Female Spending is OUT OF CONTROL! Twitter/X Livestream

Stefan Molyneux

Philosopher Stefan Molyneux discusses female spending on this 10 July 2026 livestream, showing how women burn money on clothes, makeup, eating out and travel while piling up debt in low-return college fields.  Sources: https://fdrurl.com/femalespending  0:00:00 Workplace Conflict  0:03:05 Women and Aggression  0:08:12 Making the Business Case  0:23:36 Women Spend and Status  0:46:11 Dating, College, and Hypergamy  1:05:32 Aging and Female Value  1:08:35 Society and Bad Choices   GET FREEDOMAIN MERCH! https://shop.freedomain.com/  SUBSCRIBE TO ME ON X! https://x.com/StefanMolyneux  Follow me on Youtube! https://www.youtube.com/@freedomain1  GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK! https://peacefulparenting.com/  Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!  Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!  You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!  See you soon! https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/FREEDOMAIN2026

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00:00:00Good afternoon, everybody. Welcome to Free Domain with me, your glorious, magnificent, and occasionally slightly oily host, Stefan Molyneux.

00:00:11Welcome to the wonderful world of philosophy, reason, and evidence.

00:00:16And I was just thinking about workplace conflicts.

00:00:22I find this really kind of a fascinating topic myself.

00:00:27I have, and if you want to jump in and let me know your thoughts about this, I was happy

00:00:31to take some calls.

00:00:34I have been in the workplace with people I don't really like.

00:00:38Men, like men I don't really like.

00:00:40Some women, but some men, like I really didn't like.

00:00:42I remember being in a play.

00:00:45It was actually quite fascinating.

00:00:46I was in a play, and I had to play a guy who got paralyzed.

00:00:50He had a stroke halfway through the play, got paralyzed on his left side.

00:00:54And I had a very sort of vivid director, this woman who directed me in the play, and she had

00:01:01me duct tape the entire left side of my body for rehearsals.

00:01:05It was really quite exciting, and also quite exciting to get out of.

00:01:11But the guy, there was a woman in the play, a man in the play, and me.

00:01:15It was a three-hander, obviously.

00:01:16And I really, really didn't like the actor.

00:01:19Some people, you know, just nails on a blackboard.

00:01:23Couldn't stand the guy.

00:01:24It just seemed so fake and performative and superior and pompous and just things that just drive me nuts.

00:01:33But we were able to do the play together.

00:01:34I remember the director kind of locked us in a room and told us to get along, and we just

00:01:38stared at each other.

00:01:40And, you know, when you just meet an enemy, you meet an enemy to your entire way of life, your

00:01:46entire way of thinking.

00:01:48And I just didn't like the guy.

00:01:49On the plus side, I had to dislike him in the play, so maybe he was a real method actor,

00:01:52too.

00:01:53But I remember in that situation, we disliked each other, but we got the job done.

00:01:59There were salespeople I disliked, but we got the job done.

00:02:03And, I mean, I lived in a tent in the woods in the winter, minus 35 degrees outside.

00:02:11We used jet fuel to heat the prospector's tent we lived in.

00:02:15Guys who were smokers, I didn't smoke, and it was just gross.

00:02:18But we got along.

00:02:19We got the job done.

00:02:22And my experience has been that if you have a problem with another man, you can kind of hold your

00:02:26nose and get the job done.

00:02:27Because men have to fight in battle.

00:02:29We had to hunt together, you know, sports and all of that.

00:02:31And you kind of have to get along with people, at least to the point of getting the job done.

00:02:36And my experience has been that men can kind of hold their noses and get the job done.

00:02:40And, of course, we're trained that way from very early on, right?

00:02:43You fight hard, you play hard, and then you shake hands at the end of it.

00:02:49And I've been in serious conflicts with guys, and then we end up just shrugging and doing our thing.

00:02:55And sometimes even that's with each other and so on.

00:02:58So, for whatever reason, and just evolutionary reasons and social reasons, men can dislike each other and get the job

00:03:05done.

00:03:06But, boy, in my experience, when women have a serious problem with someone in the workplace, they just go kind

00:03:12of feral.

00:03:12And they'll just burn the place down.

00:03:14They'll spread rumors.

00:03:16They'll undermine.

00:03:16They'll try and create alliances.

00:03:19They'll split people up into warring factions and so on.

00:03:22So, I just wanted to sort of mention that just a smidge.

00:03:27I'm not sure what the solution is.

00:03:30But men's aggression is always tempered by violence.

00:03:36Male aggression.

00:03:37I mean, with regards to men, right?

00:03:39Male aggression is always tempered by violence.

00:03:44I remember my best friend in junior high got into a conflict with this giant Lebanese fellow who, at the

00:03:51age of 12 or 13, had hair on the backs of his fingers.

00:03:54Like, just, you know, the guy who can pick up the motorball with one hand and send it halfway through

00:03:59the wall.

00:04:00And he got called out.

00:04:01He was talking some trash.

00:04:03And he got called out.

00:04:04And there was a big, ugly, brutal fight.

00:04:07And so, men learn not to run their mouths because, boys, right?

00:04:12You learn not to run your mouth because you get violence.

00:04:16I remember playing a video game in a bowling alley in Don Mills.

00:04:20And some kid unplugged the machine because he wanted to play.

00:04:24And I called him a jerk or a douchebag or something like that.

00:04:27And next thing you know, his much older brother, I was like 12.

00:04:31His older brother was like 17, was like hunting me through the halls of the high school, punching me in

00:04:36the arm as I went up the stairs.

00:04:38You're dead, man.

00:04:39Because apparently.

00:04:40So, you learn as a man, as a boy, not to run your mouth too much.

00:04:45And trash talking is a fascinating thing.

00:04:48I mean, I don't know if you've seen the studies.

00:04:49They're very interesting studies.

00:04:50And I'll get you in a sec, Valant.

00:04:52And so, the studies are actually quite interesting that genial trash talking is a sign of loyalty, respect, and friendship

00:05:02among men.

00:05:03And it's true.

00:05:04It's true.

00:05:05If you can trash talk with friends, it means that you don't take things too seriously.

00:05:10And it means that they're not too volatile, that they can take a joke.

00:05:13Sometimes it can go too far.

00:05:15But there's a sort of a middle ground.

00:05:17But trash talking is a way of exploring whether you're with a psycho-volatile person who's going to get upset

00:05:22at you.

00:05:24Because I remember playing some volleyball with some friends, and one of them was complaining about some sand in his

00:05:30eye.

00:05:30And I'm like, oh, the princess eyewash station is right over there, my lady.

00:05:35And, of course, I get it back as hard as I give sometimes.

00:05:41And so, Ben, we learned that if you make an enemy, you've got to get slugged.

00:05:49And you learn not to run your mouth.

00:05:51You learn not to take things too personally.

00:05:54You learn to turn the other cheek.

00:05:56You learn to let sleeping dogs lie.

00:05:58You learn not to end up in some Hatfields and McCoy escalation situation.

00:06:06I mean, just about every place where I was deplatformed in 2020 was run by females.

00:06:13Men, white males in particular, we support free speech.

00:06:18Others, not so much.

00:06:20And so, what is the cap on female aggression?

00:06:25What is the cap on female aggression?

00:06:27Now, of course, in the past, and, of course, I'm not advocating for any of this.

00:06:31It's a description, not a prescription, but, of course, in the past, this is sort of the Sean Connery thing,

00:06:37right?

00:06:37Like if a woman got too, quote, mouthy, she could get aggression from a male, which, again, I'm not –

00:06:44you should be able to say whatever you want.

00:06:46Violence is not the answer, but, you know, in the past.

00:06:49And women want equality, but, of course, everybody knows that you don't hit a girl, right?

00:06:54I mean, everybody with any reason and conscience knows that you don't hit a girl.

00:06:58Well, so what is it that puts the cap on female aggression?

00:07:04It's hard to know.

00:07:06Female aggression, of course, used to be – there used to be a cap on female aggression in that if

00:07:12a woman was too aggressive, let's say a wife with two kids, was too aggressive with her husband,

00:07:17you put him down, she hit him, she screamed at him or whatever, insulted him, then he'd just leave.

00:07:23So the cap on female aggression was being abandoned with your kids, and then what do you do?

00:07:27What do you do?

00:07:28It's too much, right?

00:07:30Now, alimony, child support, welfare state, free health care, free dental care, free pensions.

00:07:36A woman has no foundational fear of being left.

00:07:40So what is the cap on female aggression?

00:07:47Because women are as violent as males, and in some circumstances more violent.

00:07:54What is the cap on female aggression?

00:07:58I don't have an answer to that.

00:08:00I don't think society has an answer to that, which is one of the reasons why things are quite exciting

00:08:03these days.

00:08:04All right.

00:08:05Thank you for your patience, Monsieur LeBlanc.

00:08:09If you would like to let me know what's on your mind, I'm happy to rub neurons.

00:08:13Yeah.

00:08:14You know, I have an interesting question.

00:08:15My father was not a super aggressive guy, so I feel like I'm not aggressive enough.

00:08:22But I want to get a right balance on that.

00:08:25So give me a circumstance where you think you ought to be more aggressive.

00:08:28Very honest statement, by the way.

00:08:29I appreciate that.

00:08:31I just quit a job, and I think if I would have been more aggressive, I could have stayed there.

00:08:36Give me some breakdown of circumstances.

00:08:39Sure.

00:08:40I didn't like my boss, and instead of yelling at him, I just quit.

00:08:47Well, I don't know that yelling at your boss is necessarily the best solution.

00:08:52Maybe it is.

00:08:53I don't know.

00:08:53So what was the environment you were working in?

00:08:55Was it like the hospitality industry, business?

00:08:58Yeah.

00:08:58I'm IT.

00:08:59So I'm the guy, when your computer breaks, you call.

00:09:01I come down and fix it.

00:09:02Okay.

00:09:03The IT yodeler.

00:09:04Little old lady.

00:09:04Yeah.

00:09:05All right.

00:09:05Yeah.

00:09:06And I come over.

00:09:07All right.

00:09:07Yeah.

00:09:08And I fix it.

00:09:08Basically, he just didn't list.

00:09:09It's like our building was really old, and I kept telling him all the stuff that we needed

00:09:13to fix, and he didn't care.

00:09:16And I was like, all right, whatever.

00:09:17Well, what would you need to fix in the building with regards to IT?

00:09:21You mean like network infrastructure or something?

00:09:23Yeah.

00:09:23The infrastructure was old, the cabling, the cameras, just everything was falling apart.

00:09:27And I was like, this guy is so...

00:09:28And then I just got frustrated.

00:09:31He just wasn't listening.

00:09:32So I was like, you know what?

00:09:33I've got skills.

00:09:34I can go somewhere else.

00:09:35Okay.

00:09:35And that's totally fair and interesting.

00:09:37So how do you make the case to your boss?

00:09:44So give me the speech you would give your boss about what needed to be done.

00:09:50I guess I would just let him know, hey, look, this...

00:09:54Specifically, it was a system that the company went out of business.

00:09:59They don't support this equipment, so let's just rip it all out and start over.

00:10:05And he's like, okay, sure.

00:10:06And then, like, never really followed up with a budget or, like, a way to do it.

00:10:12Was it his job to come up with the budget?

00:10:14Yeah, he was the DFO.

00:10:19Well, I would argue that's not his job.

00:10:21I could be wrong.

00:10:22We're just meeting for the first time, so I say this tentatively.

00:10:25So how do you convince your boss to spend money?

