15but the other person is not changing.
00:38:20If he is staying there,
00:38:22he doesn't change.
00:38:23If he doesn't stay there,
00:38:24he doesn't change his own choice.
00:38:25His environment,
00:38:26his environment,
00:38:26his environment,
00:38:27his environment,
00:38:28Yes.
00:38:29Everything changed.
00:38:32Starting from the,
00:38:33moving from one house to another,
00:38:35living with the whole,
00:38:36different set of people.
00:38:37and then,
00:38:38he is the one person who feels like you are going to be
00:38:42with love with your life.
00:38:45And that is the one who will look out in any problem.
00:38:49His attitude,
00:38:51everything.
00:38:52And then the baby comes.
00:38:54And then,
00:38:55the child is not only comes,
00:38:58the people who do not come.
00:38:58He is the one who comes.
00:39:00It is the one who comes.
00:39:01And the world comes.
00:39:01And many challenges.
00:39:02One of the biggest challenges is the one who is expected.
00:39:06The woman and this woman who feels like she is always smile.
00:39:08I am so happy to be here.
00:39:10Don't do a good job.
00:39:13After a break, we are back.
00:39:15Our topic today is
00:39:17what should be determined to be the time.
00:39:20This is the relationship between the marriage.
00:39:23We can't say this.
00:39:25We will not be able to live.
00:39:27People are also tense.
00:39:29So, after a break, we will be with you.
00:39:32Good morning, Pakistan.
00:39:44Welcome.
00:39:45Welcome back.
00:39:45Good morning, Pakistan.
00:39:47We are happy to have another side of the story.
00:39:53We will not discuss the Khawateen.
00:39:55We will not discuss at night.
00:39:57Why not?
00:39:58Yes.
00:39:59How are you?
00:40:01What's your name?
00:40:02My name is Dilawar.
00:40:03What do you need to face Dilawar?
00:40:06I have to face the case.
00:40:07I have to face the case.
00:40:09I have to face the case.
00:40:09I have four daughters.
00:40:11My father was at the early age.
00:40:13I have to face responsibilities.
00:40:16I have to face the age of 35.
00:40:19I have not married.
00:40:21My mother said that I have to marry the daughters.
00:40:22She has written and written.
00:40:24It is expensive.
00:40:25I have to think about the marriage.
00:40:28I have to say that I am married.
00:40:31The relationship between the daughter and the daughter
00:40:36I have to face the same age.
00:40:38I have to face the same thing.
00:40:41My father and I are married.
00:40:42I have to say that my sister is very big.
00:40:44She will be older.
00:40:45She will be older.
00:40:47She will be older.
00:40:49She won't have to marry.
00:40:51That is the same.
00:40:52You don't like her?
00:40:55That is the same age.
00:40:57I don't have much age distance, 2-3 years ago, so it's okay.
00:41:00Because it matters more maturity, it's your companionship.
00:41:04I don't think I'm going to go and I feel uncomfortable that it's more age distance.
00:41:09So it's maintained, it's not much distance.
00:41:12So now that's what I'm saying.
00:41:15I'm going to see that I'm going to take a job.
00:41:18No, I'm not going to take a job.
00:41:19Then how do I manage my wife?
00:41:21So I'm not going to maintain it.
00:41:24I'm not going to match it.
00:41:25I'm going to be panicked.
00:41:27If you're not able to say that girl,
00:41:30you will have a right to give you the right to her?
00:41:33I have to say that I'm going to go to the house.
00:41:37My wife is also going to live.
00:41:38So she's also going to have to understand.
00:41:40If she doesn't know about her, she doesn't get the right to her.
00:41:44So she doesn't have to listen to that.
00:41:45She doesn't listen to her in the house.
00:41:46She doesn't listen to her in the house.
00:41:48It's an important decision in your life.
00:41:52...
00:41:53...
00:41:53...
00:41:53...
00:41:53It's a baby, but it's something else.
00:41:57It's your life.
00:41:58They are taking the decision of which age, which age, which age.
00:42:01So, let's show you.
00:42:02And ask yourself, what's wrong?
00:42:04Don't tell me, don't tell me 3 years of age.
00:42:07Or, don't tell me, I'm 35 years old.
00:42:11So, you need to listen to them.
00:42:13And if they don't listen to you today,
00:42:15then, tomorrow, she'll be pissed off.
00:42:18I just want to say that I have to listen to my mother.
00:42:21My mother is a lot more.
00:42:22Look, you're mature.
00:42:24Yeah, masha'all.
00:42:25So, our life, we don't go with our children so long,
00:42:30or our mother-in-law,
00:42:32who is our real family, who is our spouse.
00:42:35Family.
00:42:36Who will stay for a long time.
00:42:38Everyone will go out to their homes.
00:42:40Give your mother a long life.
00:42:43No doubt.
00:42:44It's not just your family and your family.
00:42:47So, basically, who matters?
00:42:50What matters?
00:42:51That's true.
00:42:51I've told them, I've told them.
00:42:53I've told them, I've told them,
00:42:54I've told them, you've been 18 years old.
00:42:56I've told them, they've told them,
00:42:57and they'll think so.
00:42:58And when we talk about it,
00:43:00they say, they've told them,
00:43:00and they've told them,
00:43:01and they'll see her.
00:43:02They tell her.
00:43:05And they see?
