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00:00Previously on This Is Polly.
00:02I'm her husband.
00:03I'm excited to get to call you my husband one day as well.
00:05Me and Becca are engaged.
00:07I didn't feel like I needed to ask Jacob for permission.
00:11What is Jacob's role in all this?
00:13We're not the closest.
00:15My solo adventure will be with a young lady
00:17that I met while I was incarcerated.
00:19You might develop an emotional attachment to somebody
00:21that's not the three of us.
00:23You're not gay, and you're not bi.
00:25I told you that from the very beginning.
00:27And so did every other girl that I've ever f***ed in my life.
00:31We need another girl that'll spot you.
00:33He got caught cheating.
00:34I said to myself, allow what he's looking for
00:38outside of this relationship.
00:39Bring it into the relationship.
00:42Oh, my God.
00:43Oh, and I'm f***ing.
00:45If you go back in there, it's f***ing over, B.
00:47It's over. It's over.
00:49Just stop, stop, stop, just stop.
00:51You guys, we need a phone, I'm done.
00:53Propose already.
00:54But you are legally married.
00:57You need to get a divorce before I marry you.
01:00Like, do that sound crazy?
01:01So you're giving me an ultimatum,
01:03get a divorce or I lose you.
01:04That's what you want to call me.
01:35The biggest obstacle with me and Marley right now,
01:38and our polycule is her and his divorce.
01:41I'm done being taken for granted.
01:43Like, I cannot keep preaching to somebody who is married to somebody else.
01:46If I can't be hurt, it's time to roll.
01:54I feel like this was the only option at this point.
02:02This isn't for, like, a day or two, a week.
02:05Like, I'm done. It's official.
02:08I'm out. I'm moving.
02:16To the pool house.
02:19Home sweet home.
02:21I'm petty, but I'm not financially stupid.
02:24That's why it makes sense to have two dwellings on one property.
02:35Bree!
02:42Bree!
02:48Bree!
02:50Bree!
02:57Bree!
02:58Uh-huh.
03:02Okay.
03:03That's what we doing.
03:05Bet.
03:08I'm just...
03:12shopped that she actually stood on business.
03:23Please leave your message.
03:25Okay, you sent me the voicemail.
03:27Okay.
03:30Where do you think Bri moved to?
03:31The pool house.
03:32Her car's there, got her location.
03:35When she get mad, this what she do.
03:37You know what?
03:38I'm like, okay.
03:40Are you going to act out?
03:41I'm definitely going outside.
03:43I'm definitely finna get some fresh air.
03:45You got it.
03:46No matter how many feet away you are.
03:48Hey, bae.
03:49Hey, baby.
03:50I just came home and Bri is not here.
03:55I go upstairs, look in the closet.
03:57She's not even here.
03:58She took every .
04:00What the hell?
04:02Since she want to be like this, I'm going to go do me.
04:05I'm done with it.
04:07Don't go too far.
04:08I'm going to try to reach out to her and figure out what the going on.
04:11You want to move out and do your thing?
04:13You got it.
04:14Now you want to open up a can of germs.
04:17I'm going to do me and have a good time.
04:19Yeah, your girl's outside tonight.
04:22I'll call you.
04:23I love you.
04:24I love you too.
04:25Bye.
04:27The .
04:27You got to eat this food alone?
04:30Food.
04:40This is a throuple date night.
04:42Definitely some much needed time from all the things that we've been dealing with.
04:47Let our hair down, kind of have a few drinks, eat some food that I didn't have to cook.
04:52It's going to be great.
04:54We're going to get creative, so I want you to have, like, this vodka berry smash and this
04:58lavender white lemon.
04:59Okay.
04:59Like, let's say they made a baby.
05:01Okay.
05:02Yeah, and by the way, that's my drink, so she's making my drink for me.
05:04I'm going to do the berry.
05:05She always does.
05:06I'm going to do the berry mix mule.
05:08I'll do it old-fashioned.
05:09No problem, guys.
05:09I'm going to get this going for us, okay?
05:10Okay.
05:10Thank you so much.
05:20We need to touch on Lee and what that means for us.
05:27What first started as, like, a friend in jail turned into, you know, an adventure, which
05:31was my idea, and that kind of snowballed and now have these emotional strings that is
05:37tied to another human being that's not my primary partner.
05:39We're still trying to figure out what it is that you're needing or missing out on.
05:43So it's more so what she recepates for me.
05:47Like, I know that you're not different.
05:50Told you that from the very beginning.
05:53Okay, forgive me if that has not ever been a problem before, okay?
05:56So, like, you giving me not compensate what I get from Lee giving me.
06:01That make sense?
06:02It's not the same thing.
06:03Because it's female.
06:04Because it's female.
06:05They're different.
06:06They're different.
06:07It feels different.
06:08It's just different.
06:08Three years, and this is the first time you've ever mentioned that.
06:11I know that, right?
06:11Just trying to understand.
06:12I'm just saying that they're different.
06:13They're different.
06:14You would love that from me, but that may not ever be possible, and we knew that from
06:17the very beginning.
06:18No, we did not know that from the very beginning.
06:21Well, you should have, because that was communicated.
06:24Touché.
06:24We were completely honest.
06:26She's never been married, and she's got the Cinderella story dream.
06:29If that's what she really needs to go find her person, we'd bless her to go do that.
06:33But we really wanted to choose us if she wants to be with us.
06:37We agreed that everybody could have one a month, and your date is still continuing.
06:46Does that seem fair?
