00:04How much is the cheating part of this story?
00:10It's a lot. It's a lot of times.
00:14It's a lot of times.
00:15It's a lot of times.
00:15It's a lot of times.
00:16It's a lot of times.
00:17It's a lot of times.
00:19In 2015, you got together.
00:23You didn't get married.
00:24It's a lot of research.
00:26And then, may cheating na.
00:282017, nagkabalikan.
00:302018, nagpakasal.
00:312019, meron na namang cheating.
00:342020, nagkaroon ng balikan.
00:372021, cheating.
00:39Hanggang naghiwalay na kayo, 2022.
00:41So, kung titignan mo yung timeline,
00:44bakit paulit-ulit?
00:46Tito Boy, naniwala ako sa...
00:50Ang isang taong to, merong mabuti dito.
00:54Naniwala ako na yung tinuturo ko sa kanya,
00:57na kapag nakilala niya si Lord,
00:59feeling ko ganun eh,
01:00na magiging maayos to.
01:02Tapos, tito Boy,
01:04dati hindi ko ito naisip pa.
01:05Pero ngayon, wala akong pinagsisihan
01:06kasi ginawa ko po lang yung part ko as a wife
01:09na hindi ko muna po agad mabibitawan eh
01:11kasi kinasal kayo.
01:13So, nilaban ko po ng nilaban.
01:16Hanggang sa...
01:17Ayun na, hindi na.
01:19Parang hindi na talaga ako dapat para dito.
01:21At saka tayo, may mga naniniwala talaga ng second chances.
01:24Always, ika nga, second chances.
01:27Pero ang tanong,
01:28nung hindi pa kayo kinasal,
01:30nalaman namin that he already cheated.
01:35Ang tanong,
01:36bakit mo pa rin siya pinakasalan?
01:40Tito Boy, yun nga, naniwala ako sa kanya.
01:43Hindi naman po kasi siya,
01:45yung parang nagloko siya tas iniwan ka.
01:49Bumabalik-balik pa rin siya.
01:50Naawa ako, Tito Boy.
01:51Opo, mahal ko po siya.
01:53Mahal ko po siya ng time na yun.
01:54Kaya po po siya pinagang pakasalan.
01:56At patawarin.
01:58Kasi...
01:59Ano, Tito Boy,
02:00meron ako mapagpatawad na puso talaga.
02:02At naawa ako.
02:03Yun yung naawa ako.
02:03Alam ko na pupunta ka sa mali yung ginagawa mo.
02:08Oo.
02:09Maliban sa cheating,
02:10meron pang ibang dahilan?
02:16Tito Boy, siguro sa cheating doon nag-start eh.
02:19Okay.
02:19Kasi mag-cheat tapos mag-aaway kami.
02:22Doon na lumalabas doon yung mga ugali siya pag nag-aaway.
02:25Okay.
02:26Kailan mo nalaman that...
02:28Tama na.
02:30Enough is enough.
02:31Alam namin 2022,
02:34pero bakit mo na realize yun in 2022?
02:41Tito Boy, ano eh.
02:43Ito na yung pinakasagad ko eh.
02:45Alam ko na wala akong pagsisiyan,
02:46ginawa ko lahat,
02:47kesa naman Tito Boy na,
02:49ay,
02:50magsisi ako,
02:50dapat pala pinatawad ko
02:52kasi kinasal kami.
02:53Hindi naman kami mag-boyfriend-girlfriend lang eh.
02:54Kasi dati yun ang iyong pananaw.
02:56Diba?
02:56Pinakasalan ko ito,
02:57mahal to,
02:57magbabago ito,
02:59yun yung mga dahilan.
03:01Ngayon...
03:01Tito Boy, ano kasi,
03:02paulit-ulit ako,
03:03nasa ER,
03:04pabalik-balik ako,
03:05nagka-ansight,
03:06nagka-depression.
03:07Nau-ospital po ako,
03:08tinatakbo ko sa ER Tito Boy.
03:10Like,
03:10wala na Tito Boy,
03:11nasa Mars na lang,
03:12papunta na ako Mars,
03:13nakaganyan na lang ako.
03:14Tulala talaga.
03:15Hindi ako naliligo,
03:15hindi ako nagsusuklay,
03:17buhol-buhol yung buho ko.
03:18Like,
03:18nakita ko yung papa ko,
03:20pag nakikita niya ako,
03:21hindi niya ako maharap,
03:21si papa ko.
03:22Kasi pag nakita niya ako,
03:23sobrang payat ko Tito Boy,
03:25lubog na lubog ang mukha ko.