00:43:05I see, I see.
00:43:07So, I mean, you've shown some interest.
00:43:11I've told them.
00:43:12And so, this is my,
00:43:12cause it too,
00:43:12and I'môn,
00:43:13I always讨ved it.
00:43:13Maybe.
00:43:13They've covered it sometimes.
00:43:16But they like the experience of the and the only youths.
00:43:20And then,
00:43:21I've told them,
00:43:22And then I'm not sure,
00:43:24they're a parent.
00:43:25This is a primary opinion.
00:43:27This is my parents.
00:43:28A lot of people will say, even if they are married, they are responsible for their children.
00:43:35How awkward this process is, and this is a story.
00:43:41This is true that people know that if they haven't married they wouldn't have married in 35 years.
00:43:47So we were going to see them as soon as they will tell us what they will want.
00:43:54going through successful sacrifices.
00:43:58They don't hear when the sons don't listen to them.
00:44:01They say they are a small relative.
00:44:05They don't know each other.
00:44:09They don't get married.
00:44:12They are a colleague.
00:44:15They tell me if they are a wife does not work with their family.
00:44:18They don't want to work with them.
00:44:21Even if they have an family,
00:44:24I think it's very good.
00:44:25I respect her, I respect her.
00:44:30I respect her, she's working with me.
00:44:31I want to work with her.
00:44:32If she's working with her, she's very good.
00:44:34If she's not the same, she's very good.
00:44:37If she's not the same, she's a good girl.
00:44:38You should go to the house only for the job, and she'll have a break.
00:44:41Absolutely.
00:44:43You change your criteria.
00:44:45I changed the criteria.
00:44:47And tell them that if I can marry four daughters and I'm so responsible and I've done all my responsibilities,
00:44:57then give me this responsibility.
00:45:00Because when they come and you and they fight,
00:45:03then I will be able to handle that situation.
00:45:07And this is the thing that we often put in relationships without understanding.
00:45:13Exactly.
00:45:14That tomorrow I will say something else and I will say something else.
00:45:18You have to understand and then take on the same time,
00:45:22if you want to be able to keep them together.
00:45:23Both always stay happy and keep your hair up and keep going.
00:45:29Because otherwise the tension will go through the last year of the marriage.
00:45:33So tell them that I have to take a decision.
00:45:36Or now the girls are saying this, our daughters are saying that
00:45:40this is my life and this is my decision.
00:46:00Yes, communication.
00:46:02Yes.
00:46:05Communication.
00:46:05Because my marriage, my life, you have the responsibility that I have given.
00:46:11Now if you think that my love is not okay with you, I will give you a tax.
00:46:18I will give you a tax.
00:46:18But my mother can't leave her alone.
00:46:20I will leave her alone.
00:46:21Then I will leave her alone.
00:46:23Then I will leave her alone.
00:46:23And then if you want your love, she will be okay with her.
00:46:25But my mother is saying that, how do I keep her?
00:46:28How do I keep her?
00:46:28I will leave her alone.
00:46:29I will leave her alone.
00:46:32I will leave her alone.
00:46:32But she will stay in your terms.
00:46:35Now you are so big that you will be able to keep them.
00:46:38But she will not keep you.
00:46:40And then I will say that the most life is going to be able to keep them together.
00:46:45So why do you think that the mother will not be able to keep them together?
00:46:48How long have they been able to keep them together?
00:46:50Actually, they have to keep them together.
00:46:52You need to keep them together.
00:46:55You need to keep them together.
00:46:59step on the side.
00:47:00The next guest has to be Saima.
00:47:05Sameya.
00:47:08Emotate.
00:47:10Emotate.Оn
00:47:11we offered youились a lot. Yeah,
00:47:12we offered you and she didn't want it. We didn't
00:47:15handle our loved ones of these biggest lives and it's very difficult. She had to
00:47:18stay in the way. And she was
00:47:18working on everything because she had to give her home. If in women,
00:47:21their school has have an acuerdo, people know that their children have to finish their home. Then they get divorced
00:47:28when they are still home.
00:47:28we will talk about biological clock in the middle of the 30s in the middle of the 30s
00:47:41in the middle of the 30s. It is difficult to conceive. It is difficult for children to conceive.
00:47:45It is difficult for children to get guilt and shame. I feel like a public clock.
00:47:57The public has so many things. However, it needs to be reproduced.
00:48:05It is the same as the biological clock. But it doesn't happen to be a problem.
00:48:13Here we have an age bracket for biological clock. But for children, it is not a age bracket.
00:48:20It is not a younger age. But it is not a reproductive health.
00:48:24It is not a good thing. We don't know about it. We need to talk about it.
00:48:30Yes, absolutely.
00:48:33So, your name is Saima.
00:48:35My name is Saima.
00:48:36Yes, Saima.
00:48:37My story is that when my proposal came, my mother was very happy.
00:48:44She was very happy. She was very happy that my husband didn't work.
00:48:47But my dad was very happy.
00:48:50But my father's father's family, the job of his family was very big.
00:48:53And my mother was very happy.
00:48:56My father was very happy that she didn't work.
00:48:57My husband was very happy that she could eat.
00:49:01I have three or four brothers, like my two sisters, my sister and my husband.
00:49:05And they didn't do all the work?
00:49:07No, they didn't do all the work.