06:50I am in anxiety and stress right now, because Nita is not able to manage herself in the
06:55parameters that we've set.
06:56What is our goal as a Throbel?
06:59Isn't it, if anything takes away from the three of us, then...
07:02I don't believe that it has to, but it has.
07:06What's supposed to be an adventure or a fling or a one-night stand has, you know, evolved
07:12into this emotional connection where I can see her being a part of my day, you know?
07:17I'm not asking anything.
07:18I'm just asking that you don't cut Lee out of my life.
07:21Well, that really depends on you.
07:22That depends on you.
07:25Love is love is love is love.
07:27So we do believe, and I think you do too, that love is limitless.
07:31Like, we could love as many...
07:33But time is not.
07:34I agree.
07:35And when you take time away from the garden you're supposed to be watering, and the garden
07:40you were supposed to be watering is dying.
07:42Does that make sense?
07:42It makes a different sense.
07:44If it would have stayed as a one-time adventure, but the fact that...
07:48We were friends first.
07:49That's not fair.
07:50It was probably not the right person to have an adventure with.
07:52So my adventure looks different than yours.
07:54How do we cater to that?
07:55That's not fair.
07:56So, like, mine is always going to be an emotional connection.
07:58That is not what we agreed upon.
07:59The rule in our thruple was that each one of us could have an adventure once a month,
08:05and that looked like one evening, say approximately four hours.
08:09And the issue is that it's definitely a slippery slope when you start having an emotional connection
08:14with somebody else that's not your partner or your partner's.
08:18I'm not trying to, like, have a primary relationship with somebody else.
08:21If we want this to work, we need to focus on the three of us.
08:25What if we took me to, like, a platonic level?
08:30I don't think you can do that now.
08:32Can we do that?
08:33Look at us.
08:34Like, we'll never be able to go back to a closed marriage.
08:36Once you open that box, we'll never be able to go back.
08:39You have to decide what you want.
08:41We still need to communicate about what Lee looks like for the next couple weeks,
08:44because right now, we're not going in a good direction.
08:48I feel like you need to decide what you want,
08:51because I don't think both can live in the same space.
08:56Coming up, I definitely find myself in between Jacob and Davis.
09:01Since Davis and I have gotten engaged, how are you feeling about it?
09:04I am always scared of, like, losing our time together.
09:08Is she turning into, like, a girlfriend?
09:12This is embarrassing.
09:13This is what I'm talking about.
09:15It's mortifying.
09:16People on there know that that's my fiancée.
09:31I've got some colored pencils and some charcoal pencils,
09:35and I got a couple drawing pads so we can draw one another, or...
09:40Me and Becca first met in a little tattoo studio in our early 20s.
09:46She had just moved from Vermont to the middle of nowhere, Georgia,
09:51where there's just a small tattoo studio.
09:54As soon as she walked in on her first, like, day meeting everybody,
09:58it was, like, slow motion.
10:00I remember what she was wearing.
10:02I remember the shoes she had on.
10:04I remember her haircut.
10:05She looked so cool and amazing and beautiful,
10:11and I was, like, automatically, like, starstruck.
10:14Yeah, you look really beautiful here.
10:17I'm so excited to be here.
10:19I am, too.
10:19I'm so grateful that you wanted to come out here with me.
10:22Of course.
10:22And you always look so good next to the water.
10:25Jacob has done the majority of my tattoos.
10:27He's done, like, my chest and, you know, my forms, my cat portraits,
10:31my tummy tiger, Jacob did, as well,
10:34which is probably, like, one of my favorites.
10:36Since Davis and I have gotten engaged, you know,
10:38are you feeling like there's been any, like, shifts in our dynamic
10:41that you wanted to talk about, or how are you feeling about it?
10:45I definitely am always scared of, like, losing our time together.
10:49You know, whenever we first started dating,
10:52I'd never been polyamorous before.
10:54When Becca and Davis started dating, you know,
10:56we were spending almost every single day, you know,
10:59around one another 24-7, and then suddenly,
11:02Becca and Davis had their own apartment,
11:05and Becca would be gone half of the week.
11:07I still feel, you know, every time that there's a new thing,
11:13it has its own hardships.
11:15How are you feeling about maybe wanting to, like, you know,
11:18deepen your relationship with Davis now that we're engaged?
11:22Well, Davis and I will have conversations, like,
11:25on the way to and from work when we ride together.
11:28Right.
11:28But, you know, it's, like, a couple of minutes
11:31and small talk, typically.
11:33I can definitely see that I haven't been putting in that effort
11:37as much as I could.
11:38So my position as the hinge in our relationship,
11:43I definitely find myself in between Jacob and Davis
11:46and, like, little silly things, whether it be like,
11:48oh, do you mind asking him if he can take the trash out today?
11:51Or do you mind, you know, and I'll be like,
11:52well, why can't you do it?
11:53And they're like, well, you know him better.
11:55I am, like, hopeful that y'all will continue to get closer
11:59and that our relationship between the two of us
12:02and between Davis and I and between you two,
12:04like, everything will just continue to grow
12:05and get more comfortable.
12:08My first reaction to Becca and Davis getting engaged,
12:13you know, I was nervous.
12:14Jealousy happens.
12:16And, you know, there's always that little flicker inside of you
12:20that's like, oh, you know, like, am I good enough?
12:23I think giving him a chance, which I know you will, you know,
12:26I think you'll find that he's more agreeable.
12:30Right, yeah.