00:10:32I guess let him know it'll make us money in the long run?

00:10:35Well, that's the question.

00:10:37So what's the business case?

00:10:38If you just say, you know, stuff needs to be replaced, you see, your boss has to sell it up

00:10:44the chain, right?

00:10:45So he has to get the money.

00:10:46It doesn't come out of his own pocket, right?

00:10:47So he's got to sell it up the chain.

00:10:49So how do you convince your boss to spend money?

00:10:53Yeah, and I guess that's where I was stuck.

00:10:56But you shouldn't be stuck, right?

00:10:58Because we assume that you as the IT guy, you want to save the company money or make the company

00:11:04money, right?

00:11:05I mean, yeah, basically, if someone breaks in, and as long as all of our cameras were fine, every angle

00:11:12was covered, we're good.

00:11:15Like, we don't have to, you know, we're going to have to see what happened.

00:11:18And at least if there was anything on our part, as long as our maintenance was up to, we can

00:11:23cover ourselves legally.

00:11:24But if there was no video, then we expose ourselves.

00:11:27So are you saying that the video recording didn't work?

00:11:31Hold on.

00:11:31Yeah, basically, there were spots where it just was, like, we needed to get a new system and, like, hire

00:11:37someone to do it.

00:11:38But he didn't want to do it.

00:11:39Okay, how many break-ins had there been in the past?

00:11:43It was theft.

00:11:46The office manager, not the office manager, but the person in charge of the store was complaining of theft.

00:11:52Okay, so the person in charge of the store was claiming theft, and there was bad coverage from the cameras.

00:12:00Is that right?

00:12:01Yeah.

00:12:02Okay.

00:12:03So I'm just going to step you, like, I want you to be effective in your career.

00:12:06And I hate to be, like, old guy, annoying, come sit, let me tell you, by the fire.

00:12:11Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:12:11Right?

00:12:12But, I mean, I've been an entrepreneur for, like, over 30 years.

00:12:15I've done a lot of IT, and I've had to get millions of dollars out of the board for various

00:12:21things.

00:12:21And I'm going to tell you how you make the case.

00:12:24Now, this doesn't mean you'll get what you want, but here's how you make the case.

00:12:26Okay, so how much money would it have taken to replace the systems you wanted to replace?

00:12:34About 10 grand.

00:12:36About 10 grand, okay.

00:12:38Now, over the previous year, how much money had been lost in theft?

00:12:43Oh, that's what I should have found out.

00:12:45I don't know.

00:12:46Because, I mean, the basic idea is that if it was $2,000 a year, you were losing in theft,

00:12:51and you can cut that in half with better cameras, then it takes 10 years to pay for the new

00:12:55camera system.

00:12:57Yeah, that's true.

00:12:59But now let's say.

00:12:59That's an ROI of 10%, right?

00:13:00Give or take, right?

00:13:01Yeah.

00:13:02And I guess, let's say I get to the end, and, like, I know I'm 100% right, and he's

00:13:07not listening.

00:13:08Do I take it to his boss, or is that it?

00:13:11Hang on, hang on, hang on, hang on.

00:13:11Okay, my bad, my bad.

00:13:12Jump to the end here.

00:13:13We'll just jump to the end.

00:13:14All right.

00:13:16So, what was your, if you had to guess, what was your guess at how much was being lost in

00:13:22theft in a year?

00:13:24It had to be at least five, at least five grand, without even looking.

00:13:28Okay, at least five grand, and how much of that theft was because of the bad camera angles?

00:13:39Probably half, and because they would tell me that they know the customer, and they would, like, see them duck

00:13:45into a certain, like, aisle, and then they would leave, and then the items were missing, so they were pretty

00:13:49sure, like, which customer it was.

00:13:51And then we could have banned that customer, like, that would have helped.

00:13:54Okay, so that's, because that's another interesting question, right?

00:13:58So, it was the case that the thieves knew of the dead spots of camera coverage, and that's where they

00:14:04would go to steal things, right?

00:14:05Exactly, yep.

00:14:06Okay, so, if you were the boss, what's the best way to solve that problem, or other ways of solving

00:14:16that problem?

00:14:17You could move the merchandise into a spot that's visible by the cameras.

00:14:21Yeah, you could move the more, you could put the cheapest stuff where the camera angles were bad, like, just

00:14:25rearrange the shelves, right?

00:14:27Exactly.

00:14:28Okay.

00:14:29You could hire a plainclothes security guard for a couple, just for a couple of days, to watch that spot,

00:14:36and then catch the criminal, right?

00:14:39Yeah.

00:14:40You could get an old cell phone, you could prop it up, and have it live streamed to a recording

00:14:45place to catch the criminals, right?

00:14:48Sure.

00:14:49I mean, these are just off the top of my head.

00:14:51These are just other options.

00:14:53If you knew the criminal, why hadn't he been caught?

00:14:57Yeah.

00:14:57Well, yeah, we didn't have evidence to present, like, to confront him, but I guess we could have just done

00:15:02it and been like, hey, we know it's you.

00:15:04Well, you could have done that, or if you know that he's coming in to steal, you just make sure

00:15:09you get the video footage, right?

00:15:11Without having to get $10,000 on new cameras, right?

00:15:15So, you always want to have the cheapest effective solution, and if this person has been stealing for a while

00:15:23and nothing has been done about it, they can't always have been stealing where the dead spots are.

00:15:27So, then the problem is that you're not prosecuting criminals, not that you don't have the right camera system.

00:15:33Sure.

00:15:34Because there has to be a will for prosecution, otherwise the camera systems – I mean, I guess you could

00:15:38say to the guy, come back in, and we are going to prosecute, or the cheapest solution is just ban

00:15:45the guy from the store.

00:15:47Yeah, that is the cheapest one.

00:15:48That's typically what we do.

00:15:49We just ban people once we know they're stealing.

00:15:52Okay.

00:15:52So, if you could just ban the guy – again, I'm just – if you came to me saying, we

00:15:59need to drop $10,000, I mean, you're going to –

00:16:03you know that the average profit for businesses is like 3% to 5%, right?

00:16:09Yeah.

00:16:11So, I mean, you've got to make – you've got to sell $200,000 or more worth of merchandise to

00:16:18get the $10,000 for the cameras.

00:16:21Oh, it was a high-volume place.

00:16:22We were doing millions a year.

00:16:24I don't disagree with you.

00:16:26It still doesn't change the fact that you need to get $100,000 for these cameras.

00:16:31So, if you want to be effective in business, you've got to think like an owner.

00:16:37So, I'm sorry to be Mr. Maggy guy, right?

00:16:40So, I apologize for that.

00:16:41I used to watch you on YouTube all the time, like, when you – the first, like, 5, 10 years

00:16:46or however long you first were on, and then it's cool to see you on X.

00:16:50So, I appreciate you talking to me.

00:16:51Okay, great.

00:16:52So, if you want to move up in the business world, you've got to think like a manager.

00:16:58Managers appreciate it when you think like an owner.

00:17:01That's a good point.

00:17:02And I've been in the position of your boss – and look, I'm not saying he's right.

00:17:06I don't know, right?

00:17:07But people would come to me every day wanting to burn through a lot of money, right?

00:17:12And what I would say – so, this is what I would say to you.

00:17:15If you came to me and said, we need $10,000, right?

00:17:20What I would say to you is, well, let's say I gave you $10,000 to fix the problem, and

00:17:27you got to keep whatever money you didn't spend on the problem.

00:17:31Would you go and spend $10,000 on cameras?

00:17:33Like, if you got $10,000 free and clear to solve this problem.

00:17:36Yeah, I could find a cheaper way to do it.

00:17:38Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:17:39So, if you got to keep the difference, right?

00:17:40So, we would – and then you'd go through, well, you know, I could spend a couple of hundred bucks

00:17:44on a security guard for a day or two.

00:17:47I could move the camera positioning without the guy knowing, and then I'm going to catch the guy, right?

00:17:52Like, there'll be other places that aren't covered, but this place would be covered.

00:17:56So, you could just move the cameras for a while, right?

00:17:58Just move them from time to time every couple of months.

00:18:00You know, it takes like 20 minutes or whatever, right?

00:18:02And – or you could, you know, move the merchandise so that those were empty,

00:18:06or you could get a little cell phone and hide it someplace or a little – you could get a

00:18:10teddy bear camera

00:18:11or, you know, some sort of hidden camera and do it that way.

00:18:14So, in order to think like an owner, which means you're going to have credibility in business,

00:18:20you say – and this is what I would say to people.

00:18:21They'd say, oh, we need a new server, right?

00:18:23And I'm like, okay, well, let's – imagine, right?

00:18:26And I would actually give people some bonuses, right?

00:18:28And I'd say, listen, let's set aside $10,000 for this.

00:18:31I'm going to give you 10% of whatever's left over, right?

00:18:35So, if you can fix it for $200, right, then there's $9,800.

00:18:41I'll give you almost $1,000 if you can solve it for cheaper.

00:18:45And that's getting people to think like an entrepreneur because right now you want to spend other people's money

00:18:49and therefore you're not thinking of efficiency.

00:18:52So, imagine if it was your store, right?

00:18:55You've got to think like an owner if you want to get ahead in business.

00:18:57Because if you think – if you imagine like it was your store, then you'd say, okay, I don't want

00:19:01to spend $10,000 if I could do it cheaper, right?

00:19:04And so, the reason why your boss wasn't listening was that you weren't thinking like a boss.

00:19:09And if you don't think like a boss, you can never become a boss.

00:19:13So, and again, I'm sorry to be –

00:19:14No, you know what?

00:19:16That is something I don't do.

00:19:17Like, I just think like an employee.

00:19:19I've always been one.

00:19:20So, that's actually a good tip for when I start my next job, whatever it is.

00:19:24Well, you start thinking like a manager and you can become a manager.

00:19:29You'll get the respect of the manager.

00:19:32And you're also practicing thinking how to become a manager so that you can start your own business, your own

00:19:38store, your own concern at some point or another.

00:19:42So, this is why when you think, well, I wanted $10,000 from my manager and if I only –

00:19:48if only I'd yelled at him, then it would have been fine.

00:19:52It's like I don't think yelling is really the answer.

00:19:54You need to sell him on the benefits.

00:19:58You don't want to say, look, I've got all these options, right?

00:20:01We can do this, this, this, and this.

00:20:03Here's what I recommend and here's how quickly it's going to repay, right?

00:20:07So, if they lose $5,000 a year in shrinkage, what they call it, shrinkage, they use $5,000 a

00:20:14year in theft, then, you know, if you can do something that's real cheap, a couple of hundred bucks, it

00:20:21pays for itself in a couple of weeks.

00:20:24And that's what – and this is way back early in my career, I worked hard to try and find

00:20:29cost savings.

00:20:30And I remember my boss saying to me, listen, you save $5,000 on this purchase, fantastic.

00:20:35Here's what I really need, though.

00:20:36I need you to save $1,000 a year on something.

00:20:38I need repetitive savings.

00:20:40One-time savings is great, but it's really tough to budget for.

00:20:42I need repetitive savings.

00:20:43And that's what I really started focusing on.

00:20:45And when I had employees, and I had like 35 employees, and they all came to me and said, we

00:20:51think we're underpaid.

00:20:53And long story short, I ended up getting about $1 million worth of pay raises for them, and how did

00:20:58I sell it?

00:20:58I said, well, here's the risk of retention.

00:21:01You know, we are below market average by X percentage, and here's how much it's going to cost to retrain

00:21:06someone.

