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JAN is a trans man and Kylie is a trans woman. Their relationship began on a dating app, where they matched instantly. Both were already transitioning when they met. Kylie found it difficult to meet cisgender men who saw her as more than a sexual figure or fantasy object. The couple identify as a trans-for-trans couple which they proudly represent on social media. Common negative comments include assumptions that they will eventually want to "switch back". The couple does not care about the judgment, as they were aware they would receive negative feedback when they chose to transition. Kylie's mother, Irene, was unsure about Jan's intentions - claiming that he is "too childlike" for her. Can Kylie convince her mum that Jan's intentions are pure?

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Transcript
00:00I'm Kylie.
00:01And I'm Jan.
00:02My mom always hated everyone that I had a relationship with.
00:06Jan is not a serious type.
00:09He might hurt my Kylie.
00:11He'd just play around.
00:12He might take advantage of Kylie's goodness.
00:15Kylie's mom didn't like me when we first started dating.
00:18I'm very nervous what she has to say.
00:21So what did you think when I told you about Jan?
00:24I'm not approved for that.
00:26So me and Jan met through a dating app.
00:30I actually really liked him immediately when I saw his photos.
00:34I told my friend,
00:35I will make this my boyfriend.
00:38Period.
00:39Like I manifested it.
00:40It was in our profiles that we are both friends.
00:43So yeah.
00:45Luckily I read and she read and we both like each other regardless.
00:50First, my mom was very hesitant.
00:54My mom Irene is coming over today.
00:59She's going to tell us everything that she feels about the relationship.
01:04She will be very honest and she won't hold back.
01:09Hi.
01:09John and Kylie, of course they are lovers.
01:13But I'm a little bit doubtful.
01:16My mom always hated everyone that I had a relationship with.
01:21So...
01:22For me, John is not a serious type.
01:29And he might hurt my Kylie.
01:32Kylie's mom didn't like me when we first started dating.
01:36I'm very nervous what she has to say.
01:38John might take advantage.
01:41Kylie's the breadwinner.
01:42He might take advantage of Kylie's goodness.
01:46I probably am going to talk to John and tell him that...
01:51I will hurt my Kylie and make sure that you love my Kylie because I love my daughter.
01:56I think my mom has raised her concerns about if John really loves me genuinely.
02:04And if John's intentions for me are real.
02:10I feel like I am old enough to really follow my instincts and follow my God.
02:16Wow!
02:18That's so good.
02:20Myself and I.
02:22So what did you think when I told you about John?
02:25I'm not approved for that.
02:27At first.
02:28At first.
02:29Yeah, at first.
02:30I just don't like it.
02:32And I'm not ready yet.
02:34Yeah.
02:34Because during that time, you were very, very busy with your career.
02:37I don't know.
02:38For me, he is the type of guy that you just play around.
02:44Not serious for that kind of relationship.
02:47The first time that I introduced John in social media,
02:50we told the world as well that we're dating and that we're both trans.
02:56Since I started dating John,
02:58I started getting a lot of like DMs
03:02telling me I look ugly and stuff.
03:05And like why...
03:06Why would John go for me?
03:09You're still a man and a woman in love.
03:12You're just role-switching.
03:14You'll procreate the same way normal people do.
03:17And your point is...
03:20I mean, yeah.
03:21We are a man and a woman.
03:22No switching happening here.
03:24If you are gender confused,
03:26turn to Jesus and he will heal you.
03:29God created only two genders.
03:31No in-betweens.
03:32Do not be deceived.
03:34We're fine as it is.
03:36I think we're cool.
03:37When I look at Kylie,
03:39she's the most beautiful girl that I dated.
03:42All of my exes, I don't really care.
03:44We just laughed through all of the judgments that we received.
03:49We're really secure as trans people.
03:52We're just in our own world.
03:55Why are you people hating on us?
03:57We just love each other.
03:59Aren't you guys happy with your life that you have to keep on putting us down?
04:03Why do you decide to take a trans man instead of a cis man?
04:12I feel like he understands me more.
04:14I mean, the way that I live my life now.
04:17But I think he really supports what I do, what I envision in my life.
04:22Early on, back in kindergarten,
04:24I was always hanging out with the girls, playing with the girls, playing with the dolls.
04:31I started medically transitioning September 2020.
04:35So I'm 25 now.
04:36I started transitioning at eating.
04:39We always take our hormone shots together.
04:43Yeah, we're kind of used to it.
04:45We do it before we sleep.
04:46It's actually one of our bonding moments.
04:49She's making me calm and helping me take my shots regularly and on time.
04:56People say that our relationship is kind of weird.
05:00Kylie is my first trans woman girlfriend.
05:03First trans woman that I dated actually.
05:06I think gender to me isn't a problem.
05:09I don't really care about gender.
05:10But then I started realizing that being with trans men made me feel comfortable about myself as well.
05:17I feel like they would understand me in a deeper level than other people.
05:22I used to be misgendered all the time.
05:25But dating trans women, I really can just be myself.
05:31Let me ask you guys.
05:33Do you plan heading this a long-term relationship?
05:39Yes.
05:40Yeah.
05:40Really?
05:41Like getting married?
05:43Something like that?
05:44Yeah.
05:44Yeah.
05:44I mean, we're talking about getting married then one day.
05:50Okay.
05:50So that must be serious.
05:52Yeah.
05:54As long as she don't hurt her, then I'm okay with that.
05:57As long as she doesn't hurt me also.
06:00Well, for Kylie, I know how she loves a man.
06:04I think people also have this notion of us.
06:08We were not gonna last.
06:09This relationship is just for fun.
06:12I can see.
06:14Are you serious?
06:16Yeah.
06:17Do you fight?
06:18Yeah, of course we do.
06:20In a normal relationship, everybody fights.
06:22Yeah.
06:22That's true.
06:23But we always talk about it and Kylie has her own opinions and I have my own opinion.
06:29We didn't grow up in the same household.
06:32Yeah.
06:33So the question is, do you think we make a good call?
06:39At first, no.
06:41Now?
06:42But now?
06:44Yeah.
06:45I can see that.
06:47I can see that.
06:48You know?
06:48John loves you so much and he loves you so much.
06:52So let's get married.
06:57John has taught me how to see myself in a different light where I would feel even more confident or
07:04I would feel more empowered.
07:06With Kylie, I am more confident and I can share more about being trans and what are the good things
07:13of being who you are really and not really having to hide in the shadows.
07:19I really do think that I would prefer people to both know that we're trans.
07:26Being proud about who we are is super important.
07:29We're putting ourselves out there also to show the visibility of trans people more.
07:35What I love about John is that I think he really brings out the best in me.
07:40Our relationship works because we're able to just be ourselves and we feel really comfortable just being together and we
07:47understand each other in so many ways.
07:49We don't misgender each other. We feel that each other's company is a safe space.
08:10This is very small members of the world.
08:10We'll get to DifferentIsn't it?
08:10We all hung over the world, I have advanced space, so many each other are the best.
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