12:31Becca's right, you know, like, especially since we've lived together
12:34and he is Becca's partner,
12:36I'm willing to, like, give her what she wants
12:39and try to find that time and that space for Davis.
12:41I'm lucky that you let me be a part of your life.
12:44I love you as a part of my life.
12:46And I love you.
12:47I love you.
12:48Yeah, no, I am really looking forward
12:50to your and Davis', like, relationship growing,
12:53you know, strengthen our family bond.
12:54I definitely think it will.
12:56Yeah.
13:08Jackie.
13:09Hi, boo.
13:11Jackie has been my friend for, like, 14 years.
13:14She has something that she has to tell me in person.
13:16You have, like, time to meet up with me.
13:18I have some tea.
13:19What is it about?
13:20Jackie, what is it about?
13:22Something I saw.
13:23Is BQ involved in it?
13:24That's all I need to know.
13:26That's all I want.
13:27That's it.
13:28I'll be there.
13:28Now I'm just like, blech.
13:30What's going on?
13:31What's new and exciting?
13:33I get a text message from the landlord
13:37stating that there's something in the house
13:38that we need to move out.
13:39So I call him.
13:41He's like, I'm at work.
13:42You know, I'm like, well, we have to talk
13:43because we need to find a place to live in 60 days.
13:48And he's like, I don't give a f***.
13:49You know, I don't care.
13:51I'm going to the gym right now.
13:52And I finally put a tracker in his car.
13:56And he wasn't at the gym.
13:58He was at the strip club.
14:02BQ is a sex addict.
14:04BQ cares about BQ.
14:07BQ cares about BQ's and where it's going to go next.
14:11And I know she's tired.
14:14And he's never going to change.
14:16I'm done.
14:16I'm f***ing.
14:18So, the reason why I asked you to come here
14:22is because someone sent this to me
14:24because they know how close we were.
14:27And I had to check it out for myself.
14:30And when I looked...
14:31Oh, my God.
14:32Can you just f***ing me?
14:32What the f***ing fuck at me?
14:34So, there's this group.
14:37Okay.
14:38And I...
14:38Where is this group?
14:39What is this group?
14:40It's online.
14:41It's on Facebook.
14:42What is it called?
14:43Let me just show you.
14:44The name is not even important.
14:48I'm so sorry.
14:49Are we dating the same guy?
14:51Why is his f***ing shirt on there?
14:52I don't know, babe.
14:53This is embarrassing.
14:54I know.
14:55This is f***ing embarrassing.
14:56This is what I'm talking about.
14:57Like, how many people seen this?
14:58Even once I introduced a polyamory into our relationship,
15:02he never stopped cheating.
15:04After I said,
15:06hey, we can have a girlfriend.
15:07She can live with us.
15:08He was still continuing these relations.
15:10Almost like I gave a dog a treat
15:12that just, like, f***ed over the house.
15:15When does it stop?
15:16It's not.
15:17And then he looks me in the face
15:18and he says,
15:18I'm not doing f***ing,
15:19I'm not doing f***ing,
15:20and he's f***ing,
15:21and now his face is on a f***ing site.
15:23I...
15:24I don't ever have a fair chance
15:26at making my own decisions in this relationship.
15:28I just have to do it.
15:29And that's not a relationship, babe.
15:30No, it's not.
15:30Everything is f***ing.
15:32That's a dictatorship.
15:34And you're a boss.
15:35He's breaking you down.
15:36You've got to get it together.
15:38F*** him.
15:39I think...
15:40I think maybe I should just get my own place
15:43and just start over without him,
15:45but it's not going to be easy.
15:47That's good.
15:48I've never heard you say that before.
15:50That's a step in the right direction.
15:53Mina, I love you,
15:54but I cannot continue to watch you.
15:56You just...
15:58You're falling apart.
15:59I need the old Mina back.
16:01Like, come on, girl.
16:03You've got to get it together.
16:06Like, what are you going to do right now, Mina?
16:08He's ruining your life.
16:11Coming up...
16:12How are things with Lee?
16:15Let's say my mom was in your shoes
16:17and she met someone.
16:18I would never tolerate it.
16:20To new beginnings.
16:22Let's go!
16:23Let's go!
16:24What the f***?
16:26I thought we were a problem.
16:27We are!
16:28You don't want to exclude it yourself.
16:39I do think the river
16:40is one of my favorite parts
16:41about Redding.
16:43My relationship with Zoe
16:44was very close.
16:47It's like having a daughter
16:48and a best friend
16:49and a counselor
16:50all wrapped into this
16:51great little package.
16:52Picnic in a box.
16:53We love it.
16:54Very good darling.
16:55It was a great present.
16:56Oh, we even have mustard and s***.
16:57Thought about these.
16:58You do picnics pretty fabulous.
17:01I love having Nita in my life
17:02because kind of like sisters,
17:05we process our emotions together.
17:07Toast you guys coming out
17:08is a throuple.
17:09All right.
17:10My journey with polyamory
17:11is very exciting
17:13and it's allowed me
17:15to get to know and love Nita.
17:17And she teaches me
17:18so much about the world.
17:20I think one of the most important
17:21things about coming out
17:22is you'd never know
17:23who really has you
17:24until you take that step.
17:26Because nobody even knows you
17:27until you take that step.
17:30So, how do you feel
17:31about parents coming out
17:33as a throuple?
17:33It's going to be hard
17:34to go to any sort
17:35of family reunions
17:36and just feel those stares
17:38that I know just don't understand.
17:40You think we're still
17:40going to get invited?