00:21:07Here's how much business we're going to lose.

00:21:08Here's the cost of retraining, and I proved to them that even though it was a million-dollar increase in

00:21:15the departmental budget, it paid for itself in 18 months.

00:21:18And I said, you know, you give best, worst, medium-case scenario.

00:21:21The medium-case scenario was 18 months.

00:21:23The worst-case scenario was it paid for itself in about two and a half years.

00:21:26And I said also this doesn't even count the productivity increases that happen because people are happy rather than unhappy,

00:21:33grumbling, and looking for work on company time.

00:21:35So you just have to show the benefits and that you've thought through the options and that you want as

00:21:42efficient a solution as possible.

00:21:44Otherwise, you're like some government bureaucrat who just wants to spend money because it's not his.

00:21:49Yeah, and I think sometimes my bad habit is or thing I think is like the guy that was just

00:21:55more aggressive than me is the one that won, but maybe it was the one that thought it through more.

00:21:59Yeah, maybe, maybe.

00:22:01And if a boss hears you saying, here's a problem I want to solve for the betterment of the business,

00:22:09that's what he wants to hear.

00:22:11And now, some bosses might get a little testy with you because they recognize that you're a young, hungry guy

00:22:17coming for their job or whatever.

00:22:19But any decent boss wants to move up anyway.

00:22:21The moment I got a new position, I'd sit in it for about six months doing my thing, and then

00:22:25I'd look for someone to replace me so I could move further up the ladder.

00:22:28And I'd try and mentor someone.

00:22:30I was going to say groomers.

00:22:32I'd try and mentor someone to get into my position.

00:22:34So you want to show the benefit to people.

00:22:39Well, I got to hop off for lunch here, but I appreciate your help, man.

00:22:44Oh, food.

00:22:45It's more important than food for thought.

00:22:47No, I'm kidding.

00:22:47No, great question.

00:22:48Oh, he's gone now.

00:22:49Great question, great comment, and really do appreciate that.

00:22:53Yeah, think like an owner, man.

00:22:54Think like an owner.

00:22:55Show the benefit.

00:22:56And this shows up everywhere in your life.

00:22:58Show the benefit to people.

00:23:01This shows up in your romantic life.

00:23:05You're going to benefit from dating me.

00:23:06This shows up in your friendships.

00:23:08You're going to have more fun with me.

00:23:09This shows up in your sex life.

00:23:11You know, you want to be the guy with whom, like, well, sex with B is great.

00:23:15If you've got a headache, I can make it better, right?

00:23:17So you want to make sure that other people are benefiting from their participation in your life.

00:23:23And mutual benefit is the best security you can get in almost every relationship that you have.

00:23:31All right.

00:23:32So, yeah, I did make a promise.

00:23:34Oh, I made a promise, and I'm going to keep a promise.

00:23:37Oh, yeah, just before I mention, I wanted to say that Tom Woods, TomWoods.com, a great economist, author, speaker,

00:23:47and general all-around fabulous guy.

00:23:49He had me on his show this morning.

00:23:52We had a really great conversation, and I really did appreciate that.

00:23:55That's coming out soon at TomWoods.com.

00:23:58So I tweeted yesterday.

00:24:00Was it yesterday?

00:24:01Yeah, I think I tweeted late last night.

00:24:03I said, young women spend 25% to 40% of their income on fashion, clothing, makeup, and eating out.

00:24:09Now, this is after-tax income, but for reasons of brevity, I didn't include after-tax income.

00:24:15So this is not 25% to 40% of gross.

00:24:18This is 25% to 40% of after-tax income.

00:24:23So young women spend 25% to 40% of their income on fashion, clothing, makeup, and eating out, and

00:24:27other frivolous expenses, non-essential, like you can obviously live and flourish without it.

00:24:33Women control 85% of consumer spending.

00:24:37And, boy, if you've been married, you'll have a sense of that.

00:24:40Malls exist to serve women.

00:24:41You know, this is a funny thing that I remember.

00:24:44Even as a little kid, as a little kid, my mother used to take me on these endless shopping expeditions.

00:24:48It's, oh, my lord above.

00:24:50Oh, my rumble skin, still skin.

00:24:53Did she ever like to shop?

00:24:54And I remember just being dragged around in this semi-days of bored exhaustion and being plopped down on very

00:25:00gritty sofas and very sort of harsh fabrics to sort of half-dose while she went shop.

00:25:07And I remember, of course, we occasionally would stop off in a toy store or something like that.

00:25:12But I remember just these endless stores that just catered to women, the shoes and the makeup and the hair

00:25:18stuff and the perfumes and clothing.

00:25:22And there's just acres and acres and acres.

00:25:24Everywhere we'd go, just places in play.

00:25:25We'd go to Harrods.

00:25:26We'd go to all of these stores in England and in Canada.

00:25:30It wasn't so bad because I kind of got older and I wouldn't go.

00:25:34But I just remember thinking, like, man, the world is made for women.

00:25:39Like, where's the guy stuff?

00:25:41Now, I get it's a bit of a selective situation because she's not exactly going to hardware stores and stuff

00:25:48like that.

00:25:48But hardware stores aren't for guys to have fun but to build things for women, right?

00:25:52You get a deck for women, whatever, right?

00:25:55So I just remember as a kid just like the whole world seems to be made for women.

00:26:02And just sort of – I remember there were these shows.

00:26:05Oh, gosh, I can't remember what they were called.

00:26:07Somebody can – sure can remind me.

00:26:08But there were these shows where – or guess the price of things.

00:26:13There'd be this conveyor belt of things going by, mixers and shoe racks and clothing and purses and so on.

00:26:21These conveyor belt of things going by.

00:26:23And the women had to guess the prices.

00:26:25And if they guessed within a certain amount, they got to keep the item and so on, right?

00:26:29And, you know, everyone has a selective memory, I suppose.

00:26:33At least that's what I selectively remember.

00:26:34But I don't remember a single male with, like, what's the price of this hammer?

00:26:38What's the price of this chainsaw?

00:26:40What's the price of this can of oil?

00:26:41What's the price of these work gloves?

00:26:43Nothing.

00:26:44Nothing's all women and all useless crap.

00:26:48Useless junk.

00:26:49Brick-a-brack.

00:26:51And I just remember – I mean, I went to boarding school.

00:26:54Fortunately, it was a pretty male environment.

00:26:56There were females at the boarding school, but they were very segregated.

00:26:59They were on the other side of the planet as far as we were concerned.

00:27:03But just about everywhere else I went, everything was for women.

00:27:07Everything was for women.

00:27:09And women were in charge of most of the households in the neighborhoods I lived in because, you know, broke

00:27:16-butt son of a single mother.

00:27:18So, you know, we lived in the broke-butt little flats, little apartment buildings, cheesy, seedy apartment buildings in these

00:27:26council estates.

00:27:27And everybody around was either a single mother or married to an absolute trashy, beefy, burpee, wearing-the-wife-beater,

00:27:36drinking beer at 3 o'clock in the afternoon on a Thursday kind of stuff, sitting out front, watching the

00:27:42world go by in their linoleum chairs and greasy shorts.

00:27:46So, it was either men – women in charge or low-quality men not in charge.

00:27:52So, I just – and I remember hearing all the patriarchy.

00:27:56Oh, the patriarchy.

00:27:57And I'm like, wouldn't the patriarchy have some more stuff for men?

00:28:03Like, wouldn't that be the case if it was a patriarchy?

00:28:06Why isn't everything hunting and wrestling and sports and manly stuff?

00:28:13Why is there all of this girly stuff everywhere, everywhere?

00:28:16Why is there all this girly stuff if it's just this evil patriarchy where men control everything?

00:28:21Like, it just didn't really fit.

00:28:25So, you know, that's one of the reasons I won't – and listen, I don't mind the fact that none

00:28:28of this is a problem.

00:28:29This is – I think it's all about big condemnation.

00:28:31I mean, from a male perspective, I certainly do think that this wild spending on transient frippery, you know, we

00:28:42could take the excessive, like, purses and shoes and impractical clothing and so on.

00:28:50I mean, was it the funny joke on Friends, you know, how many classifications does Monica have for her towels,

00:28:57like fancy guest, guest, and so on.

00:29:01And I also remember – I've been thinking about the late, great Scott Adams recently because Ringo Starr had a

00:29:06birthday.

00:29:06Ringo Starr is a famous drummer.

00:29:07I don't really care about Ringo Starr, but I remember that Scott Adams was learning how to play the drums.

00:29:12Sorry.

00:29:13Yeah, drummer.

00:29:14Famous drummer.

00:29:15And Scott Adams was learning how to play the drums.

00:29:17So I was thinking about him.

00:29:18He had this great – you know, the women at work or the people at work come to visit Wally,

00:29:22the engineer, in his home.

00:29:25And they asked, like, Wally, do you wash your towels?

00:29:28He's like, why would I need to wash my towels?

00:29:29When I come out of the shower, I'm the cleanest thing in the whole place.

00:29:32And then a towel's supposed to bend?

00:29:35This is sort of the bachelor of life, right?

00:29:37And look, summer in the middle is good.

00:29:38Bachelor is too little.

00:29:39Over female is too much stuff.

00:29:43And summer in the middle is good.

00:29:45So this is not a criticism of the female urge to spend.

00:29:49It has really positive elements to it.

00:29:51My wife is a fantastic homemaker.

00:29:54I live in absolute paradise.

00:29:57Everything is magically clean and refilled and beautiful and pretty and nice and all of these sorts of things.

00:30:03And she just makes the place into a paradise, which I appreciate like every day.

00:30:09I say, gosh, I live in girly world.

00:30:11It's beautiful and so on.

00:30:13When I lived alone in an apartment building at Young and Eglinton, my balcony had clogged up the draining.

00:30:23And so I had the swamp water out there.

00:30:25I would leave the windows open.

00:30:29And I woke up once with a pigeon on my chest.

00:30:32And I remember looking for food.

00:30:35And the lights were out in the kitchen.

00:30:36I had never got around to replacing them.

00:30:38And I remember lighting some – I knew I had some peanut butter somewhere.

00:30:42And I remember in my boxer shorts lighting a piece of newspaper on the stove and then squatting down with

00:30:49the fire looking underneath the cupboards for my peanut butter that I knew was in there.

00:30:54And, you know, looking back, it's like I was like three steps away from Neanderthal.

00:30:59Like I was a caveman.

00:31:00It was fine.

00:31:01I was a bachelor.

00:31:02It didn't really matter.

00:31:03But from there to where I live now is from hell to heaven.

00:31:09So this is not any kind of major criticism of women as a whole.

00:31:14But, oh, my gosh.

00:31:16Oh, my gosh.

00:31:18Useless degrees, massive amounts of debt for stuff that's not economically productive.

00:31:24Like, of course, you know, you invest in a house.

00:31:26You need a place to live.

00:31:27You invest in a house.

00:31:28Hopefully, it will go up in value.

00:31:31And you invest in a car, but, you know, a car will lose value, but you can use it to

00:31:35get to work.

00:31:36And, of course, having a safe car is important.

00:31:39Good safety features and all that kind of stuff.

00:31:40So a car is a pretty good investment as a whole and so on, right?

00:31:45Although, you know, I grew up without a car.

00:31:47I didn't buy a car until I was in my 30s.

00:31:48But so, you know, eating out, travel, these are all things, and, you know, purses and clothing and soaps wrapped

00:32:03that look like clamshells that you can't ever use.