00:49:09They didn't do all the work.
00:49:13And my mother told me,
00:49:17don't depend on my mother,
00:49:20when she is with her father,
00:49:20she has a lot of issues.
00:49:23You can see what the girl does,
00:49:26but my mother says,
00:49:27no, no, my daughter will be very happy.
00:49:29Unfortunately, my mother,
00:49:31like my mother,
00:49:32the relationship has changed me.
00:49:33In the beginning, everything was very good.
00:49:35Because my sister was a rail pill,
00:49:38we were very good,
00:49:40all of them were very good.
00:49:41Then suddenly,
00:49:43my sister was poor,
00:49:46and she died.
00:49:47After that,
00:49:48the two big jobs,
00:49:49all of my husband,
00:49:51when she was married,
00:49:54she couldn't sit in the shop.
00:49:54She was very good.
00:49:54She didn't sit in the shop.
00:49:56She was still going to sit in the shop.
00:49:59So, she got married.
00:50:01And all of them went out.
00:50:04and she found that a little bit.
00:50:05She was a little girl.
00:50:06In the beginning,
00:50:06she said,
00:50:07it was not full.
00:50:08The place was very congested.
00:50:10Now,
00:50:10you are different.
00:50:12You are different.
00:50:13They chose us to be different.
00:50:14If you have more,
00:50:15you have more,
00:50:16and your children have grown.
00:50:17Now,
00:50:18you are different.
00:50:18What do you want? I'm also very happy.
00:50:22No, no, it's a good thing.
00:50:24I'll leave a little bit.
00:50:27I saw a rent house at my mother's side
00:50:30and we shifted there.
00:50:32Then they started to fight their brothers' houses.
00:50:36But what happened to them?
00:50:37They left my husband from the shop.
00:50:41They left outside.
00:50:43They said, don't go away.
00:50:45There's no place.
00:50:45They have no place.
00:50:46They went to my husband.
00:50:51What do you think?
00:50:52I'm living in a rent house.
00:50:55I was sitting in a house like this,
00:50:58and he was in a living room.
00:50:59He was working on their houses.
00:51:02He was working on the house.
00:51:03But he was working on their house.
00:51:07He was working on a shop.
00:51:08He was working on a shop.
00:51:08He didn't work on a shop.
00:51:11He was working on his own house.
00:51:15My husband has a little bit of a disease, but my husband has a little bit of a disease.
00:51:21It's a little bit of a disease.
00:51:23One thing is that it's not a disease.
00:51:25He says that when the bell is cut, we will give you.
00:51:31When we sell it, we won't leave it.
00:51:36We won't do it for you.
00:51:39We will see you.
00:51:41Now you do it.
00:51:41I have no problem.
00:51:42That needs to be a disease.
00:51:49My mother realized that I didn't see it.
00:51:53That it was my husband's hand, my husband's hand.
00:51:56I looked at her father's hand, I was back on her sister's hand.
00:52:02My husband's brother has a lot.
00:52:04I'm very much attention.
00:52:06and I have been friends with my family and I have been friends with my friends and I have been
00:52:10friends with my family
00:52:10and I have been friends with my family, but I didn't know my family, I didn't know it was a
00:52:14problem
00:52:14but I didn't know how to go into my family, I had to pay my rent and study my children
00:52:24so I just wanted to see my mother's family
00:52:26It doesn't happen.
00:52:28We understand that there is no mistake with our parents.
00:52:31They are also an individual.
00:52:33They are always wrong with their children.
00:52:36What was your age when you married?
00:52:38My marriage was 18-19.
00:52:42We are seeing this.
00:52:43The girls who are 17-18 years old
00:52:46are so excited about their marriage.
00:52:49Or if they don't even have a marriage,
00:52:49they don't have a marriage.
00:52:52My mother decided to do it.
00:52:54You know.
00:52:55And they are studying in the difficult times.
00:52:57Because you are now 24-25 years old.
00:53:02Yes.
00:53:02And how many children?
00:53:03Two children.
00:53:05In 25 years, we don't have to think about marriage.
00:53:09And in 25 years,
00:53:11this is a very difficult part of life.
00:53:15And they don't understand what to do.
00:53:19So,
00:53:22the verdict is that
00:53:23I mean,
00:53:23please,
00:53:23give the kids a bit of access to this.
00:53:26How can they stand by step?
00:53:49These spouses.
00:53:50It feels like one age, so that's the reason that they have married in a small age,
00:53:56the conditions are so bad that when they reach their 30s, they feel like they are in the 50s or
00:54:0160s.
00:54:03Because the conditions are completely broken.
00:54:07So my father doesn't think about this.
00:54:09Look at this job.
00:54:12I mean, many of my father are so understanding, I have seen it,
00:54:16that they have married with a girl who didn't have a very big post.
00:54:22But my father saw that desire, that ambition,
00:54:27that after a marriage, that it is so bad that it is so bad.
00:54:32So my father is sometimes very understanding.
00:54:35They can see that it's not a big house, it's self-made, it's on their shoulders.
00:54:40It can do it.
00:54:42So sometimes they have a very good decision.
00:54:43It's like that.
00:54:44Because we rely on this job as a person's job.
00:54:47Yes, absolutely.
00:54:48That it will take us to go.
00:54:49Now the time has changed.