17:41Now that my parents
17:42have come out as a throuple,
17:44I'm nervous about
17:45some extended family.
17:47I don't think they care
17:48to try to understand.
17:49And so where I used to love
17:50going to family gatherings
17:52or reunions,
17:53I can't see myself going
17:54if my parents don't get invited.
17:55How about you?
17:56How are things with Leigh?
18:00Is she turning into, like,
18:02a girlfriend?
18:02Is that the direction
18:04it's going?
18:07My attraction to Leigh initially
18:08is, like, she's definitely,
18:09like, a lesbian woman.
18:11I mean, full-fledged lesbian.
18:12We haven't been intimate
18:13more than just once.
18:14But as far as the physical
18:15turning into an emotional development,
18:17I didn't cut it off
18:19when I started having feelings
18:20or liking her.
18:21That wouldn't work for us.
18:22Yeah, I know that
18:23you were the one
18:24that kind of set up
18:25the boundaries of
18:26of a close throuple.
18:29So now that you're
18:29adventuring in this way,
18:30how do you think
18:31that's going to ripple out?
18:32We've been, um,
18:34trinogamous.
18:35What?
18:36Right?
18:36Is that a real world?
18:37Or did I make that up?
18:38Either way, I follow.
18:40I've been trinogamous
18:41for three years.
18:42Like, that's a long time
18:44to f***ing insane person
18:45or insane people.
18:48Okay.
18:49Have you talked
18:50to the parents about it?
18:52Yeah, about that.
18:54So, your mom.
18:56Yeah, she'll call you
18:57on your s***, man.
18:59Let's say my mom
19:00was in your shoes
19:01and she met someone
19:02and she wanted to continue
19:03on more than just
19:04an adventure, buddy.
19:05What feelings would you have?
19:06I would never tolerate it.
19:07I would never.
19:08No.
19:08You couldn't tolerate it?
19:10There's no way
19:10I would welcome that.
19:11I feel guilty
19:12about the connection with Lee.
19:14Because I know
19:14I'm wronger than two left shoes.
19:15I mean, like,
19:16I'm already breaking the rules.
19:17But we've endured
19:18far greater struggles
19:20than, you know,
19:21me liking another girl.
19:22Polyamory is for people
19:23who have thick skin,
19:25want to grow.
19:26Do you think
19:26there could be
19:28space for all of it
19:29if you learn exactly
19:30what everyone needs?
19:31Not right now.
19:32Not right now.
19:33I know the answer is no.
19:34That's just...
19:35Well, what are
19:35your biggest fears?
19:37I don't know.
19:37It's a female-female relationship.
19:38I feel like your mom might
19:41feel like I'm trying
19:42to replace her or something.
19:43She just told me
19:43what I already knew.
19:44She just held the mirror for me.
19:45I need to make this better
19:46before things get at hand.
19:48God willing,
19:49there'll be no tear shed,
19:50hopefully.
20:07I'm trying to mend things
20:08with Brie,
20:09so I'll ask her out
20:10to dinner tonight.
20:14Hey, Brie.
20:17Just bull
20:19I'm going out with Drie.
20:21Hi.
20:23Is it shady
20:24that you're going out
20:25with Drie?
20:26Like, what's going on?
20:27Like, this is too much talking.
20:29But what you want
20:30to do about it?
20:32No, I'm not being shady.
20:34Shady was when Brie got up
20:36and packed her
20:36and moved out the house.
20:38Hey, hi, baby.
20:39Hi, Red.
20:40How are you?
20:42You know, just working,
20:44getting ready for my birthday.
20:46Birthday?
20:47Clock that.
20:50So where the other half at?
20:52It's just us.
20:53You don't want to vibe with me?
20:55Yeah, I do,
20:55but you know,
20:56I'm used to Trio.
20:58Some things you got
20:59to get unused to.
21:00Okay.
21:01Recently,
21:02Brie decided
21:03she wanted to move out.
21:05Hold up.
21:06I need a drink.
21:08Wait.
21:09Hold up.
21:10Hold up.
21:11You might need a drink
21:12for this one.
21:13I tried reaching out
21:14to Brie.
21:15She ain't answered me.
21:16I'm done with that.
21:18I'm not reaching out.
21:19She can reach out to me.
21:24It's all on me.
21:31He, like,
21:32hit me up
21:32to come on this date
21:34to go play pickleball.
21:35I'm down to play pickleball,
21:37but what the pickleball?
21:44Some white people's
21:45s***.
21:46What's up, baby?
21:48Hey, babe.
21:49How you doing?
21:50Hey, I ain't seen you
21:52in a minute.
21:53I know.
21:55It's been since
21:56the pool party, right?
21:57I've been good.
21:58How you been?
21:59Missing you,
22:00but, you know,
22:00I've been good.
22:01I'm excited to see Key
22:02because, honestly,
22:03like, my hair space
22:04ain't been right
22:05since all these events
22:06that done happened.
22:07You ready?
22:08I'm gonna make you
22:09sweat today, babe.
22:21I know since the party
22:23she kind of, like,
22:23been off.
22:24Like, is it because
22:25of me or...?
22:26No, I just think
22:28it's because,
22:29you know,
22:30me
22:32and Bri,
22:33as you know,
22:33we started this poly thing
22:34with my ex.
22:36Mm-hmm.
22:36But he's not actually
22:38my ex-husband yet.
22:39We're still married.
22:41So I know as you've been...
22:43I'm finished business.
22:44Exactly.