00:32:05You know, stuff that just doesn't, like it's nice to have around, it loses value, and it doesn't compound, right?

00:32:12The eighth wonder of the world is compound interest.

00:32:13If you understand that, you should never end up particularly broke.

00:32:16Okay, so let's look at single females under 35.

00:32:23So housing, transportation, and food would be considered non-discretionary spending.

00:32:30So the Bureau of Labor and Statistics does not include taxes and expenditures.

00:32:34It's not – taxes are not discretionary spending.

00:32:36You have to pay your taxes, right?

00:32:37In fact, usually you don't have a choice because it's deducted at source.

00:32:40So housing, how much do women spend on housing?

00:32:4335% to 45%.

00:32:45Transportation, 12% to 18%.

00:32:46Food at home ranges from 6% to 9%.

00:32:51So non-discretionary spending ranges from 53% to 72%.

00:32:57So, you know, fair enough.

00:33:00Fair enough.

00:33:01Now, food away from home.

00:33:04Delivery like DoorDash and so on, 4% to 7%.

00:33:06Clothing, footwear, accessory, 3% to 5%.

00:33:08Hair, makeup, skin care, 1.5% to 2.5%.

00:33:12Discretionary vanity spending ranges from 8.5% to 14.5%.

00:33:16And you say, hey, hey, hey, hang on.

00:33:18That's not 25% to 40%, so hang on, right?

00:33:20Hang on.

00:33:22Expenditures.

00:33:22How does this relate to income?

00:33:24Expenditures among women under 35 break down like so.

00:33:28So under 25, 80% to 110% have reported gross income before taxes.

00:33:3325% to 34%, 75% to 95% of gross income.

00:33:37So these are expenditures on gross income before taxes.

00:33:40Now, of course, a lot of these age groups are in school, income's lower, and so on.

00:33:45They're living beyond their means as a whole at the time.

00:33:49So for women in the 24% to 35% group, some of them are not spending 10% of

00:33:54their money,

00:33:54which is respectable, but some may be living beyond their means by as much as 20% of their

00:33:57net income.

00:34:00So the 25% to 40% range, where does it come from?

00:34:03Will adjust expenditures according to income?

00:34:04Let's just look at the 15% tax rate for now.

00:34:07So we divide the spending rates by 0.85%.

00:34:10If you spend 85% of your gross income and had a tax rate of 15%, you'd be spending 100

00:34:15%

00:34:15of your net income.

00:34:17Now, for the woman under 25, spending 80% of her gross income with a 15% tax rate means

00:34:23she's spending 94% of her net income across all expenditures.

00:34:26Her non-discretionary expenses are 50% to 68% of her net.

00:34:30Her discretionary vanity expenses are 8% to 14% of her net.

00:34:33Now, these are not including, you know, there's still some stuff here which could be kind of

00:34:37vanity, excessive purchases on furniture and things like that.

00:34:41And I don't know, we've got a lot of travel in here and so on.

00:34:44We'll get to that in a sec.

00:34:49So discretionary vanity expenses are 11% to 19% of her net.

00:34:53Maybe not at the hugely high end of spending, but that's a pretty massive number.

00:34:58If you can cut that in half and invest it in something with a 7% to 9% return

00:35:03or 6% to

00:35:048% return, you'll never be poor in your old age.

00:35:10So these still don't get to 25% to 40%, which is my tweet claim.

00:35:13If we look at the proportions of a woman's discretionary spending on these categories,

00:35:17that's where we see some pretty wild numbers.

00:35:19Now, just a minor caveat, we can't really get apples to apples.

00:35:23We're grouping all of the low ends together and all the high ends together.

00:35:25It's going to produce some distortions, especially at the high end.

00:35:28We don't know if there's like a worst spender out there, but even the best case low end

00:35:31spender is rather astonishing.

00:35:33So we determine the rate of discretionary spending by subtracting the non-discretionary

00:35:37category from 100, we'll then divide the net income proportion of these clothing, makeup,

00:35:42and eating out by the total discretionary spending.

00:35:45The 80% growth spender's total discretionary spending ranges from 50% of her net income,

00:35:50in the best case, to 32%.

00:35:52In the worst, that leaves her proportion of discretionary expenses attributable to clothing,

00:35:57makeup, and eating out from something like 16% on the low end to 44% on the high end.

00:36:03Now, the 100% growth spender's total discretionary spending leaves her with 32% to 7% of her

00:36:09net income spending.

00:36:11Since she's spending beyond her net, we can't take the 11% to 19% range and compare it to

00:36:15net income, except to say that for the lowest non-discretionary spender, she's spending 34%

00:36:21of her remaining net income on discretionary vanity purchases alone.

00:36:26If she's spending according to the highest non-discretionary spender, meaning she's spending 19% of

00:36:31her net income on discretionary expenses, she's at 271%, almost three times relative to what's

00:36:37left over after housing, transportation, and cooking food at home.

00:36:41So, it's a lot.

00:36:43And this doesn't include things like travel and so on.

00:36:47So, women control 85% of consumer spending.

00:36:50This is supported by U.S. figures.

00:36:54Moms handle about 80% of grocery shopping, apartment households, furnishing vacations, and so on.

00:37:01So, we'll put the notes to that.

00:37:04Moms exist to serve women.

00:37:07Yeah.

00:37:07In all seven countries, U.S., Canada, Spain, China, Laos, Malaysia, and Turkey, adult women

00:37:13significantly outnumbered adult men as shoppers.

00:37:17Spain, 65% female adults.

00:37:19Canada, 56% female, and so on.

00:37:22Women also rate the mall experience more positively.

00:37:26And, I mean, if you just look at, and James, maybe you can grind this through AI, but if

00:37:30you just look at what are the number of stores typically in a mall that cater to women, and

00:37:36so on.

00:37:37Women hold two-thirds of school debt for largely useless degrees.

00:37:41This is not purely subjective.

00:37:43If you measure labor market outcomes and net financial return, large shares of graduates,

00:37:48especially in fields where women are heavily overrepresented, end up underemployed or in

00:37:53jobs unrelated to their major, while carrying debt that's really hard to service.

00:37:57Putting women in debt is potentially civilizational end.

00:38:02I mean, I know that sounds like hyperbole or apocalyptic, but it's really true.

00:38:07If you put a woman $100,000 in debt for something that doesn't make her much, if any, money, then

00:38:13if she gets married and has children, who has to pay that debt?

00:38:17Well, her husband.

00:38:19So, a husband has the financial, I would say liability, but we do it for love, right?

00:38:25A husband who has a stay-at-home wife with a couple of kids has, like, 90% of his

00:38:32money

00:38:32is going to his wife and kids.

00:38:33If she also comes with $100,000 of debt, that subtracts one kid from his output.

00:38:41You trade one kid, and you have to pay for your wife's loan.

00:38:48Men, you know, we are dreamy romantics in some ways, but when it comes to numbers, math,

00:38:54income, and expenses, we are very hard-nosed, objective people as a whole.

00:38:58You know, this sort of joke about girl math, you know, there was an anecdote of this woman

00:39:04who was a teacher, and she suddenly found out that most of the girls in her class, she's

00:39:08a math teacher, most of the girls in her class didn't even understand credit card debt and

00:39:12how ruinous it was that you can end up paying many multiples for something if you just pay

00:39:18minimums.

00:39:19And she threw the whole lesson aside, and she tried to explain to the girls credit card

00:39:23debt, and, you know, one of the pretty girls in the front said, oh, I'm just going to marry

00:39:27a man who understands these things for me.

00:39:29You know, that sort of, I mean, that's sort of anecdotal.

00:39:31It's not exactly factual, but, you know, the girl math stuff is not inconsequential.

00:39:35I mean, the entire modern economy of unfunded liabilities and national debts and fiat currencies

00:39:40is based on girl math, because it largely exploded that way when women got the vote.

00:39:47So, underemployment is high in many non-STEM and soft majors.

00:39:53Underemployment.

00:39:53In performing arts, 66%.

00:39:55Leisure hospitality, 64%.

00:39:59Anthropology, 62%.

00:40:00Art history, 62%.

00:40:02Fine arts, 59%.

00:40:04History, 58%.

00:40:05Communications, 55%.

00:40:08Underemployment, which means you've got a job.

00:40:10It's kind of unrelated to what you spent four years of your life bouncing from frat boy

00:40:15to frat boy, getting drunk for.

00:40:17Liberal arts, 55%.

00:40:18Sociology, 54%.

00:40:20Psychology, 50%.

00:40:21English, 53%.

00:40:23And women are disproportionately high in these under-performing, high underemployment fields.

00:40:28Education, psychology, communication, sociology, fine arts, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

00:40:34They have lower representation and persistence in high ROI STEM fields like engineering and computer

00:40:38science.

00:40:4040% to 50% of college grads with variation by cohort major are underemployed years later.

00:40:46One analysis of 2012 to 2021 grads found about 44% of female grads were underemployed 10 years

00:40:54out.

00:40:57Closely related to major employment is often well below 50% to 60% in lower ROI fields.

00:41:03Many work in retail, service, admin, unrelated roles.

00:41:08So yeah, if you go heavily into debt, and it's not just the debt.

00:41:13It's if you end up in a job where you didn't need a college degree, boom!

00:41:18Boom!

00:41:18You've just lost about a quarter mil.

00:41:21A quarter mil.

00:41:22A starter cottage in remote areas, whatever it is these days, right?

00:41:26You just, boom!

00:41:27You've just lost a quarter mil.

00:41:29And more over the course of your...

00:41:30I mean, a quarter mil, not just because university costs you a quarter mil, but because of the

00:41:34opportunity costs if you're not working and gathering and gaining experience for four

00:41:37years, I mean, a friend of mine, professor of economics, you know, he would sit in his

00:41:44office every day, nobody would come to ask him questions, and he would occasionally mention

00:41:49to his students, it's like, you know, you're paying for my time, and it's going to, he went

00:41:53through all the math, about a quarter million dollars to come and do this degree in terms

00:41:57of direct expenses, opportunity costs, and so on.

00:42:00So if you're spending a quarter mil, why don't you come and talk to me and ask me questions?

00:42:03We have conversations about economics.

00:42:05They didn't really get it, right?

00:42:07Women hold about 63 to 67% of U.S. student debt, a little over, well, $929 billion, close

00:42:17to a trillion dollars, two-thirds of U.S. student debt for largely economically unproductive

00:42:24degrees.

00:42:26Repayment is slower on average for women.

00:42:28There are lower earnings in many fields, plus there's a wage gap, of course, right?

00:42:31Early post-grad data, women paid down less of their balance in the first one to four years

00:42:37than men did.

00:42:39High delinquency.

00:42:40In a Fed 2024 survey, 20% of borrowers are behind or in collections.

00:42:46New York Fed, almost a quarter, 23.7 of those required to pay were behind in early 2025.

00:42:54So, you see these clips on social media, you know, I make all these payments, but I'm not

00:42:59denting the loan because payments, many on these plans, government plans or payment plans, payments

00:43:07mostly cover interest or less.

00:43:09So, the principal doesn't drop.

00:43:12It's catastrophic.

00:43:14How is it I've been paying this loan for 10 years and it's as much or larger than when

00:43:17I started?

00:43:17It's like, how could you not know that?

00:43:20After 12 years, plus four years, 16 years of government education, you don't understand

00:43:26interest payments.

00:43:28Oof.

00:43:29Default risk, slightly higher for women in some older cohort data, substantially higher

00:43:32for black and Hispanic women.

00:43:34Many with some college, no degree or associate degree struggle the most, right?