03:27Tapos,
03:27gusto kong kumain,
03:28hindi ako makakain.
03:29Gusto ko matulog,
03:31pero hindi ka makatulog.
03:32Gusto ko mabuhay Tito Boy,
03:33pero para kang mamatay.
03:35So,
03:36doon ko na-realize,
03:37tsaka ang dami kong galit.
03:38Pinagdaanan ko Tito Boy,
03:39naging bitter ka,
03:40nagalit ka,
03:41gusto mo gumante,
03:42pain,
03:43sakit na sakit ka.
03:44So, sabi ko, hindi ako to.
03:44Alisin ko yung sarili ko dito,
03:46naaawa ko sa sarili ko.
03:48Kaya, tama na.
03:49Hindi na.
03:51Aalis na ako.
04:37Nung tumakbo ang dad mo noon,
04:40anong reaksyon mo?
04:41Oh no!
04:42Ah, talaga?
04:43Bisi siya noon!
04:44Bisi!
04:44Bisi!
04:44No, I think it's because
04:49nasagot na rin naman niya to
04:50sa sarili niyang mga pag-iisip, di ba?
04:53Because it's something that he doesn't know.
04:55He doesn't know well.
04:57He was never confident.
04:58I mean, he's been,
04:59people have been trying to, you know,
05:01tell him na tumakbo ka, makakatulong ka.
05:04And I think he's very smart
05:08to understand na hindi niya yun forte.
05:11So, nung tumakbo siya,
05:12siyempre, marang nalungkot din ako
05:14kasi parang kakayanin ba niya yung stress?
05:18I mean, it's a different,
05:21completely different world.
05:23And iniisip ko rin siyempre yung health niya
05:26and then yung magiging buhay niya,
05:29magiging buhay namin, mga anak niya.
05:32And, you know,
05:33mabait talaga ang Diyos sa kanya
05:35na hindi siya nanalo.
05:36Because he's set out to do other things
05:39where he's more than capable to help.
05:42Okay.
05:43Balikan ko lamang ng konti.
05:44Pumasok na ang dad mo noon.
05:45May mga nagkakagusto
05:47because he performed very well
05:49in surveys, no?
05:51Meron namang talagang harsh criticism
05:53ang ibinabato kay Willie
05:55for many reasons.
05:57Noong mga nangyayari
05:58at nagaganap yung mga kritisismo
06:00sa tatay mo,
06:01how were you reacting?
06:03Definitely, I didn't read those.
06:06Ah, talaga?
06:06Iniwasan mo na magbasa?
06:08Bata pa lang ako,
06:09alam ko na hindi dapat magbasa
06:10ng mga panget na things.
06:12Natutunan ko yan kay Oprah
06:14kung bakit minsan
06:15iniiwasan natin yung ganoon.
06:16Sabi ni Oprah,
06:18she had this fight
06:19with the comedian,
06:21Monique.
06:22May linyo sa doon na
06:24by reading and by listening
06:26to something that is negative
06:27is actually allowing
06:28that voice,
06:30that negative voice
06:31into your space.
06:32Sabi ko, ah,
06:33ganun pala yun.
06:34Bukas ba kayo
06:36magpumasok sa politika?
06:37Hindi po.
06:39Ito kaya buhay namin ganito,
06:40magulo na.
06:41Maso, doble.
06:43Wala.
06:44Pwede naman,
06:45di ba pwede naman tayong tumulong
06:46nung mula tayong
06:47nasa pwesto, di ba?
06:49Meron lang mong babasahin
06:50a quote na
06:50you posted in January,
06:53Meme.
06:54Sabi mo,
06:54this is about your dad.
06:56And I quote,
06:57life gave us
06:58a second chance
06:58not to rewrite,
06:59I love this,
07:00not to rewrite the past,
07:01but to understand,
07:04understand it with
07:05kinder eyes
07:05and softer hearts.
07:07We are grateful
07:07for this chapter
07:09and quote.
07:10Grabe.
07:11Ganda, no?
07:12Grabe siya, no?
07:13Pero ang ganda,
07:15hindi para,
07:16hindi para,
07:17hindi para,
07:17hindi para,
07:18hindi para,
07:18hindi para,
07:18hindi para,
07:18pero para mas maunawaan.
07:20Ngayon ko na,
07:22naunawaan yun.
07:23What was that?
07:24Siguro,
07:24tito boy,
07:25nabigyan kasi kami
07:25ng second chance
07:26na maging close,
07:28yan,
07:28magkaroon ng relasyon
07:29with him
07:30na kaming magkakapatid.