22:45But now it's getting
22:47real pushy.
22:48It's getting
22:49to the point
22:50where she told me, like,
22:51if you don't do it,
22:52I'm moving out.
22:53And I come home
22:54and she gone.
22:56Well, at the end of the day,
22:57like, new doors
22:58is opening and stuff.
23:00You know what I'm saying?
23:01So, like,
23:02you gotta close that chapter.
23:06I did have a conversation
23:07with Marlee
23:08a little bit before this.
23:10I want to know
23:11what's going on.
23:12I love her.
23:13But it's, like,
23:15she's not divorced.
23:17She needs to make
23:18the decision
23:18and stop playing.
23:20Right.
23:21We've been together
23:21for too many damn years
23:23to still be playing this.
23:24Right.
23:25Girlfriend card.
23:27I gave her an ultimatum.
23:29Do you want to go on
23:30with this for real
23:31or do you want to live
23:32this fairytale life?
23:33I'm willing to get a divorce.
23:35I told her that verbally,
23:36but she's not taking that word.
23:38She's ready for action,
23:39like,
23:40you do this
23:41or you do this.
23:42Like,
23:42I don't know.
23:42It just seemed, like,
23:44bossy a little bit to me.
23:47Maybe she's trying
23:47to show you, like...
23:49Don't show me.
23:50This is not school.
23:51But you're not showing her neither.
23:53She definitely needs
23:54to figure that out
23:55if she wants to move forward
23:57with anybody
23:58because
23:59everybody's not gonna
24:00want to deal
24:01with that situation.
24:02And she's definitely
24:03gonna have to figure that out
24:04if she want to move forward
24:05with me.
24:06Well, why you have to do
24:07the disappearing act
24:08on her, though?
24:10And raise her blood pressure
24:11like that?
24:12But I kind of needed
24:12a clear space.
24:14I needed to think.
24:15I needed to get my mind right.
24:17But what if she's not ready
24:18to let go of her past?
24:20Clearly, it's something
24:21that's keeping her
24:22from doing it.
24:23It's love there
24:24for both of them,
24:25like, really,
24:27deeply.
24:27It's like,
24:29I feel pulled
24:30for real, for real.
24:31But I feel like
24:32you need to close
24:33that chapter.
24:35It's hard.
24:38Divorce time.
24:39If you're not
24:40with divorce time,
24:41then you can't
24:42have my time.
24:43There's no way
24:44on moving forward
24:45with somebody
24:45who is married
24:46to somebody else.
24:47We gotta figure
24:47this thing out
24:48because I want both of y'all.
24:50So what is it gonna take?
24:51Until she presents
24:52paperwork,
24:54there's nothing
24:54we need to talk about.
24:59Coming up...
25:00You have never
25:02affected me
25:02or our relationship.
25:04I was inside,
25:05no doubt.
25:05And I really can't
25:06afford to lose her
25:07at this point.
25:07She's everything I got.
25:09Let me take you
25:09to a real party, baby.
25:12Go.
25:12Go.
25:13Come on.
25:14Oh, okay.
25:15See you later.
25:15All right.
25:26Man, I'm excited
25:27about this.
25:28I am still
25:30kind of interested
25:31as to what
25:31in the hell
25:32you even have
25:33in store
25:33or what this place is.
25:35I've been here
25:35once before.
25:36I think you'll find
25:36some pretty cool stuff.
25:38My fiance's husband
25:39is taking us
25:40shopping to find
25:41her an engagement gift.
25:53There's so many
25:54odd things in here.
25:57I've got a good idea
25:59of, like,
25:59what Becca likes
26:00whenever it comes
26:01to, like, oddities
26:02and knick-knacks
26:03and stuff,
26:04so I'm sure
26:05we can find
26:05a really good
26:06little gift.
26:08I wouldn't get
26:09Becca anything
26:09from here,
26:10but it's right up
26:11Jacob's alley.
26:12I feel like
26:13I've always been
26:14drawn to the weird
26:16and the wild,
26:17just real oddball stuff.
26:20Davis and I bonding
26:21is definitely
26:21something that
26:22Becca wants,
26:24especially with
26:25their engagement
26:25and thinking about
26:27how we're going
26:28to spend so much
26:29time together,
26:29potentially for
26:30the rest of our lives.
26:31Yeah, these butterflies
26:32are really nice.
26:33I'm sure for her
26:34she would really like that.
26:35It might be a good one.
26:36Or the bat, even.
26:37Well, I don't think
26:38she'll want
26:38a taxidermied animal.
26:40Considering, like,
26:41you know, Jacob's interest,
26:41I genuinely can say
26:43I never thought
26:44I'd be actually
26:45sharing a bed
26:45with this guy.
26:46Are these
26:47ethically sourced
26:49like animals?
26:50Yes, all of our
26:51specimens we have here
26:52are ethically sourced,
26:54died of natural causes.
26:55Awesome.
26:56That's what I thought.
26:58I know we have
26:59our differences
27:00and sometimes I get
27:02a little scared
27:03of, like, creating
27:05conflict, you know,
27:06especially with
27:06your relationship
27:07with Becca.
27:08You know, I'm always
27:09a little bit afraid
27:10of, you know,
27:11butting heads
27:12and sometimes I feel
27:13like it keeps us
27:13from kind of bonding
27:15in that way
27:15or at least
27:16I may feel that way.
27:17I don't know about you.
27:18Possibly.
27:18I mean, you know,
27:19like the stakes are high,
27:20right, whenever it comes
27:21to Becca.