00:43:38So, if you go for two years and you flunk out or three years you flunk out or you get

00:43:42pregnant, I mean, it's just catastrophic.

00:43:45So, for someone underemployed in a low return on investment field with 30 to 60K or more

00:43:50of debt, the degree can easily be a net negative financially.

00:43:52Tuition plus opportunity cost plus years of low earnings plus interest.

00:43:56Worse than useless is a reasonable individual assessment in these areas.

00:44:02Just wretched.

00:44:05Just wretched.

00:44:09So, it's really tough.

00:44:11It's really tough.

00:44:13So, yeah.

00:44:15Women spend a lot of money on stuff that doesn't make money.

00:44:18Listen, again, this is not an all or nothing situation.

00:44:22Like, how dare you not sleep on a broken futon like I did for many years?

00:44:25I had a bed I bought from my Alexander teacher in theater school.

00:44:31I paid 200 bucks for a bed.

00:44:33It was not great.

00:44:35It was not quite like sleeping on thumbtacks, but it wasn't exactly the opposite either.

00:44:41And it's just, yeah, life is not all about investing.

00:44:46You know, you've got to spend money.

00:44:48It's important to have memories and sometimes, you know, to have a nice little vacation or

00:44:52whatever.

00:44:52It's worth it and so on.

00:44:55And to have those memories.

00:44:57So, I'm not like, live like Howard Hughes, shuffle around with long fingernails and your feet in Kleenex boxes while,

00:45:04you know, you die with all the money in the bank and no happiness in your heart.

00:45:07I guess you can spend money.

00:45:09I'm a little tight because, you know, you grow up poor and you just learn to squeeze a nickel until

00:45:14it weeps.

00:45:16But this overspending, you know, I was asking earlier, and again, I happen to take calls and all of that

00:45:24if you have questions or comments about this.

00:45:26Because none of this is negative towards women.

00:45:29I mean, I do think that women should take more advice from men about the practicality of what they're studying

00:45:36in particular.

00:45:37I mean, Kevin Samuels used to be kind of brutal this way, you know, in terms of like, oh, oh,

00:45:42oh, here comes another woman with a communications degree.

00:45:48And, you know, one of the keys is, are you getting work-study experience, right?

00:45:53That's one of the key things, right?

00:45:55Are you getting work-study experience?

00:45:57Are you building up contacts in the industry through this kind of stuff?

00:46:01I mean, at least when I went to theater school, we got to go to Stratford and talk to people

00:46:06about these kinds of things.

00:46:12So, I do think that women should listen.

00:46:14But it's really hard, particularly for women, you know, let's be frank about it.

00:46:19Like, women like male attention for the most part, right?

00:46:21And there's nothing wrong with that.

00:46:22That's why we're all here.

00:46:23So, again, none of these are complaints.

00:46:26It's sort of like we want ourselves to grow, but not to the point of being cancerous, right?

00:46:31We want to grow taller, but not to the point where we have gigantism and our knees buckle every time

00:46:37we take a step.

00:46:39We want muscles, but we also want to be able to scratch our backs and fit through doorways without turning

00:46:43sideways.

00:46:45So, it's pretty tough for women to avoid the rather satanic temptations of going to college for a relatively easy

00:46:54degree.

00:46:54You're in the height of your sexual market value, right?

00:46:59You're young, you're hot, you're lithe, you're sexy, and you are in a place where there's a good number of

00:47:06men.

00:47:06It's easy to meet people.

00:47:08There's lots of fun activities.

00:47:09There's dances.

00:47:10There's parties.

00:47:11There's frat gatherings.

00:47:13There's barbecues.

00:47:14There's concerts.

00:47:15And you dress up and you go out, and it's really heady.

00:47:20And nothing wrong with that in general principle.

00:47:23We like to go out and be attractive to the opposite sex if we're straight.

00:47:27So, again, this is not – but college is pretty easy.

00:47:31I remember being kind of shocked when I went to college because I thought that it was going to be

00:47:35harder than high school because, you know, it's elite, right?

00:47:37And it's like, well, what do you mean I got, like, 12 hours of courses a week?

00:47:42What does this mean?

00:47:43I mean, when I was in theater school, we were in there.

00:47:45You know, we'd get there at 9 in the morning, and we'd do various things to do with theater, dance

00:47:51and how to fight and acting classes and movement classes.

00:47:56And, you know, and then we'd rehearse in the evening.

00:47:59I was like – and then crazy.

00:48:03But a reading list and, you know, 10 to 15 hours of classes a week, work on your own time,

00:48:09it's pretty easy, frankly.

00:48:12I mean, you've got to do the work.

00:48:14And, you know, but for me, reading history and English literature, I mean, I was doing that for fun anyway.

00:48:19So, it's, you know, it's kind of like this amniotic sack, right?

00:48:25You're back to the womb situation because you've got – especially if you live on campus, right?

00:48:29Because, you know, stuff gets cleaned for you, and you've got to – you just wander down to the cafeteria

00:48:35for the infinite cavalcade of script-based food items, like you're on some cruise line.

00:48:40You go to a couple of classes.

00:48:42It's sunny.

00:48:43You play hacky sack at the quad.

00:48:45And, you know, I mean, I worked pretty hard in university.

00:48:49I wrote books, and I was in a lot of plays.

00:48:54I did a lot of plays in university and all of that.

00:48:58So, I mean, I worked pretty hard.

00:49:00And I had jobs when I lived in Toronto.

00:49:04When I was in Montreal, I didn't speak French well enough to work in the service industry, which was kind

00:49:08of my thing at the time.

00:49:10But for women in particular, I mean, gosh, the university thing is about as much fun as you can potentially

00:49:19have.

00:49:20You know, especially, you know, if you like to drink or you want to do some drugs or you want

00:49:23to have a lot of sex.

00:49:25I mean, university is pretty much the place to go.

00:49:29And you're not paying for anything other, for the most part, than hedonism.

00:49:34You know, there are these funny memes, which is like first year of engineering school, and the guy looks kind

00:49:38of peppy and happy with a full head of hair.

00:49:40It's like third year of engineering school.

00:49:42He's bald, skinny, shaky, shadow center his eyes, and so on.

00:49:46That's not the case.

00:49:47I mean, I did the arts, so I get all of that.

00:49:50That is not the case in the arts.

00:49:54In the arts, you know, things are just kind of fun.

00:49:56Well, because these days you get woke-ified to the point where you dye your hair and shave one side

00:50:00of it and get a bone through your nose or something like that.

00:50:03So, yeah, it's just wild.

00:50:07Now, it is true, of course, that there are men's sections in department stores, but that's mostly for what women

00:50:14want men to wear, right?

00:50:15It's mostly for what women, everybody who's married knows that face, you know, that your wife makes when you want

00:50:21to go someplace and you're just not dressed the way you should.

00:50:24You're just not dressed the way you should.

00:50:27So, 25% to 40% of your after-tax income as women is spent on fairly useless vanity-based

00:50:35consumer items, but that's a big deal.

00:50:38The vast majority of what's called the economy consists of shoveling money from men to women and having women shovel

00:50:46the money on fairly useless vanity products.

00:50:50I mean, it's just a fact.

00:50:51And, listen, the fact that women spend money on fairly frivolous vanity products is fine with me.

00:50:58Obviously, people can do whatever they want with their own money, but it's not organic.

00:51:02What is the cap on female spending?

00:51:05Well, the cap on female spending used to be that the man with the income would say, I don't think

00:51:11so.

00:51:13But when you get student loans or you get, you know, a whole bunch of credit cards in the mail,

00:51:20and, like, what is the cap on female spending without male restraint?

00:51:28Because we evolved for women to want to spend more.

00:51:31Now, why is it that women evolved to want to spend more?

00:51:33Because they faced a restraint, which was men saying no.

00:51:37And we can say, well, that's good or that's bad.

00:51:39I don't care.

00:51:40It doesn't matter.

00:51:41It's what it was.

00:51:41It's how we evolved.

00:51:42And the idea that we can just create an entirely new kind of creature completely unrelated to how we evolved

00:51:47is a Marxist fantasy.

00:51:48Well, you know, what if we just have people who don't care about profit?

00:51:52What if we have people who work hard no matter whether we pay them a lot or a little?

00:51:56Well, people will just want to take on longer hours and more responsibility with no extra pay.

00:52:00It's like, no, we won't.

00:52:03It's not how we evolved.

00:52:04It's not who we are.

00:52:06Not who we are.

00:52:11So, what is it that puts the restraint on female hypergamy?

00:52:17What is it that puts the restraint on female hypergamy?

00:52:19Which is that you want to marry up.

00:52:21You want to marry a higher status.

00:52:22You want to marry the highest status male you can get.

00:52:25Well, what used to put the ceiling on hypergamy.

00:52:28And this is really important to understand, of course, right?

00:52:30Because if something had a cap, evolutionarily speaking, and then that cap is removed, there's no inner top.

00:52:39It's really, really important to understand.

00:52:41If something had an external cap in the course of our evolution, then you're not going to have an internalized

00:52:49cap on it, which is kind of foundational to understanding the modern economy.

00:52:54So, if we evolved with women wanting to expend resources and men saying no, then women as a whole would

00:53:01not have internalized limiting resource requirements or desires.

00:53:06And that means when the male cap is taken away, women will spend more and more without any particular cap.

00:53:14And this is not anything negative towards women or men.

00:53:17This is just a fact.

00:53:20It's just a fact.

00:53:21So, what is it that used to put the cap on women's hypergamy?

00:53:25Everybody wants Monsieur Darcy, right?

00:53:28Everybody wants Christian Grey.

00:53:30All the women want, you know.

00:53:32It's funny because women complained about aggressive patriarchy.

00:53:36Patriarchy is terrible.

00:53:38And then every single one of the immense number of female pornography, hypersexualized novels and stories are all about aggressive

00:53:47patriarchy.

00:53:50Oh, woke in the streets, oppressed in the sheets.

00:53:57Women play with the bean exactly to the degree that they oppose these things in the world.

00:54:02It is something, it is a mystery that male minds dare not enter without being bent into irreducible balloon animal

00:54:10lower intestine shapes.

00:54:11That will drive us mad.

00:54:13It's hard.

00:54:13It's almost impossible to understand.

00:54:14It's almost impossible to understand.

00:54:18So, what used to be the cap on female hypergamy?

00:54:21Well, women would focus on self-adornment, right?

00:54:26Women's self-adornment phase should last for 6 to 18 months.

00:54:30Honestly, I'm not kidding about this.

00:54:32And even that's a stretch.

00:54:34So, women's self-adornment phase, in other words, I want to look as good as humanly possible to get the

00:54:38best mate I possibly can.

00:54:40It's supposed to last from the entry into the dating market, whatever that used to be, the debutant balls.

00:54:46Let's just say 18, whatever, for the sake of argument.

00:54:50So, a woman is now in the dating market at the age of 18.

00:54:52She's got to dress herself up as amazingly as possible to get a man, and she has 6 months, really,

00:55:01to choose.

00:55:02Maybe.

00:55:02We can say the year, 18 months, or whatever in the extreme case.

00:55:05She has 6 months to choose.

00:55:06Why does she have 6 months to choose?

00:55:07Because she wants the highest status man she can get, but the highest status men are being snapped up by

00:55:14others.

00:55:15So, all the women are going for the high status men.

00:55:17The high status men, let's say 5 to 10, right?

00:55:215, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10.

00:55:225 to 10 in sexual market value.