00:54:50So we are seeing that the girl and the girl are working.
00:54:54So they are standing by their own empire.
00:54:56So I and my father,
00:54:58we both have standing by their own empire.
00:55:01Yes, absolutely.
00:55:01No one has done it.
00:55:03Yes, absolutely.
00:55:03So now there are some changes in people.
00:55:06And I also think that I have a very strong leader.
00:55:14It's a very strong leader.
00:55:22I think I should always be a very strong leader.
00:55:22But I think I am a strong leader.
00:55:23And I think that the other ones have made it.
00:55:24That they are the same.
00:55:24That they are the same.
00:55:26It's the same.
00:55:28And that's all that we have.
00:55:3118-20 years ago, how much care, how much love, how much attention is given,
00:55:38how much care is given.
00:55:40But in the time of marriage, there is so an emotional urgency for social validation that we have done.
00:55:47So many things we ignore, like family, we have seen the whole family.
00:55:52The whole family, now there is one side where there is support, now what?
00:55:57Again, the crux is the girl and the girl.
00:56:01The most important is two people in the marriage.
00:56:04The whole family is very secondary.
00:56:07There are many communities, for example, Memean community, Memean Bori,
00:56:12there are many communities that I have seen, that their children get settled quickly and get married at a very
00:56:17young age.
00:56:20Yes, they are very early in the marriage.
00:56:23Yes, Memean also, girls and girls.
00:56:25Both of them.
00:56:27They teach business, they teach children, they teach children, they teach them, they teach them, they teach them, they help
00:56:31them.
00:56:32Then they have a job set for a young age and they are married at a young age.
00:56:36So, this is the most important element.
00:56:40And this is the most important element of the community, that their children are in business.
00:56:47Exactly.
00:57:16So, this is the most important thing.
00:57:21So, this is the most important thing.
00:57:26So, this is the most important thing.
00:57:31And that is the most important thing.
00:57:31If they are doing it, they know that their parents are responsible.
00:57:35That is the most important thing that they are doing in Gen Z, that they are getting established,
00:57:39they are learning skills and they are standing on their feet.
00:57:42That is the most important thing they have done with their children.
00:57:45They didn't learn that much.
00:57:48But they didn't learn that much.
00:57:50They didn't learn that much.
00:57:53They didn't learn that much.
00:58:00We go through them and learn how to use their children.
00:58:03We also study them with their own skills.
00:58:03We do business-minded and all of our people are engaged.
00:58:06So, here that is the age is reduced.
00:58:07But the stage is more important.
00:58:09The stage is more important.
00:58:11Actually, what is the crux and the conclusion of the stage is that the stage is not age.
00:58:20Let's have a break.
00:58:21And after the break, let's see.
00:58:22Good morning, Pakistan.
00:58:30Welcome, welcome back. Good morning Pakistan.
00:58:33Today we are going to discuss what is the right age
00:58:36of the relationship between marriage and marriage.
00:58:39In the last segment, we have given the last thing
00:58:42that actually your stage life, your phase life matters.
00:58:48You don't have to settle.
00:58:50You don't have to mentally be ready for marriage or not.
00:58:57You don't have to deal with marriage.
00:59:01So, what do you say about Bilal?
00:59:03What do you say about Bilal?
00:59:05My life is that we were studying at university.
00:59:11My partner was my partner.
00:59:14We had a love and love.
00:59:17It was that we knew both of our family.
00:59:23So, the pressure of their family was going last year.
00:59:26I was going to study.
00:59:28So, our marriage was more than the person.
00:59:33The girl's family.
00:59:34So, their mother was a disease.
00:59:36So, I talked to auntie.
00:59:38I told auntie,
00:59:39that they will leave a little bit.
00:59:42They will finish the study.
00:59:43They will finish the study.
00:59:44They will finish the study.
00:59:45But they didn't say that.
00:59:49She got married.
00:59:49She was very scared of her.
00:59:53She got married.
00:59:56She got married.
00:59:57After her marriage,
01:00:00they were born.
01:00:03And she had married.
01:00:04My wife had become a partner, so I had to go shopping, go to the restaurant, go to the restaurant,
01:00:12go to the restaurant
01:00:13They got to go to the bathroom, fight, and all that
01:00:17Then after that, our marriage started 1 year
01:00:25After that, our divorce was done
01:00:29What was your age at that age?
01:00:33My age was 25
01:00:34She was 22
01:00:38She was younger
01:00:40Your education was complete?
01:00:42I just thought that her mother is still a life
01:00:46No, she died
01:00:48That means that she was right in her place
01:00:50Yes
01:00:52Her pressure was right in her place
01:00:54But that pressure has no benefit from the people
01:00:57In dramas, films, etc
01:01:00You see that the older people are in the home
01:01:03They are behind me
01:01:04Do you want to do my life?
01:01:06Why do you want to do this wrong?
01:01:07Why do you decide?
01:01:08This is just the reason why you have to go and go and go.
01:01:12But why do you get angry and go?
01:01:15This is not just a marriage.
01:01:17It's just a marriage.
01:01:18It's just a marriage for children.
01:01:19Exactly.
01:01:20Now, it was a marriage of their own.
01:01:23Both of them liked it.
01:01:25And it was a death in a family.
01:01:27And one year.
01:01:28And one year.
01:01:30This is probably settled.