27:22Like, we're both
27:23with her, you know,
27:24and we plan on being
27:25with her forever.
27:27You know what I mean?
27:28And so, like,
27:29building a friendship
27:30with you hasn't necessarily
27:31been the forefront
27:32of my mind, right?
27:34My relationship
27:35with Becca is separate
27:37from Jacob's relationship
27:38with Becca,
27:39even though we share
27:40a partner, essentially.
27:41But an outside relationship
27:43we don't really have
27:45outside of Becca.
27:46You know, whenever you
27:47ask me to come hang out,
27:48I thought it might be
27:49a little awkward,
27:50but, you know,
27:51this might be the
27:52second longest conversation
27:54we've ever had.
27:55When you put it
27:55in that perspective,
27:56it makes me feel like,
27:57you know,
27:58maybe we could do
27:58a little bit more.
27:59Yeah.
28:00Next time we hang out,
28:01you know,
28:02we'll do something
28:02that you want to do.
28:03I would absolutely
28:04be down to go
28:05to a sports game.
28:06I know Becca doesn't
28:07100% love that,
28:08even though she would
28:08probably go just
28:09to be with, like, me.
28:11I like Davis.
28:12I also see how good
28:14of a partner he is
28:15to Becca,
28:15and that helps me
28:17strive to be
28:18a better partner
28:19and husband myself.
28:21Here's a little...
28:22Smaller?
28:22There's a little
28:24groomsman troll
28:25and a bride troll.
28:27I love this.
28:29Let's do it.
28:29All right.
28:30Let's do it.
28:31Nice.
28:31Bring us up.
28:32All set?
28:34All right.
28:35What do you think?
28:36Oh, they're perfect.
28:36Do you look like us?
28:37Me and Davis?
28:38Yes.
28:39I love it.
28:39Yes.
28:40It's amazing.
28:41Excellent.
28:41It's perfect.
28:42Thanks for listening
28:43to us talk so long.
28:44Of course.
28:45That was fun.
28:46I felt like I shouldn't
28:47have been listening.
28:49You know,
28:50even though I just
28:50got engaged to Becca,
28:51I think that
28:52I still want to foster
28:54any kind of
28:55organic connection
28:56that may come
28:57its way to me.
28:58And how long
28:58have you guys been here?
28:59We have been here
29:00six years now
29:01this past July.
29:03That's awesome.
29:03I am open to dating.
29:04I do think there is
29:05a ceiling in regards
29:06to, you know,
29:07how many engagements,
29:08how many partners
29:08you can or one can have,
29:10but I haven't necessarily
29:12reached that yet.
29:13I'm definitely going
29:14to come see you guys
29:15over at your place.
29:16Oh, you should,
29:17for sure.
29:17Yeah, come get tattooed.
29:18Just get a little something.
29:37That's why you my baby.
29:42As you guys all know
29:43that Bri have moved away.
29:45So I reloaded.
29:47I'm going to be in here
29:47with seven girls.
29:48Cash flow.
29:49I'm going to need it on time.
29:51Cash flow.
29:51I'm going to need it on time.
29:53Call all them bitches up.
29:56One by one.
29:57You look good.
29:58There you go.
29:59There you go.
30:00There you go.
30:01You look good.
30:02With your eyes.
30:03Of course, you know,
30:04I had to invite Dri.
30:05Bringing her back
30:06to the scene of the crime.
30:08I look sexy.
30:09This to the back.
30:11I like Dri because
30:13Dri likes me.
30:14It's just how she moves.
30:16Like, she cool.
30:17How you feeling
30:17about this here situation?
30:19It is what it is.
30:20People come and go,
30:22you know.
30:22I just want them
30:24to be back on their
30:25good terms,
30:26you know what I'm saying?
30:27Well, we just
30:28kind of see what happens
30:29in the future.
30:30What the future hold, Dri?
30:32Us.
30:34Let me,
30:34let me just kind of
30:35be devil's advocate here.
30:37Dri is not open to it.
30:40She can't make
30:41no decisions for me.
30:42I'm in whether or not
30:43Dri come back or not.
30:44As long as we stay
30:45on the same page
30:46and turn the chapters
30:47together, we good.
30:50I'm just trying to
30:51piece it all together.
30:53That's it.
30:53In polyamory,
30:54there's never just
30:55a fight between two people.
30:58Dri is a problem
30:59for the entire polycule.
31:01She could
31:01the whole thing up.
31:03All right, y'all.
31:04Let's make a toast
31:04right now
31:05to new beginnings.
31:06To new beginnings.
31:08To me too.
31:11Let's go.
31:13This is good vibes.
31:15Like, I like this.
31:16House full of women.
31:17Where can we go wrong?
31:30Coming up.
31:31So you don't tell me
31:32what this is.
31:33I'm livid.
31:34There's no excuse.
31:35It's your picture
31:36and read all the
31:36comments on it.
31:37I knew this
31:38it was coming.
31:40Let me take you
31:41to a real party
31:42that get up
31:43off this whack-ass
31:44she not.
31:45Don't play with me.
31:46I'll pour this drink
31:46on both of y'all.
31:47Watch.
31:47I'm just being
31:49tugged
31:49between the two.
31:50Go.
31:50Come on.
31:55Daddy.
31:57I need bolt cutters.
31:58I need the chain
31:59to be cut.
32:00Tonight,
32:01currently,
32:02I'm in the doghouse.
32:03But hopefully,
32:04by the end of this,
32:05things will be different.