00:55:25All the women want the 10s, but then the top women get the 10s, and now all that's left is

00:55:29the 9s.

00:55:29And the other women get the 9s, and the 7s.

00:55:32And if you wait too long, all the top status men are gone, and you have to go even lower

00:55:36status.

00:55:36Let's say you're holding out for an 8, but all the 8s are gone, and then all the 7s are

00:55:40gone,

00:55:40because you're holding out for a new 8, and then you have to settle for a 6.

00:55:44So, if you don't grab what you think you can reasonably get, then you end up with regret.

00:55:52You end up with regret.

00:55:55There's a feeding frenzy.

00:55:56There's a, right, women got a snag, the men.

00:55:59So, they dress themselves to the 9s.

00:56:00They make all the makeup, pinch their cheeks, balance books on their heads for great posture,

00:56:04learn how to play the piano, whatever the heck they're doing in the past,

00:56:08learning how to hold back for it.

00:56:11And for women, the high-status males are being snagged.

00:56:15And if you wait too long, they'll be gone.

00:56:18And then, if you're a woman who's a 5, you might even have to settle for a 4 or a

00:56:243.

00:56:25So, you'll say, well, I want the 10.

00:56:28If I'm a 5 and a 7 will take me, man, I'll take that.

00:56:32But that's because you had to get married, right?

00:56:35And so, the self-adornment phase, there's no cap on the self-adornment phase,

00:56:39because a woman self-adorns until she's married, because that's what the instinct is.

00:56:42And I'm not saying she doesn't self-adorn after she's married, but it's less crucial,

00:56:46because you've already, you know, you stop job hunting when you've got a job, right?

00:56:51So, at least for a while.

00:56:53So, what is it that puts the cap on women's self-adornment?

00:56:56Well, women's self-adornment lasts instinctually, at least until she's pregnant.

00:57:01And then, when she's pregnant, right, she's got a husband,

00:57:04and she's not out there on the market, so she doesn't need to adorn herself.

00:57:07This is the famous, you know, heels to sneakers transition,

00:57:12that the woman who used to dress to the nines is now in sweatpants and a T-shirt

00:57:16and flip-flops because she's pregnant.

00:57:18And it's perfectly natural, perfectly understandable, and nothing wrong with it.

00:57:23But a woman's self-adornment phase is going to last until she's pregnant.

00:57:26So, if a woman gets into the dating market at, you know, 15 and then whatever,

00:57:32and then she's not pregnant until she's 35, well, that's 20 years,

00:57:37which is way longer than it ever used to be, of self-adornment and hypergamy.

00:57:44It lasts way too long.

00:57:46It lasts way too long.

00:57:48You see these women in their 30s, you know, dressed to the nines, hair, makeup, hair dye,

00:57:53you name it, Botox.

00:57:54I mean, should be halfway to being a grandma by then, right?

00:57:58It just goes on and on.

00:57:59So, the economy is there to fuel self-adornment and hypergamy,

00:58:05which is extended far beyond its original lifespan.

00:58:12And it's very stressful.

00:58:14So, for a woman to choose a mate, right?

00:58:17You dress yourself up as pretty as possible, and then you have to watch.

00:58:20And it's painful.

00:58:21You have to watch the hottest guys go for the hottest females,

00:58:24or the high status go for the high status, or whatever it is.

00:58:26And then you just have to settle for what you can get.

00:58:29And we all do, right?

00:58:30I mean, we all have to settle for what we can get.

00:58:32And I know this sounds bad.

00:58:34I love my wife enormously, and I wouldn't trade her in for anyone or anything.

00:58:37But, you know, we get what we get.

00:58:41I mean, there's one, I don't know, what's that used to say about Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, you know?

00:58:48I mean, they were the most attractive people and highest status people,

00:58:51as far as sexual market value goes, on the planet for quite some time.

00:58:54But they got each other, and even they weren't happy.

00:58:58Terrible divorce, scattered kids who kind of hate them, and what is it?

00:59:03A multi-year legal battle over some stupid winery?

00:59:07Retarded stuff.

00:59:08It is absolutely stupid stuff.

00:59:11But, yeah, you get what you get.

00:59:13And it's very stressful.

00:59:14It's very stressful for women.

00:59:16Want to look as good as possible, don't want to appear too desperate,

00:59:19you know, want to attract the best man possible,

00:59:21and then having to choose the man when the men are being snapped up,

00:59:25it's really stressful.

00:59:26Because if I don't accept a 7, maybe I can get an 8.

00:59:30But if I don't accept a 7 and I don't get the 8, I might have to settle for a

00:59:336.

00:59:34I mean, it's really stressful.

00:59:35And that's supposed to be short-term stress.

00:59:37Six months, a year, max, max, max, max.

00:59:42And it goes on.

00:59:44Year after year.

00:59:46Half decade after half decade.

00:59:47Decade to decade and a half.

00:59:49Half, sometimes 2, 18, 15 to 35, 18 to 38, sometimes 20 years of stress and appearance

00:59:57and hypergamy and I could do better and I could do better.

00:59:59Now, of course, it's gone completely nuts with dating apps

01:00:01where any reasonably attractive woman gets 50 messages, 100 messages a day.

01:00:07A day.

01:00:09Absolute madness.

01:00:11Absolute madness.

01:00:12So then there's something better out there.

01:00:14There's something better out there.

01:00:15There's something better out there.

01:00:15And the fact that women, of course, can subsidize with sex.

01:00:19A woman goes up three points just by offering sex.

01:00:23In other words, a 5 can get an 8 if she'll offer sex.

01:00:27A 3 can get a 6 just by offering sex.

01:00:34And then, of course, the 3 thinks she gets the 6.

01:00:37The 5 thinks she gets the 8.

01:00:38They're called alpha widows because they can offer sex

01:00:41and men of higher sexual market value will sleep with them but won't marry them.

01:00:46Slumming with the help or something like that, right?

01:00:50The high-status man might have an affair with the chambermaid

01:00:53but he's not going to marry her.

01:00:54But then she thinks, oh, then because I can sleep with a high-status man,

01:00:58I can marry a high-status man, it's like, nope, not how it works.

01:01:04It's not how it works.

01:01:08And the last thing I'll say is what puts the cap on female sexuality

01:01:13and male sexuality in particular?

01:01:16What puts the cap?

01:01:17So the traditional cap for male sexuality has been females, right?

01:01:20There's all these studies of single guys in hotel lobbies

01:01:25and they'll hire attractive people of the opposite sex to come and flirt with them.

01:01:30Most men will go up to the hotel room if invited.

01:01:33Most women, very few women, if any, will.

01:01:36And that's basic investment theory in reproduction.

01:01:40Men invest very little.

01:01:42Women invest an enormous amount.

01:01:43So women are more careful with their assets.

01:01:47Now, if somebody says to you, lend me $20 so I can start a business,

01:01:50you're like, sure, I got that.

01:01:51But if somebody says, lend me $20,000 to start a business,

01:01:54well, that's a whole different matter, right?

01:01:58You got to be much more careful, much more review.

01:02:00So what is it that puts the cap on male sexuality?

01:02:03Well, it used to be a female saying no

01:02:06and the requirement for a ring for sex, right?

01:02:12No huggy, no kissy until I get a wedding ring.

01:02:16Oh, honey, my baby, don't put my love upon no shelf.

01:02:19She said, don't hand me no lines and keep your hands to yourself.

01:02:23Georgia Satellite.

01:02:24It's a great, great song.

01:02:26Now, if you want to have an example of what happens

01:02:30when female sexual restraint on male sexuality is taken away,

01:02:33the restraining bolt R2-D2 style,

01:02:35when that's taken away, I look at gay.

01:02:37Like male, gay.

01:02:40Relationships.

01:02:40Female sexual relationships like lesbian dead bedroom syndrome

01:02:44is very real.

01:02:45Lesbian violence and lesbian dead bedroom syndrome

01:02:48is a very real thing.

01:02:51Hypersexuality in the male gay community is very much a thing.

01:02:55I mean, gay men have hundreds or sometimes thousands,

01:02:58not all, obviously,

01:02:59hundreds or sometimes thousands of sexual partners

01:03:01over the course of their lives.

01:03:02I mean, I had gay roommates from time to time

01:03:05and I'd hear their stories of what it was like to be a gay male.

01:03:10And it's like, I remember the story.

01:03:12It's like, oh yeah, one guy called up.

01:03:14It was the wrong number.

01:03:15I invited him over.

01:03:16We had sex together.

01:03:16It's like, it's wild.

01:03:18Just wild.

01:03:19It's a crazy situation.

01:03:20But that's male sexuality to some degree

01:03:23without the restraint of women saying no.

01:03:26And so we have, from women,

01:03:29removed the restraining bolts on female behavior

01:03:32and it appears to be multiplying

01:03:34to extremely destructive levels in many ways.

01:03:38And it takes what is healthy,

01:03:39which is the interplay of permission

01:03:42between men and women,

01:03:45which is men want sex, women say no

01:03:47until the time is right.

01:03:49Men want to, women want to spend money,

01:03:50men say no until the time is right.

01:03:53And the interplay between these two things

01:03:54is the frisson,

01:03:56the delightful incomprehensibility.

01:03:58It's a beautiful thing.

01:03:59It's a wonderful thing

01:04:00when it's voluntary and free and so on.

01:04:03And the other thing I'll say,

01:04:05the last thing I'll say,

01:04:06I hope you find this stuff interesting.

01:04:08James, if you do find any travel data,

01:04:10like what women spend on travel,

01:04:12I think it's a little bit more than men.

01:04:15And maybe not even of their own income.

01:04:18I mean, everybody,

01:04:19every man knows

01:04:20what the most likely explanation is

01:04:22if a young woman keeps posing

01:04:25on vacation in a bikini picture

01:04:26with no guy around.

01:04:27Every man knows what's really happening there.

01:04:31But, oh, what was I going to talk about?

01:04:35It was one last, one last thing.

01:04:37Ooh, it was going to be fantastic too.

01:04:38But unfortunately, I took one tangent.

01:04:40I took one tangent too many.

01:04:43I took one tangent too many.

01:04:45And maybe it will return.

01:04:47And maybe, maybe it won't.

01:04:49Males and females and spending

01:04:52and all of that.

01:04:54Oh, I'm sure it will come back to me later.

01:04:56So we're just going to wait for a second.

01:04:58And let me just, you know what?

01:04:59I keep forgetting too on this.

01:05:01Going to comments.

01:05:03Comments!

01:05:06Will they ever stop releasing

01:05:08Sex in the City films?

01:05:09Or will they ever stop acting

01:05:10like post-grad socialites?

01:05:13Somebody comments.

01:05:14That's an interesting, interesting comment.

01:05:18Oh, it's going to be good too.

01:05:20Oh, that doesn't drive you crazy?

01:05:21It only happens rarely for me

01:05:24where I was like,

01:05:25ah, one more thing I wanted to talk about.

01:05:27And then,

01:05:28it poofers.

01:05:30It poofs.

01:05:32One of the things,

01:05:33just sort of by the by,

01:05:34while I wait for that to come back,

01:05:35is aging.

01:05:37Aging for women

01:05:38who don't get married.

01:05:40I mean, aging for men

01:05:40is tough for sure.

01:05:42Aging for women, I think,

01:05:43is particularly brutal.

01:05:45Because women go from

01:05:46high attention,

01:05:47like overnight,

01:05:48you ever talk to women

01:05:49in their sort of late 40s or 50s

01:05:50where they are now,

01:05:53it used to be called

01:05:54women of a certain age

01:05:56in sort of Victorian literature.