01:01:32Every girl has a demand for her.
01:01:34There's a film called Love Goes to the Bhaar.
01:01:36In their situation.
01:01:39That love goes to the Bhaar.
01:01:41After a divorce,
01:01:44I got so much attention to her.
01:01:46I went to the depression.
01:01:47So, she went to the depression.
01:01:50She went to the doctor.
01:01:52Oh my God.
01:01:53After that,
01:01:54I had to stay in the depression.
01:01:58After that,
01:01:59I had to stay out of depression.
01:02:02And now,
01:02:03I'm doing my job.
01:02:04Because I was not so stable.
01:02:06But now,
01:02:07I have thought that
01:02:08I won't be established.
01:02:09So, I won't do a divorce.
01:02:11That's right.
01:02:12That's right.
01:02:12That's right.
01:02:12That's right.
01:02:14That's right.
01:02:34Now,
01:02:34that's right.
01:02:35there was a pressure.
01:02:36I was not so much pressure.
01:02:37That was the pain.
01:02:40But,
01:02:40that's right.
01:02:42That's right.
01:02:44That's right.
01:02:44I think we need to take this situation in such a situation.
01:02:47Then we need to get married.
01:02:49Because we need to get married to them.
01:02:53Yes, we need to get married.
01:02:54But again, if you don't be pragmatic,
01:02:57then we need to bear consequences.
01:03:00I think the responsibility of both parties is the responsibility.
01:03:04If the other one gets pressured,
01:03:06then the other one doesn't know the reality.
01:03:09I can't do it anymore.
01:03:11It's the same.
01:03:12There are no parties.
01:03:13There are no parties.
01:03:15The third daughter, the man who is 22 years old,
01:03:18he was a mother of her.
01:03:20It was his life.
01:03:22He knew that a girl can't do my best.
01:03:27He could not do his best.
01:03:30He couldn't do his best.
01:03:32He couldn't stand on his two feet.
01:03:38He had to give him the same time.
01:03:40should be settled or established in order to make an eye.
01:03:45That was a withdrawal.
01:03:47And that was also a compromise.
01:03:49We should be going to compromise.
01:03:51This is because we should be talking about which age for divorce,
01:03:55then whether to be married to girls,
01:03:57it is very important to be able to make the decision power
01:04:00for girls to even assert.
01:04:04And then, to be able to make the decision decisions,
01:04:07to be able to make a decision decision.
01:04:09because their lives are just like a dream,
01:04:11and sometimes it's like a girl.
01:04:13If it doesn't match the wrong way,
01:04:15and they're also going to take the relationship,
01:04:20and they're also going to pressure,
01:04:22because it's never going to be like this,
01:04:23it's not going to happen,
01:04:25so they're going to take the relationship,
01:04:28where there's compatibility,
01:04:30love, love, and love.
01:04:32There's no problem.
01:04:34And mismatch marriages,
01:04:35the consequences are not just these,
01:04:37that it's going to be divorced.
01:04:38If you stay with the same,
01:04:40you have to see all the life consequences,
01:04:43but you have to see generations.
01:04:45Generations.
01:04:46That's one thing.
01:04:47I'm telling you,
01:04:48how many of them have gone through the trauma,
01:04:49the depression,
01:04:50the illness,
01:04:51and now,
01:04:52how many years have you been born?
01:04:5433.
01:04:55In 33,
01:04:55he's still looking at his ground,
01:04:58and trying to establish,
01:05:00and then he's going to begin all over again.
01:05:04It's obvious,
01:05:04Inshallah.
01:05:05Normally,
01:05:05girls,
01:05:0628,
01:05:0739,
01:05:0730,
01:05:08this margin,
01:05:09that they can establish so much,
01:05:13or in their struggle,
01:05:15at the initial stage,
01:05:16then they're very settled.
01:05:17This,
01:05:18girls,
01:05:19they get so much margin,
01:05:20because of biological clock,
01:05:24they don't get so much margin,
01:05:25and after 30,
01:05:26after 30,
01:05:26they have to face their difficulties.
01:05:28But,
01:05:29the time,
01:05:31the research,
01:05:32the medical technology,
01:05:34is going to be better.
01:05:36Now,
01:05:37many of them,
01:05:39who have also been born after 40,
01:05:41and after 38,
01:05:42and after 38,
01:05:43because of everything,
01:05:44it's going to be a change.
01:05:47So,
01:05:48when I married,
01:05:49the biological clock was that,
01:05:51that after 30,
01:05:52or after 34,
01:05:53don't do a child.
01:05:54But,
01:05:54now,
01:05:55changes are coming.
01:05:57Now,
01:05:57many changes are coming.
01:05:58It's difficult to be,
01:05:59but it doesn't happen.
01:06:01It's not possible.
01:06:01The biological clock,
01:06:04one woman's worth,
01:06:08is evaluated.
01:06:10It's like,
01:06:10it's made by the beauty of her,
01:06:11and the beauty of her,
01:06:13and the beauty of her.
01:06:14So,
01:06:15there is also,
01:06:16that,
01:06:16that,
01:06:16that,
01:06:17that,
01:06:17that,
01:06:17that,
01:06:19that,
01:06:20we're going to try to understand,
01:06:21because,
01:06:21if people don't conceive
01:06:23and not be able to do it,
01:06:25there is no need to reason,
01:06:26just the infertility.