32:07Do we have bolt cutters?
32:09No,
32:10I could,
32:10I don't know
32:11if I could either
32:12figure out how to cut.
32:13Like, chain,
32:14I don't know.
32:14We definitely need
32:15bolt cutters.
32:17After
32:18a bit of a rough patch
32:20and her emotional
32:21connection with Lee,
32:22I need to ask
32:23for a date night,
32:23which I love
32:25because we don't
32:25get that very often.
32:26We don't get to have
32:27time just for a night.
32:30And I'm sure
32:31she has some fun
32:31things planned,
32:32which is always
32:33exciting for me.
32:34I love that.
32:35Hey,
32:36are you guys
32:37good up there?
32:37So, like,
32:38from here
32:39to the bed,
32:40which would be,
32:40like, right there.
32:42And then,
32:42yeah,
32:43so, yeah,
32:44basically in half
32:44almost,
32:45yeah.
32:45This night has
32:46to be really special,
32:47like Romeo and Juliet
32:48type shit.
32:49This is where
32:49the magic happens.
32:52Help is dramatic.
32:52I want it to happen
32:53like it does
32:53in the movies.
32:56It'd be, like,
32:57super not sexy
32:57if I dropped her.
32:58That would not be good.
33:02I think I just
33:03saw my husband
33:03walk outside
33:04with chains.
33:08Glass,
33:09glass is always
33:09best policy.
33:14The base of it
33:15doesn't fit
33:15in my strap,
33:16so we have
33:17to improv something.
33:18Date night
33:18was supposed
33:19to start
33:2130 minutes ago.
33:24Success.
33:28You're amazing.
33:29You're so sexy
33:30right now.
33:31Yes.
33:32This is taking
33:33forever.
33:36I believe
33:37she's trying
33:38to do something
33:38special.
33:40It would be
33:40really good
33:41to connect.
33:42What's really,
33:42really interesting
33:43about her and I
33:44is we communicate
33:45best through intimacy.
33:48This should get me
33:48out of the doghouse.
33:49Like, we're just
33:50missing when we're
33:51talking,
33:51and when her and I
33:53have sex for some
33:54reason,
33:54we completely
33:55understand each other.
33:56One, two, three,
33:57on your mark,
33:57it's a go.
33:59Oh, man.
34:00But we're successful.
34:06Well, well.
34:08Let's speak to the
34:09very hard work
34:10I've been doing.
34:11I'm excited.
34:12Are you?
34:12Do you see me
34:13over my nose?
34:15Okay.
34:16I know many of you,
34:17you're not going to
34:18understand this.
34:19I wouldn't have
34:20understood this.
34:21I don't want to
34:21mess up your lashes,
34:22okay?
34:22I think you have
34:23to experience some
34:24things to even have
34:25an opinion about
34:26something.
34:27Believe me,
34:29I mean, like,
34:29this is something
34:31that's beautiful
34:31and amazing,
34:32and I wouldn't
34:33have known that.
34:34Oh, my Lord.
34:36That's beautiful.
34:39I love you.
34:40I apologize.
34:42Will you forgive me?
34:44Please forgive me.
34:44No, I don't want to.
34:45Stop.
34:45Please forgive me.
34:47Okay.
34:47So I'm done?
34:48Sex, mostly,
34:49and mostly more sex,
34:50and mostly more sex.
34:51That's what it looks
34:53like.
34:53That's amazing.
34:55And makeup sex
34:56is always the best,
34:57right?
34:59Okay, go.
35:00Okay.
35:02Let's get to my life.
35:04No, f***.
35:05Bye.
35:12Hey.
35:16Everybody say
35:17hi tonight.
35:18Yeah.
35:18What the f***
35:20going on in this,
35:21bitch-ass,
35:22mother f***.
35:24When Brie walked
35:25through that door,
35:26whole energy
35:27just went left.
35:28It's got five
35:29weak-ass bitches
35:30in this,
35:31mother f***.
35:31Hey!
35:33Oh!
35:33Oh!
35:34Oh!
35:34Oh!
35:34Oh!
35:34Oh!
35:35Oh!
35:35Oh!
35:36Oh!
35:42Oh!
35:43Oh!
35:43Once I see Drew,
35:44I'm just annoyed
35:46off-
35:46bat,
35:46off-
35:47top.
35:47Why you over here?
35:48Don't you live
35:49in a pool house?
35:50Marley's f***ing super f******
35:51obvious,
35:52like,
35:52that she's trying
35:53to get under my skin.
35:54I came to party
35:55with this weak-ass party.
35:57I came to turn to up.
35:58I was weak.
35:59It looked a little dry.
36:00We got soda,
36:01we got chips,
36:02we got Erdoings.
36:04Missing pizza.
36:06I thought we were p The Alley.
36:07We are, you don't want to exclude it yourself.
36:10I can see the tension and the boiliness coming off of Brie.
36:13I see the steam off of Brie's shoulders.
36:15This ain't no poly-cool, this is over.
36:18This was your poly-cool and you left it, bye.
36:21I really don't care for bum-ass .
36:24This is some stupid .
36:28Why the are you doing my house like that?
36:30This crazy-ass girl done turned into The Exorcist,
36:35do you understand?
36:35And she started throwing chips.
36:37What is wrong with her?
36:39Ain't we poly?
36:40Go back to your pool house.
36:42You probably need some crackers and cheese for these hoes.
36:46I don't know you.
36:47But let me take you to a real party, baby.