07:32So,
07:32parang naisip ko lang na,
07:34you know,
07:35habang tumatanda ka,
07:36you never want to
07:38discredit
07:39kung ano yung pinagdaanan
07:40ng mga magulang mo.
07:42Oo,
07:42kasi valid yun.
07:43Valid yun.
07:44Valid ID.
07:44Valid ID yun.
07:46Nasingit mo ba?
07:47Of course.
07:48And,
07:49kumbaga,
07:49yun yung root,
07:50di ba,
07:51kung bakit siya ganitong,
07:52tayo,
07:53we are,
07:54we are forged
07:55by different circumstances
07:57sa buhay natin.
07:59Kaya tayo ganito.
08:00So,
08:01we have to have compassion
08:02to our parents
08:04na kung minsan
08:05hindi natin naiintindihan
08:06pero hindi natin alam
08:07kung ano yung pinagdaanan nila.
08:09Tama.
08:09Kumusta ang iyong relasyon
08:11sa iyong tatay naman.
08:12Okay naman po.
08:13That's good.
08:13Really,
08:14if you're watching,
08:15hello mula sa amin.
09:19Ako, I just desire peace.
09:22I really protect my peace.
09:25For me, no amount of money, success, or recognition is worth your anxiety or being stressed.
09:37So that's what really I do.
09:43So how do you do that?
09:46How do you block off?
09:48For example, the voice, the opinion of everyone, right?
09:52Yes, yes.
09:52We're going to be able to do that.
09:54How do you protect your peace?
09:56I'm very intentional about it.
09:58I don't, when it comes to social media, pagdating sa work, I don't really, yun nga, I don't really read
10:04comments.
10:05Comments.
10:05I know that will affect my mental health.
10:10I understand that.
10:11Yes.
10:11And then, pag-ising ko talaga sa umaga, I meditate.
10:15So I just do breathing.
10:17And I pray a lot.
10:18You're right.
10:19I pray.
10:20Kailangan yun.
10:22Sa edad mong yan, mas marami pa dapat.
10:24Mas matindi pang data.
10:26Pak-usaping pera, Keisel.
10:27Nasaan ka naman?
10:28Ang dami niyan.
10:29May haman to.
10:29Big time to.
10:31I don't...
10:31Pagsamahin tayong dalawa kulang.
10:33Hindi.
10:34Medyo nakikita naman sa projection.
10:36Hindi?
10:37So, okay.
10:38I think, you know, money is important.
10:41But it shouldn't make your world.
10:44Yes, that's true.
10:44It should be your world.
10:46But, yun.
10:46Dapat hindi mo siya mundo.
10:47O, dapat stable ka lang.
10:49Tsaka, the more na mag-isip, parang mamroblema ka sa money, the more na ka, parang the more
10:55your problems, the more money problems you'll have.
10:58So, ako parang, di ba, yung ibang...
11:01Kasi I know some people, they really, like, log yung expenses, yung ganyan.
11:06Which, ano, dapat gano'n naman.
11:08Pero ako kasi nasa-stress ako pag nakikita ko yung expenses ko.
11:12So, hindi ko na lang na nilalog.
11:56So, hindi ko na lang na nilalog.
11:58So, hindi lamang mga awitin mo ang inspiring.
12:13Your story is also inspiring.
12:16You know, you survive cancer.
12:20You know, on my way here, I was speaking to a friend.
12:22At sabi niya, sino ang guest mo?
12:23Sabi si Joey Albert.
12:25Pakisabi sa kanya, thank you.
12:27For many reasons.
12:28Di ba?
12:29I mean, it was not easy, Joey.
12:31Cervical cancer, colon...
12:33Twice.
12:34Yes, and then colon.
12:36Paano mo sinurvivium?
12:40You know, it's just really one foot in front of the other when it's something like that.
12:44And hope and faith.
12:47Alam ko naman na...
12:50Actually, alam ko na yung background kasi my family has what we call the Lynch Syndrome, right?
12:54So, nakita ko na yung father ko yung maon.
12:57Nakita ko na yung sister ko yung maon.
12:58So, parang half of you expects it already na.
13:02Mangyayari ito sa akin.
13:03So, no, finally, nangyayari na sa akin.
13:04Actually, syempre, pag tuwing nangyayari, isipin mo, ito na ba, Lord?
13:08Ito na ba, Lord?
13:09Pero, alam mo, dahil siguro nakita ko na yung daddy ko tsaka ate ko, parang...