01:06:28It can happen,
01:06:29from the girl's towards the side.
01:06:31Sometimes,
01:06:32there can be a case.
01:06:34You don't know,
01:06:36why will they conceive the way
01:06:37you are going to see.
01:06:38Yeah.
01:06:39So,
01:06:40we're after,
01:06:42we have ajer,
01:06:42which means that,
01:06:45the guilt or the death,
01:06:46whatever that goes on,
01:06:47we're grateful to you.
01:06:49Yes, Lubna.
01:06:54Yes, Lubna.
01:06:55Are you sisters?
01:06:56Yes.
01:06:58I have six sisters.
01:07:00Okay.
01:07:01And I remember now that my parents can't do wrong.
01:07:04Yes.
01:07:04So, I was the only one that I had to do wrong with my children.
01:07:08Because I grew up and grew up with my father-in-law.
01:07:12So, I didn't do so much.
01:07:13So, I didn't do so much.
01:07:14I didn't do so much.
01:07:17I didn't care.
01:07:18And I married my children.
01:07:20If you weren't confident,
01:07:22my children have no good.
01:07:24I got so much of age....
01:07:25I said,
01:07:26my daughter is the only one who is my uncle being married.
01:07:29He's a uncle.
01:07:31He's so much.
01:07:32He's a lot of age.
01:07:34And I didn't see everything.
01:07:35Why?
01:07:36I saw this and I said,
01:07:37after my 4th daughter,
01:07:40After that, my husband was sick and I was still alive.
01:07:45One thing is that I had to pay attention to my family.
01:07:51I didn't have anything to pay attention to my children.
01:07:54But I was just saying that my children are growing up.
01:07:56And I would have to go home and get a job for them.
01:08:02So, my husband told me that I had to pay attention to them.
01:08:05I said that this is not how it would be, but I had a good time to do this for
01:08:10her, but my husband started doing it in the early years.
01:08:12I just told her that this is my son, but I have to do the same thing.
01:08:16But it's the same thing that I have done and I also have to do this for my husband.
01:08:24If you know the concerns of your children that you are standing on your shoulders, then you won't get back
01:08:31too fast.
01:08:32and if mothers should be full on their own education,
01:08:36they don't get hurt and get a job.
01:08:39That's why I was angry, I was angry.
01:08:40They know the world, they know the world,
01:08:43they know the world, they know the world.
01:08:45When the girls don't see the world,
01:08:47they send them to another home,
01:08:49then they don't know the world,
01:08:54they don't know the world.
01:08:55They have to decide how to get a generation,
01:08:57or undo their children's future.
01:09:01But they don't know how to do this.
01:09:04Why do they think about this?
01:09:06This is what they think about this house,
01:09:10and this one is the next house.
01:09:11There is no way to go out in the world,
01:09:14so they don't know how to get in the water.
01:09:17What do they think about this house,
01:09:22and this one is the next house.
01:09:23There is no journey here.
01:09:27I am watching a drama that is Urwa and Ahsan's drama.
01:09:31Your love.
01:09:33Urwa and Ahsan's drama is actually more than Umair Ahimed.
01:09:38So I am watching that at that moment you have been able to study or study.
01:09:45Then you have gone to a certain few years later.
01:09:49And that girl was standing there.
01:09:52She didn't grow.
01:09:52She didn't grow.
01:09:53She just grew up and grew up.
01:09:57She didn't grow.
01:09:58Then you thought that we are not being made for another.
01:10:02She is not my compatibility.
01:10:05She is not a self-fulfillment.
01:10:06She is not a brainwashed.
01:10:08She is not educated.
01:10:10I am thinking about 14 years later.
01:10:11I have seen many couples who are not educated.
01:10:18So they give them a margin.
01:10:21They grow.
01:10:23They grow.
01:10:23They grow.
01:10:24They grow.
01:10:36They grow.
01:10:37They grow.
01:10:39They grow.
01:10:42They grow.
01:10:43They grow.
01:10:50And they grow.
01:10:51They grow.
01:10:54And they grow.
01:10:56They grow.
01:10:57that she will go to my home from the other house and she will be able to get her children.
01:11:02The purpose of life is that a woman is so small,
01:11:06that it will be strange that I didn't think about this.
01:11:12You have to take a girl from here and keep her children from here
01:11:16because she has been born with a child.
01:11:20The world has changed.
01:11:22Today, it has changed.
01:11:24We have to make no match without her.
01:11:26You are there.
01:11:27To create greater strength and share herons.
01:11:33You can see her relatives in her family or friends.
01:11:36If there are any more important things.
01:11:39To bring her out to her.
01:11:40To bring her wrong decisions and to bring her those wrong decisions.
01:11:46And then to get into life life.
01:11:49This doesn't matter.
01:11:51because at the end there is the fact that you have said that
01:11:54these two people have to live.
01:11:55The children have to go to their lives,
01:11:57good or bad,
01:11:58what they have given to them,
01:12:00or what they have given to them,
01:12:02they have given to them one day their lives.
01:12:05And how they become their lives,
01:12:08they have to depend on their lives.
01:12:11And if we don't give them the strength
01:12:12that they have to keep their lives on their own,
01:12:16then they have to sit on their shoulders
01:12:18and they have to go to their home.
01:12:21And also to their children.