36:52Get up off this wack-ass .
36:55She not, don't play with me.
36:56I'll pour this drink on both of y'all, watch.
36:58I'm just being tugged between the two
37:00like I'm a tug of war rope.
37:02Come on, go, go, come on.
37:04Get that way.
37:05Go, stop playing with me.
37:06Go.
37:07We're poly, right?
37:08Go, come on, slide.
37:10If you want to talk to me like a woman, then do that, slide.
37:12We're poly, right?
37:13Come on, poly, yeah.
37:14Okay.
37:14See you later.
37:15All right.
37:17Cue the music.
37:18Hey, our poly will never function with just one of us.
37:21It's either both of us or it's no poly at all.
37:24Let's go, y'all.
37:25Let's go nuts.
37:26Hey, straight lane .
37:28We have to find a way to get us back on track and fast.
37:50The last time I saw Tamina was at the strip club,
37:54which almost was a good time, but it ended up becoming
37:58the show after.
37:59Angel, come here, Angel.
38:00Come here.
38:01Come here.
38:02Come.
38:03Come here.
38:13Hi.
38:14Hi.
38:15Oh, rocker?
38:17Yeah.
38:18What's wrong with that?
38:19Crazy.
38:20That's .
38:21See that club one?
38:23You were supposed to be at the gym.
38:26First of all, I'm not-
38:27I have every right to know where my fiancee is,
38:29and you're lying about it, so I-
38:30Not like that.
38:31Yeah, I do.
38:31That's not what's happening.
38:33That is what's happening.
38:33How about you are my fiancee, and you clean the house?
38:36I'm sorry, maybe he could stop and pay more attention
38:39to your family, and then maybe I will clean the house.
38:43It's a mess, yeah.
38:44This is all my stuff.
38:45You care.
38:46You're not home.
38:47You think that your house is going to stay
38:49when you're not taking care of what's yours,
38:52you're taking care of what someone else is?
38:53Who?
38:54Yeah, the house is a mess.
38:55Because I have my person here, he's out there,
38:59having a relationship with everyone else.
39:01Since I met up with Jackie, and I saw these social media
39:06posts about BQ, I'm livid.
39:10I'm , like, there's no excuse.
39:13So you're gonna tell me what this is.
39:15You wanna tell me what this is?
39:18It's in a Facebook group that says we dating the same guy
39:23in Long Island, and it's your picture,
39:25and read all the comments on it.
39:27This just happened.
39:28Like, you've been home.
39:29This is old .
39:30How is this old ?
39:31I know about these posts.
39:33I seen them for a little while.
39:35I knew it was coming.
39:37I knew it was coming.
39:39You wanna explain why your face is being posted
39:41in a are we dating the same guy website?
39:44Huh?
39:45This is all after you came home.
39:47I knew this was coming.
39:50Long story short, I stepped out of the relationship for a year.
39:53I went on a couple of dating sites.
39:54It was literally, like, Uber for girls.
39:57You know what I'm saying?
39:58I'm like, this is easy.
40:00I'm like, I could swipe right and night.
40:02I have people posting your picture on a on Facebook
40:06with over 100,000 people.
40:09You know how mortifying that is?
40:10And the nerve of you to me that you're doing the right thing.
40:14Bull .
40:14When I talk my way out of, like, one girl cheating, yeah.
40:18Maybe, like, two girls.
40:19But, dude, I'll form of women.
40:22I'm like, uh, no, I'm going to take the on this one.
40:25I need you.
40:26You need you.
40:28You've been cheating on me before any of this.
40:31You never stopped.
40:33You have never expected me or our relationship in eight years.
40:39And you're still lying to my .
40:44I'm .
40:45It's like the Incredible Hulk was coming out, dude.
40:47It was over for me.
40:48Like, listen, I was outside, no doubt.
40:51No doubt.
40:51Of course you can own up to it now.
40:53Of course, I was outside.
40:54What about therapy?
40:55I don't think you're in any position to say anything
40:58right now, but yes, or I'm leaving.
41:00That's it.
41:01There's no no.
41:05I don't know.
41:06Listen, I'll about the therapy.
41:08But as long as you're get over the .
41:10I'll get over it if I get over it.
41:13You know, I know I'm no catch.
41:14I know, listen, you could probably get any in the world
41:16that you want.
41:18Understandable.
41:18Listen, I never thought that you couldn't.
41:21She's like my life.
41:22That's all I know.
41:23I've known her for eight years.
41:24She's my best friend.
41:25She's my partner.
41:26She's my lover.
41:27She's my business partner.
41:28And that's all I really know.
41:30And I really can't afford to lose her at this point.
41:32She's everything I got.
41:34And I love her, like, with all my heart.
41:38I know there's a lot of damage that I did in this relationship.
41:41And listen, it's going to be a long way out of the hole
41:44that I've caused us to be in.
41:45But I would like to try to at least fix it before it's too late.
41:48We can do the therapy thing and try to work on us
41:50and just see where that goes.
41:52That's what I've been saying.
41:54Let's do therapy.
41:55And you keep saying you got to think about it.
41:57So it's therapy, or I'm out.
42:03OK.
42:04Well, then it looks like I'm going to have to choose the therapy
42:07because, honestly, I don't want to lose you.
42:09If my options are losing her or therapy,
42:11I'm going to therapy.
42:15I up, man.
42:16I always up.
42:17But I just don't want to continue to up.
42:19And I just hope that the therapy makes things a little better.
42:23Yeah, me too.
42:24Me too.
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