13:15There was a part of me na parang naghahanda na lang.
13:18Kasi...
13:19And that's why every day of my life, every moment of my life, every decision I made,
13:23sinubukan ko talaga at sinikap kong gawing decision para sa kabutihan ng pamilya ko,
13:29ng mga anak ko, ng asawa ko,
13:31or ng mga naniwala sa akin throughout my career.
13:35At least, alam ko na pag may nangyayari sa akin, maganda na yung naiwanan ko.
13:39So, mahirap, masakit.
13:41Syempre, at syaka, alam mo yung pagpalaki sa akin ng nanay ko,
13:44laging sinasabi, huwag na huwag mong papakita sa tao na naghihirap ka
13:47kasi hindi maganda yun.
13:48So, I'd always come back here with...
13:50Like, parang walang nangyayari.
13:52But, you know, it helps you also to carry that burden joyfully.
13:58Kasi, kaya nai-inspire ibang tao.
14:01Natututo rin sila na nakikita nila na kung kaya ni Joey, kaya ko rin.
14:06So...
14:06Exactly what my friends said.
14:07Oo, eh.
14:08So, pero, tito ba, hindi ko itatago.
14:11Hindi naman ako magkukunwari.
14:12Syempre, mahirap.
14:13Tsaka masakit na masakit.
14:14Masakit yung chemo.
14:15Masakit yung side effects.
14:17Mahirap din nakikita mo na parang
14:20naubos yung puk mo konti-konti.
14:22Parang, tsaka parang yung uncertainty.
14:24I think it's also the uncertainty na,
14:26of course, yes, laban ka ng laban ng laban.
14:28Pero hindi man naman talaga alam kung
14:30hanggang saan ka dadali nung
14:33nung paglalaban mo, right?
14:34Yeah.
14:35Although,
14:37courage lang.
14:38Oh, Joey, what's your point na
14:40nawalan ka ng buho?
14:41No, no.
14:42But it was very thin.
14:43I think I came home here one time.
14:45Dumating ako din,
14:46nag-show ako dito one time
14:47na manipis na yung buho.
14:48Asaka confronted by your own mortality.
14:50Di ba?
14:50Face-to-face yan eh.
14:52Absolutely.
14:52Face-to-face.
14:53But it makes you,
14:54it makes you think
14:55every day,
14:56ano ba yung ginagawa ko today?
14:58Tama ba yung ginagawa ko?
14:59Nakabubuti ba?
15:00Nakaka-inspire ba?
15:02Kasi na yung life natin,
15:03ripple effect, right?
15:04Everything we do
15:05causes ripples around us
15:07sa circle natin, right?
15:09In our circle of influence.
15:11So everything you do
15:12has a ripple effect.
15:13Maganda ba yung ginawa mo?
15:15Mabait ka ba?
15:16Pag namatay ka ba?
15:17Maganda yung sasabihin nila
15:18tungkol sa'yo.
15:19Di ba?
15:19Niisip mo yan, di ba?
15:20And it pushes you there.
15:22It pushes you
15:22and makes you a better person.
15:24That's why there's that kasabihan,
15:26blessed by cancer.
15:27Touched by cancer.
15:29Kasi pag kami sakit kang ganyan,
15:30nakakanoon ka ng panahon,
15:31para mag-isip,
15:32panahon para
15:34ayusin yung buhay mo
15:35or change your perspectives.
15:36Which really happens
15:37when you have cancer.
15:38Nagbabago lahat ng perspective mo.
15:40One of the biggest perspectives
15:41of mine that changed is
15:43dati yun na people pleaser ako noon eh.
15:45I was a people pleaser.
15:47Kasi yun yung pagpakalaki sa akin.
15:49I had a Catholic upbringing, right?
15:51Catholic convent school.
15:52So yun palagi yung
15:53other-centeredness.
15:54But yun na naka-cancer na ako,
15:56parang
15:57that's when I realized
15:58kailangan matuturin ako
15:59maharin sarili ko na
16:01pag wala ako,
16:02wala din naman ako
16:02magagawa para sa iba.
16:04So I learned to
16:06conserve my energy
16:06and to think about myself,
16:08to protect my inner peace.
16:09And kung mga taong
16:11nakakasira lang
16:12sa buhay ko
16:14or sa inner peace ko,
16:16sorry,
16:17pero talagang
16:18iniiwasan ko na lang sila,
16:19inaalis ko na lang sa buhay ko.
16:20Kailangan ganun na pala eh.
16:23I hear you.
16:23Priya po rá tonight value to naga.
16:51So the
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