01:12:22Before they sit on their shoulders,
01:12:25please don't do a marriage.
01:12:26They will be able to get married.
01:12:30Their time is very bad for them.
01:12:32But after the marriage,
01:12:33one more thing is that
01:12:34it will be a good job.
01:12:36It will be a good job.
01:12:38Give it to him,
01:12:39give it to him,
01:12:39give it to him.
01:12:41It will be a good job.
01:12:42It will be a good job.
01:12:43You see,
01:12:44the girl is a very powerful woman,
01:12:45then she will marry.
01:12:46And when she is a good kid,
01:12:50after the marriage of the marriage,
01:12:51after the marriage of the marriage,
01:12:54after the marriage,
01:12:56the marriage of the marriage.
01:12:57And then to get married.
01:12:58When a man is a good man,
01:12:59the girl is under-estimate too.
01:13:01And it can't come.
01:13:02But if she doesn't have come.
01:13:05If it comes to her,
01:13:06she won't be done.
01:13:07So everyone gets prepared.
01:13:08When she gets married,
01:13:13there is no way,
01:13:15she will be prepared for it.
01:13:15when we all talk about it, it's our place.
01:13:18But if you think about it, it's your own place.
01:13:21She says that she's wrong with me.
01:13:23It's not that she's wrong with me.
01:13:26It's not that she's wrong with me.
01:13:26Before that, if children have difficult lives
01:13:29and wrong lives and wrong lives,
01:13:33they go out and see them and say,
01:13:36it's not that if they send them wrong with me,
01:13:40our work is gone.
01:13:42It's gone.
01:13:43It's gone.
01:13:44It's a break.
01:13:46Good morning, Pakistan.
01:13:55Welcome, welcome back.
01:13:57Good morning, Pakistan.
01:13:58So, today's topic,
01:13:59we have to share this topic.
01:14:00We have heard many stories.
01:14:05We have heard many myths.
01:14:07We have heard many stories.
01:14:08We have heard many stories.
01:14:12We have a story.
01:14:13We have seen about what happened.
01:14:16There are many women who live there in August.
01:14:18There are many stories in the past.
01:14:23Many people get up and get settled.
01:14:25They feel like they have been growing up.
01:14:28They have grown to them.
01:14:29They have grown up.
01:14:30They have grown up.
01:14:30They have grown up.
01:14:32So, it's not like that.
01:14:34There are all kinds of situations.
01:14:36And today we are saying that the age of marriage is not a stage.
01:14:39Every stage for each individual is different.
01:14:45That's what you have noticed.
01:14:47We are sitting in front of Annie.
01:14:50Annie.
01:14:51Assalamu alaikum.
01:14:51Wa alaikum assalam.
01:14:53My story is that in 2008,
01:14:56I completed my graduation for B.S.C.
01:14:59As my father said, she was married in early age.
01:15:03So, my mother also had this concept.
01:15:05The idea was that I would marry her too soon.
01:15:10We had a lot of children.
01:15:11So, they said that we would marry her too soon.
01:15:14So, my marriage was like that.
01:15:16As I completed my university,
01:15:19I had offered me good jobs.
01:15:21But both of them,
01:15:22I met my husband and my husband.
01:15:24So, there was a gap between my and my husband.
01:15:27And I was like 21 years old.
01:15:30I was like 21 years old.
01:15:32And that was 42 years old.
01:15:34I heard your friend's father's father.
01:15:35Yes, my father's father.
01:15:39Why did you have a father's mother?
01:15:41Was he well-off?
01:15:42Yes, he was a farmer.
01:15:44He was a Punjabi family.
01:15:47He was a Punjabi family.
01:15:48He was a Punjabi family.
01:15:49I was in Punjab.
01:15:49And I was going to be in Karachi.
01:15:51But they married me in Punjab.
01:15:54And did you think?
01:15:55Not being married or pregnant?
01:15:56And I just wanted to the husband again.
01:15:58I was convinced of an husband.
01:15:59So, my mom said
01:16:00that she didn't want to take the kids so she didn't make the kids like that.
01:16:05She's like you're not going to get the kids right away.
01:16:07So, I had two hundred and a half years old.
01:16:08So, my aunt, I knew he was like,
01:16:14You were just like,
01:16:15And I'm like,
01:16:16You've just like,
01:16:17And I'm like,
01:16:24You're like,
01:16:24There was a lot of people in the village and the whole set-up.
01:16:30But we couldn't get into our mind.
01:16:33How would you get into your age?
01:16:37Was it their first marriage?
01:16:38Yes, yes.
01:16:41Because they were little brothers and sisters,
01:16:43they settled their age.
01:16:48I had a very old relationship with them.
01:16:51My father-in-law married me.
01:16:52My father-in-law married me.
01:16:53They said that I would like to make all of them.
01:16:56But our whole day wasn't a conversation.
01:17:00The relationship was also wrong.
01:17:03Yes, but I had to keep it in mind.
01:17:06I tried to make this decision.
01:17:08If my parents had to make this decision,
01:17:10I would like to make it in mind.
01:17:12I had to keep it in mind.
01:17:14I started to make my job.
01:17:15I started to study my private school.
01:17:17I also had to work there.
01:17:18I had to stay there.
01:17:20But the age gap, the difference of our lives,
01:17:25that could not be maintained.