01:05:57Women of a certain age.

01:05:58And what that means

01:05:59is women beyond their fertility windows.

01:06:01And of course,

01:06:02women can appear younger

01:06:04quite a bit these days.

01:06:05You'll make up

01:06:05and hair dye

01:06:06and Botox

01:06:07and plastic surgery,

01:06:09dermabrasion,

01:06:09things like that.

01:06:10I was going to pick a little bit too

01:06:12to prevent that

01:06:13Queen Elizabeth II

01:06:14middle-aged

01:06:14slight punch spread.

01:06:16But,

01:06:17when women

01:06:18just can't fight it anymore

01:06:19and they're clearly,

01:06:21clearly far beyond

01:06:22reproductive age,

01:06:23they just disappear.

01:06:25I mean,

01:06:25not in a family.

01:06:26In a family,

01:06:27they're matriarchs

01:06:27and loved

01:06:28and center of attention

01:06:29and, you know,

01:06:30they're matchmaking

01:06:31and helping with grandkids

01:06:32and doing all kinds

01:06:33of wonderful stuff

01:06:33and treasured

01:06:34by their husbands

01:06:35and everyone in the family

01:06:37as being the center

01:06:38of that

01:06:38which keeps everything together.

01:06:40I mean,

01:06:40men build cities,

01:06:41women build communities

01:06:42and both are essential.

01:06:44But boy,

01:06:44if you're single,

01:06:45oof,

01:06:46oof,

01:06:47man,

01:06:47you can just

01:06:49despawn.

01:06:50You can just,

01:06:50you can go to the back rooms,

01:06:52man.

01:06:52You can just

01:06:53despawn

01:06:54like nobody's business.

01:06:57And

01:06:57it's tough.

01:06:59You get sick

01:07:00and

01:07:02you gotta

01:07:03you gotta answer

01:07:04that question,

01:07:05right?

01:07:06Who's gonna be

01:07:07picking you up

01:07:07after the surgery?

01:07:09Oof.

01:07:12Friends?

01:07:13Friends?

01:07:14But, you know,

01:07:14if you're aging

01:07:15and your friends

01:07:17are mostly single,

01:07:18then they get sick too.

01:07:19Because, you know,

01:07:21the robustness of youth

01:07:22does not last

01:07:23into old age.

01:07:24I have some older friends

01:07:26and

01:07:27it is a real challenge

01:07:29with regards to health,

01:07:30mobility,

01:07:32and so on.

01:07:34Talking to a friend of mine

01:07:35who was older

01:07:36and he was like,

01:07:37driving is a challenge

01:07:38because I have trouble

01:07:39turning my neck

01:07:40because I'm old.

01:07:43All the things

01:07:44that you just take

01:07:44for granted,

01:07:46well,

01:07:47they don't last

01:07:48and you really,

01:07:49really do need

01:07:51people to help you out

01:07:52when you age,

01:07:53people to drop you off,

01:07:55people to pick you up,

01:07:55people to

01:07:56remind you of things,

01:07:57people to care

01:07:58about your existence.

01:08:00I think men

01:08:01can handle solitude

01:08:02a little bit better

01:08:03than women.

01:08:03We're kind of wired

01:08:04that way.

01:08:06And I think

01:08:07the benefits

01:08:08that women experience

01:08:09when they're young,

01:08:11the massive amount

01:08:12of attention

01:08:12that women get

01:08:13when they're young,

01:08:14you know,

01:08:14everything that you get,

01:08:15you end up having

01:08:16to pay for

01:08:17and is natural, right?

01:08:19Oh, yeah,

01:08:19that was the last thing

01:08:20I was going to mention.

01:08:21Oh, it's come back to me.

01:08:22Oh, hallelujah.

01:08:23The bridge has been built.

01:08:24The bridge to Khazadum

01:08:25has been built.

01:08:27Evel Knievel

01:08:27has landed

01:08:28on the other side

01:08:29of the Grand Canyon.

01:08:30No, you know what?

01:08:31I'm not going to go

01:08:31on more analogies,

01:08:33tangents,

01:08:34or I'll forget it again.

01:08:35So, last thing

01:08:36I wanted to say.

01:08:38Why is it

01:08:39in the modern world

01:08:40so much

01:08:41of time,

01:08:42resources,

01:08:42care,

01:08:43attention,

01:08:43and focus

01:08:43is put on

01:08:46helping women

01:08:47avoid the consequences

01:08:48of bad decisions?

01:08:50Because,

01:08:51general statement,

01:08:52so forgive me

01:08:53for places

01:08:55where it doesn't fit

01:08:56in one place

01:08:58in particular,

01:08:59let's say.

01:09:00But general statements,

01:09:01general statements.

01:09:03So,

01:09:05society as a whole

01:09:06can handle

01:09:08when men

01:09:08make bad decisions.

01:09:10Society as a whole

01:09:11cannot handle it

01:09:13when women

01:09:13make bad decisions.

01:09:15Which is why,

01:09:16and listen,

01:09:17I'm not,

01:09:17I've got a lovely daughter,

01:09:19a lovely wife,

01:09:20love females,

01:09:21have great conversations

01:09:22with women

01:09:23on the show,

01:09:23and so on.

01:09:25So,

01:09:25I have to put

01:09:26these caveats in

01:09:27because this is

01:09:27nothing right.

01:09:28So,

01:09:29society can handle it

01:09:31when men

01:09:31make bad decisions.

01:09:33Society cannot handle it

01:09:34when women

01:09:34make bad decisions,

01:09:35which is why

01:09:36women had less ability

01:09:38to make decisions

01:09:38in the past

01:09:39because you couldn't

01:09:40survive.

01:09:40Everything

01:09:41in the world

01:09:42has been tried.

01:09:43Everything in the world

01:09:45has been tried.

01:09:46Every kind of society

01:09:47has been tried

01:09:47over the,

01:09:48you know,

01:09:49million years

01:09:50and all over

01:09:51the seven continents

01:09:51or whatever.

01:09:52Everything has been tried.

01:09:54And so,

01:09:54societies have been tried

01:09:55where women

01:09:56got to make

01:09:57a whole bunch

01:09:57of decisions

01:09:58and it didn't

01:10:01work out well.

01:10:02Not because there's

01:10:02anything wrong

01:10:03with women,

01:10:03nothing like that.

01:10:04It's just a simple

01:10:05fact of our biology.

01:10:06Everything

01:10:07in human society

01:10:09is driven

01:10:10by the fact

01:10:10that children

01:10:12take 20 plus years

01:10:13to mature.

01:10:15Everything,

01:10:16everything,

01:10:17we are born

01:10:17ridiculously helpless.

01:10:19Our first year of life

01:10:20is called

01:10:20the fourth trimester

01:10:21for a reason.

01:10:22It's useless

01:10:23as tits on a bull.

01:10:26And everything

01:10:27is driven by,

01:10:28like,

01:10:29the fact that we have

01:10:30giant brains

01:10:30is driven by

01:10:31the fact that

01:10:32everything in nature

01:10:33that develops slower

01:10:34tends to end up

01:10:35more complex.

01:10:36And so,

01:10:38everything is driven

01:10:39by the fact that

01:10:40we as a species

01:10:42take forever

01:10:43and ever

01:10:43our men

01:10:44to grow up

01:10:45for males

01:10:47early,

01:10:48mid-twenties

01:10:48until

01:10:49intellectual maturity.

01:10:50Now,

01:10:51that's something

01:10:51I've known about

01:10:52for a while.

01:10:52There's some questions

01:10:53about that.

01:10:54Do some research.

01:10:55I've seen some pushback

01:10:56on whether that's true

01:10:57or not.

01:10:58But,

01:10:59even if we say

01:11:00it's less,

01:11:00late teens or whatever,

01:11:02it's almost 20 years

01:11:04before brain maturity

01:11:05is reached.

01:11:06That's insane.

01:11:07It's completely insane.

01:11:08You see these

01:11:09horses that are born,

01:11:11they can walk

01:11:11within a couple of hours.

01:11:13Absolutely mad.

01:11:15You can see young monkeys

01:11:16swinging from tree to tree

01:11:17really early on

01:11:19in 12 months.

01:11:21I mean,

01:11:21blacks mature

01:11:23a little faster,

01:11:24whites a little slower,

01:11:25East Asians a little slower still,

01:11:26but, you know,

01:11:27somewhere between

01:11:2710 and 14 months

01:11:29tottering around.

01:11:30Oh, look,

01:11:30it's only been a year,

01:11:32I could walk, right?

01:11:34So,

01:11:34if men make bad decisions,

01:11:37society can survive.

01:11:38Let's say

01:11:39a man who's single

01:11:40decides to become a drunk.

01:11:42I mean,

01:11:42that's bad.

01:11:43that's bad,

01:11:44but society can survive that.

01:11:47If a man decides

01:11:48to become a criminal,

01:11:50society can survive that,

01:11:51right?

01:11:51You kill,

01:11:52ostracize,

01:11:52or reform the criminal,

01:11:54right?

01:11:54You can survive that.

01:11:55A man is too belligerent,

01:11:57society can survive that.

01:11:59Men get into fights,

01:12:00society can survive that,

01:12:01in fact,

01:12:02it might even help.

01:12:03Men can make bad decisions.

01:12:05A man takes

01:12:06excessive risk,

01:12:09okay,

01:12:09well,

01:12:09society can survive that

01:12:10as a whole.

01:12:11But,

01:12:13particularly in the area

01:12:15of reproduction,

01:12:17society

01:12:18cannot survive

01:12:20women who make

01:12:22very bad

01:12:23reproductive

01:12:24choices.

01:12:26If she chooses

01:12:27the wrong guy,

01:12:28if she chooses

01:12:29the violent guy,

01:12:30if she chooses

01:12:31a guy who

01:12:31abandons her,

01:12:32if a woman

01:12:33makes very bad

01:12:35choices

01:12:36in terms of

01:12:37reproduction,

01:12:38society

01:12:39simply

01:12:41cannot

01:12:42survive.

01:12:45Because

01:12:45men

01:12:46want to

01:12:47invest

01:12:47in their

01:12:48own

01:12:48children,

01:12:49not

01:12:50in other

01:12:51men's

01:12:52children.

01:12:52I mean,

01:12:53obvious biological

01:12:54genetic reasons,

01:12:55right?

01:12:56A man's genetics

01:12:57are not reproduced

01:12:57by investing in

01:12:58another man's

01:12:59children.

01:12:59At the extreme end,

01:13:00of course,

01:13:00we know lions.

01:13:01If a lion gets

01:13:02killed,

01:13:03and a new lion

01:13:05wants to mate

01:13:06with the lioness,

01:13:06the first thing

01:13:07the new lion

01:13:07does is kill

01:13:08all of her

01:13:09cubs,

01:13:10for obvious

01:13:12genetic reasons.

01:13:14Men,

01:13:16right,

01:13:17mama's baby,

01:13:18daddy's maybe,

01:13:19right?

01:13:19So men

01:13:19have paternity

01:13:21uncertainty to

01:13:22some degree,

01:13:22which is why

01:13:23there were

01:13:23these chastity

01:13:25belts that

01:13:25women would

01:13:26be locked up

01:13:26in sometimes

01:13:27when men

01:13:27went off

01:13:28on the

01:13:28crusades

01:13:28or other

01:13:28things.

01:13:30And

01:13:32as a whole,

01:13:36women have

01:13:36to make

01:13:38good decisions

01:13:39when it

01:13:40comes to

01:13:41who they

01:13:41mate with.