01:17:27And it was silent.
01:17:29It was silent.
01:17:31It was silent.
01:17:31It was silent.
01:17:32It was silent.
01:17:33It was silent.
01:17:33I was angry.
01:17:34I was angry.
01:17:36I was angry.
01:17:37I was angry.
01:17:38I was angry.
01:17:39I was angry.
01:17:40I was angry.
01:17:40I had to keep myself apart.
01:17:42I was angry.
01:17:43I did not want to be angry.
01:17:47My child has been angry.
01:17:47I have been angry.
01:17:48I have had to go through my life.
01:17:51I've been angry when my child has changed.
01:17:54And I am angry when my child has changed.
01:17:55I am angry at the moment.
01:18:00Now, when they have changed my child.
01:18:03I am angry.
01:18:07I will take a rent and build a house and set up and now I have heard that in 2015
01:18:15they married and married in the family.
01:18:20Now I am different, I am different, I am different.
01:18:23No, no, no.
01:18:25So you have your entire life, your entire time has gone?
01:18:28Yes, I am stuck and my mind doesn't work.
01:18:31Your entire life is stuck.
01:18:34It is an investment that you invest in your family.
01:18:38So it is all added.
01:18:41And the time is gone, it doesn't come back.
01:18:43The story started, the parents said that they will do it.
01:18:47And they accepted that they will do it.
01:18:51What did they do?
01:18:52In 21 years, the girl doesn't understand.
01:18:56If my parents are older, they are intelligent, they are intelligent, they have seen the world,
01:19:02so many children leave them to their parents.
01:19:06This is the thing.
01:19:07If they want someone to love them, they say no, no, no.
01:19:10We can't take a decision.
01:19:12Our parents will take a decision.
01:19:13Our parents will be better.
01:19:15And they will be better.
01:19:16And I say that my parents are human, they are not human.
01:19:21It is not possible to do it.
01:19:23It is a wrong thing.
01:19:24It is a true story.
01:19:25They saw your parents.
01:19:27They saw your parents.
01:19:28They saw your parents.
01:19:29My mother saw it.
01:19:30My father was a father of my father.
01:19:33So now it is a time for 8 years.
01:19:36My father was a father.
01:19:37I asked her husband to ask her why.
01:19:39Why did you do it?
01:19:40She said that my father was a lot of pride.
01:19:43My daughter wrote it.
01:19:45She will do it.
01:19:45She will do it.
01:19:46So you will do it.
01:19:47Then do it.
01:19:48I asked her,
01:19:49I don't know if you think about it.
01:19:51Do it.
01:19:52Do it.
01:19:53I did.
01:19:55She did.
01:19:55She did.
01:19:55She did.
01:19:56She did.
01:19:58She did.
01:19:58She did.
01:19:59She did.
01:20:00She did.
01:20:02She did.
01:20:04She did.
01:20:07She did.
01:20:09She fell apart.
01:20:09She did.
01:20:09I had twowal power세ers.
01:20:11A'.
01:20:12The one that,
01:20:13what would this happen to you was safe.
01:20:15It would be.
01:20:15their parents,
01:20:16their parents especially took up a check.
01:20:18That they started it.
01:20:19They made it mature when they 250 peopleağı don't.
01:20:25They started it.
01:20:25They had to learn from it.
01:20:27They will be green.
01:20:29All these.
01:20:30They have to go to bed.
01:20:30but
01:20:32I don't know.
01:20:33My parents ready to find one.
01:20:35But I don't know.
01:20:35I think you can find a life-long life.
01:20:44You can find a life-long life-long life.
01:20:45It's not like 2-4-10 days, 20 days, 1-2 months.
01:20:49You can see that's the same thing.
01:20:53You have to do it, and you have to do it.
01:20:54You have to do it.
01:20:56You have to do it.
01:20:57Was your husband's work for him?
01:20:59No, no.
01:21:00No, no.
01:21:01It's just my friend.
01:21:03He was my father.
01:21:07You have to have the birth of a father.
01:21:09You have to have the birth of a father.
01:21:11I think that you have to grow older than parents.
01:21:15Who has the father?
01:21:18No, no.
01:21:23No, I'm not doing it.
01:21:26I'm doing it.
01:21:26I'm doing it.
01:21:26I'm doing it myself.
01:21:27I'm studying it.
01:21:27I'm doing it myself.
01:21:29I'm doing it myself.
01:21:31When you were independent and 21 years ago,
01:21:34who is the path?
01:21:35I'm so surprised.
01:21:38What is this?
01:21:43What do you think about it?
01:21:44What do you think about it?
01:21:45Now, I don't understand anything.
01:21:47I feel like I'm looking at things.
01:21:50I feel like I'm looking at things.
01:21:51I feel like I'm trying to make my mind.
01:21:55I feel like I'm getting stuck.
01:21:56I feel like I'm not getting stuck in that opinion.
01:21:58And I don't know what I have to do.
01:22:00What do I want to do?
01:22:02What do I want to do?
01:22:03And just...
01:22:05I'm so sorry for your loss.
01:23:05I'm so sorry for your loss.
01:23:34I'm so sorry for your loss.
01:23:35I'm so sorry for your loss.
01:24:26I'm so sorry for your loss.
01:24:35I'm so sorry for your loss.
01:24:38I'm so sorry for your loss.
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