01:13:42Because if

01:13:42they mate

01:13:43with a man

01:13:43who abandons

01:13:44them,

01:13:45who's a

01:13:45drunk,

01:13:45who doesn't

01:13:46provide.

01:13:46Now,

01:13:46I know

01:13:46earlier I

01:13:47said that

01:13:47men can

01:13:48make bad

01:13:48decisions

01:13:49and society

01:13:50can survive.

01:13:51Sure,

01:13:51sure.

01:13:52But when

01:13:53the man

01:13:54has become

01:13:54a father,

01:13:55it becomes

01:13:55much tougher

01:13:56for society

01:13:57as a whole.

01:13:58So women

01:13:59have to

01:13:59choose quality

01:14:00men who

01:14:00are going

01:14:01to stick

01:14:01around and

01:14:02they have

01:14:02to keep

01:14:02those men

01:14:03happy and

01:14:03they have

01:14:05to have

01:14:05those men

01:14:05be willing

01:14:06to provide

01:14:07yea verily

01:14:07into their

01:14:08old age.

01:14:09And there

01:14:09has to be

01:14:10monogamy

01:14:10because,

01:14:11of course,

01:14:11a man

01:14:12can have

01:14:14at least

01:14:15two families

01:14:15if he wants.

01:14:16He can

01:14:17raise his

01:14:17kids and

01:14:18then he

01:14:18can dump

01:14:19his wife

01:14:19and he

01:14:19can get

01:14:20a younger

01:14:20wife and

01:14:21have another

01:14:22round of

01:14:22kids.

01:14:22I mean,

01:14:23you could

01:14:23go for

01:14:23three if

01:14:24you're

01:14:24Anthony

01:14:25Quinn,

01:14:25maybe,

01:14:25or Mick

01:14:26Jagger,

01:14:26but for

01:14:27the most

01:14:27part.

01:14:27So you

01:14:28have to

01:14:28have monogamy

01:14:29because societies

01:14:30are destabilized

01:14:31if older men

01:14:32take younger

01:14:33women,

01:14:33societies

01:14:33destabilized

01:14:34because then

01:14:34you have

01:14:35young men

01:14:36with no

01:14:38brides and

01:14:39single young

01:14:40men are very

01:14:41destabilizing in

01:14:42society because

01:14:42society bribes

01:14:44young men into

01:14:44being more

01:14:45peaceful and

01:14:46productive by

01:14:47saying,

01:14:47hey, if you're

01:14:47peaceful and

01:14:48productive,

01:14:48you get a

01:14:49wife and

01:14:49kids.

01:14:50And if young

01:14:51men, this is

01:14:51one of the

01:14:51problems with

01:14:52this mass

01:14:52migration stuff

01:14:53is you've

01:14:53got a whole

01:14:54coterie of

01:14:54young men

01:14:56who are

01:14:57going to

01:14:57do what

01:14:58in terms

01:14:58of a

01:14:58wife and

01:14:59kids.

01:15:00So the

01:15:01same thing's

01:15:02going on

01:15:02with China

01:15:02where you

01:15:03have a

01:15:03ratio of

01:15:04males to

01:15:05females because

01:15:06they preferred

01:15:07males during the

01:15:08one-child policy,

01:15:09a ratio of

01:15:09males to

01:15:10females that

01:15:10is somewhat

01:15:11sketchy but

01:15:11sometimes is

01:15:13at the highest

01:15:131.2 to

01:15:141, like 20%

01:15:15more.

01:15:16Men than

01:15:16women, which

01:15:17is extremely

01:15:18destabilizing

01:15:19because if

01:15:20men can't

01:15:21reproduce,

01:15:22then they

01:15:24have a great

01:15:25incentive to

01:15:25overturn society

01:15:26and use

01:15:26violence because

01:15:27otherwise the

01:15:28genes are

01:15:28going to die

01:15:28out.

01:15:29Again, it's

01:15:29not prescriptive,

01:15:30it's just

01:15:30descriptive.

01:15:33So if

01:15:34women make

01:15:34bad decisions,

01:15:36then a

01:15:37woman ends

01:15:37up with a

01:15:38couple of

01:15:38kids and

01:15:40no provider.

01:15:41And then

01:15:41what happens?

01:15:42Well, I

01:15:43mean, others

01:15:44have to step

01:15:44up, others

01:15:45have to take

01:15:46them in, and

01:15:47that makes

01:15:48things very

01:15:49challenging and

01:15:50problematic for

01:15:51the existing

01:15:51families.

01:15:53So society

01:15:54desperately

01:15:55needs women

01:15:56to make

01:15:57really good

01:15:57decisions when

01:15:59it comes to

01:15:59who they have

01:16:00children with.

01:16:01And that's

01:16:03why elder

01:16:04females, elder

01:16:05males would

01:16:07strongly

01:16:08encourage

01:16:10women, young

01:16:11women, to

01:16:12make really

01:16:12good decisions.

01:16:13The elder

01:16:14males, the

01:16:15elder females

01:16:15would vet the

01:16:16family of the

01:16:17young man, they

01:16:18would interview

01:16:19him, he would

01:16:20have to ask

01:16:21permission, right,

01:16:22so there

01:16:22would be a

01:16:22lot of

01:16:23filtering.

01:16:24There would

01:16:24be, of

01:16:25course, there

01:16:26was chaperones

01:16:27that you

01:16:27couldn't go on

01:16:28a date on

01:16:28your own, doors

01:16:29had to always

01:16:29be open, you

01:16:30weren't allowed

01:16:31alone in a

01:16:32bedroom.

01:16:33So there

01:16:34was a huge

01:16:34amount of

01:16:35older and

01:16:36wiser investment

01:16:39into who

01:16:41the young

01:16:42woman had

01:16:43children with.

01:16:44There would

01:16:44be a requirement

01:16:45for monogamy,

01:16:46good church

01:16:47going, good

01:16:47family, honest

01:16:49vows, evidence

01:16:51of being a

01:16:52hard-working,

01:16:53productive member

01:16:53of society, and

01:16:55so on.

01:16:56And because the

01:16:57elders had a

01:17:00huge influence on

01:17:01who the young

01:17:01woman married and

01:17:02could veto it,

01:17:04right, the young

01:17:04man comes to the

01:17:05father and says,

01:17:06I want to ask you

01:17:07for permission to

01:17:08marry your

01:17:08daughter, father

01:17:09says, no, that's

01:17:10kind of it, right?

01:17:11I mean, they could

01:17:12elope and so on,

01:17:12but that's really

01:17:14risky.

01:17:15That's really

01:17:15risky because if

01:17:16you elope, you

01:17:16lose community

01:17:17support.

01:17:18Community support

01:17:19is essential.

01:17:20For most of our

01:17:21evolution, you

01:17:21couldn't survive

01:17:22alone, or even

01:17:24if you did, your

01:17:25kids are going to

01:17:26marry who when

01:17:27you're living out

01:17:27in the woods?

01:17:29It's just one

01:17:30hop, skip, and

01:17:30a jump away from

01:17:31genetic dead

01:17:33end.

01:17:34So because the

01:17:36elders chose or

01:17:38significantly

01:17:39influenced who

01:17:39the women got

01:17:41married to, the

01:17:43women could afford

01:17:45to have great

01:17:47lust and chaos

01:17:48because it was

01:17:48shaped by the

01:17:51elders and

01:17:52focused in the

01:17:52right direction.

01:17:53And same thing

01:17:53is true for

01:17:55young men.

01:17:56Now, what has

01:17:58put the cap on

01:17:58female spending?

01:17:59Nothing.

01:18:00It's all been

01:18:01removed.

01:18:01What has put the

01:18:02cap on female

01:18:03hypergamy?

01:18:03Nothing.

01:18:04Which is why the

01:18:06nines and the

01:18:07tens of the

01:18:07males in society

01:18:08have a virtual

01:18:09harem of

01:18:10situationships from

01:18:11which to choose

01:18:11a Pasha-style

01:18:14grouping of

01:18:15women who

01:18:15will do

01:18:16most of what

01:18:17they say

01:18:17and masses

01:18:19and masses

01:18:19of men have

01:18:20no access to

01:18:21females at all

01:18:23because hypergamy,

01:18:24the cap,

01:18:25has been removed

01:18:26and therefore

01:18:26hypergamy is

01:18:27running rampant.

01:18:30Lust.

01:18:31The cap on

01:18:32lust has been

01:18:33removed.

01:18:34So the cap on

01:18:34lust used to be,

01:18:35well, if I get

01:18:36pregnant outside a

01:18:37wedlock or with a

01:18:38bad man, my life

01:18:39is doomed.

01:18:40So there'd be a

01:18:41cap on female

01:18:42lust.

01:18:42But because there

01:18:43was an external

01:18:44cap on female

01:18:44lust, female

01:18:46lust could

01:18:47surge.

01:18:48There was no

01:18:48cap internally on

01:18:50female lust, just

01:18:51as there's not

01:18:51much cap on

01:18:52male lust, because

01:18:53the cap on male

01:18:54lust used to be

01:18:55women saying

01:18:55no.

01:18:57So all of these

01:18:58restraints, this

01:18:59is the modern

01:19:00world, all of

01:19:01these restraints

01:19:02that we evolved

01:19:03with, that we

01:19:04need, all have

01:19:06been taken away.

01:19:06And it is a

01:19:08mad, Vesuvius,

01:19:12old faithful

01:19:12geyser spray of

01:19:14absolutely

01:19:15uninhibited,

01:19:17unrestrained,

01:19:18uncontrolled

01:19:19hedonism.

01:19:21All of the

01:19:22external restraints

01:19:23have been taken

01:19:24away because there

01:19:25used to be

01:19:26external restraints,

01:19:27the internal

01:19:27restraints have not

01:19:28developed, and

01:19:30therefore, all is

01:19:34consumption and

01:19:35hedonism, and we

01:19:36have no way to

01:19:39restrain the

01:19:41pursuit of

01:19:42pleasure in the

01:19:44moment, except

01:19:45collapse, like

01:19:47general economic

01:19:50and social

01:19:51collapse.

01:19:53And that is a

01:19:55real tragedy.

01:19:56It is a real

01:19:57tragedy.

01:19:58Now, let me just

01:19:58see here, I

01:19:59think Jimmy

01:20:01James was saying

01:20:02that the

01:20:05got some

01:20:06travel, got

01:20:08some travel

01:20:08information.

01:20:10Proportion of

01:20:11total expenditures,

01:20:14proportion of

01:20:15total expenditures,

01:20:16single women

01:20:16under 25, travel

01:20:173 to 6%, 25

01:20:19to 34, 5 to

01:20:219%.

01:20:22It would

01:20:23increase our

01:20:23previous analysis

01:20:24of vanity

01:20:24spending by about

01:20:2550% or so.

01:20:27Now, some of it

01:20:27is in transportation

01:20:28and so on.

01:20:30And that

01:20:31level of

01:20:32consumption is

01:20:34wild.

01:20:35And again,

01:20:37I think in

01:20:38general, you

01:20:39want to have

01:20:39enough consumption

01:20:41that your life is

01:20:41enjoyable, but

01:20:43not so much

01:20:43consumption that

01:20:44you've got no

01:20:44money.

01:20:45You're in debt.

01:20:47Debt is simply

01:20:49a future

01:20:50enslavement.

01:20:52Anyway, I hope

01:20:53this helps.

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01:20:54this interesting.

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